You see someone and how they are to you, or how they behave, their actions, their lifestyle is somewhat visible… so a preconception is formed about them too, of how their life is. But what we aren’t able to see in all these ups, are their downs, we don’t see their problems. Which only forms an incomplete picture of them in our heads.
An individual may be struggling in their life, not being about to solve their problems, but most bear their problems on their own. They don’t go boasting about it or advertising about it. But they do exist. On the other hand, every achievement/ every good thing, every up is shared with their people because, for whatever reason, they get the push to do more, they get a pat on the back/ appreciation/ recognition, which is then visible to others.
Now because we don’t see someone else’s problems, we see only one side of their life and thus aspire to be like them, or want to live like them… which then becomes our problem. False aspirations take away the good from their own life, from the path they’re walking on, and everything they want to do. Trying to replicate their life not only brings the good but brings the problems surrounding those good things too. This then leads to a realisation that a particular aspect of someone’s life may be motivating and can be added to our lifestyle, but without knowing the whole picture, it seems like a half-baked idea to aspire their entire life, or to want a life like someone.
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