A 610 Day Break and Back to the Theatres

A 610 Day Break and Back to the Theatres

To watch hundreds and thousands of films, to be interested in all kinds of genres, to be constantly updated with all the news around the sector, and moreover, to analyze every film (not just as a watcher) – but in depths from the writers’ point of view, the director’s point of view, the actors’ point of view, amongst all of this, I definitely consider myself a movie animal.

Every now and then, a film excites me to a point where I have to rush to the theatres to give it a watch, and that process has now expedited with the rise of the OTT platforms. But then again, the experience of watching a film in the theatre is always going to be different and special.

That process was unfortunately halted because of the pandemic, and in the midst of all the lockdowns, everyone flocked to their screens to watch all the content. And now, in October 2021, when finally things seem to feel better in a long long time, everything starts to relax in the outer environment and the cinemas reopen too.

As excited as I am with that news, my first instinct was to check everything that is released and also count the number of days when I last visited a theatre. That count came to an even 610 days.

The date is October 22, 2021. The theatres reopen. The films are back on the big screen. With all the bookings made, we make an extravagant plan, to not watch one, not two, but three films on the same day to mark our return.

With a number of great films that we waited to watch, here we are now in the queue to watch Venom 2: Let There Be Carnage on the IMAX screen. The excitement is at a high, with all the promos coming along and there the film begins.

With a few unfortunate situations that occurred from the particular theatre, we were determined to make this a grand day, irrespective of the hindrances that fall along our way.

Here Venom 2 ends, and with a few hiccups, we are next in line to watch Shang Chi: The Legend of the Ten Rings (one has to stay updated with the Marvel Cinematic Universe) and to end our day with Daniel Craig’s last outing as Bond, No Time to Die.

In all a 15 hour process, more or less, from the start to then getting back… A memorable day indeed, having watched some great films on this comeback day and now sitting the next day, writing their reviews. The only thing that awaits is that next big release and to then return to the place I love, the theatres.

Finding time to understand yourself

Finding time to understand yourself

How busy do we make our lives, especially with work, to say that we don’t have time for ourselves?

By not having time for ourselves, doesn’t mean not having time to relax or to eat or to escape (some people don’t make time for that too, but that’s a different topic altogether…), but not having time to understand yourself.

We focus on one particular area of life and we say that this is the area we have to grow in, invest all our time there and when the results come and when we are satisfied (which we never will be), then we’ll focus on our personal lives as well.

But the thing about understanding ourselves is more about self awareness about ourself. Understanding what we truly want, and in which area of life, where do we want to invest our time, what type of returns do we want to see.

The more we understand ourselves, the better our relationship becomes with ourselves, with others, the better we’ll be able to balance the personal and professional aspect of our lives.

All that happens with the most important decision any individual can ever take… To take some time to understand themselves (rather than to simply go with the flow or to follow the societal constructs and to let everything happen to you)

RTHReviews: Only Murders in the Building

RTHReviews: Only Murders in the Building

Quirky, comical, and fun is how I’d describe this show.

But what is Only Murders in the Building about?

Here’s the synopsis:

Three strangers share an obsession with true crime and suddenly find themselves wrapped up in one. When a grisly death occurs inside their exclusive Upper West Side apartment building, the trio suspects murder and employs their precise knowledge of true crime to investigate the truth.

Steve Martin, Martin Short, and Selena Gomez, the trio are beyond fabulous, their chemistry is definitely the highlight of the show… And Steve’s and Martin’s comical timing (even in the most unexpected of places) is so much fun to watch.

There was a podcast that was running alongside the show’s episodes, where they highlighted the behind-the-scenes process and focused on the writers etc, and it was intriguing to see the amount of work that was put in, considering it’s not just a comedy show, there’s the murder mystery aspect as well (the central point of the show).

The balance between the mystery and the comedy is, I guess, the key to why everyone’s raving about the show.

There are twists and turns, the comedy and the constant hunt for the clues make the show such a fabulous watch and a great mood booster as well.

If you have heard about it, or if you haven’t either way, you should definitely give this a watch. Meanwhile, awaiting season 2.

The vibes of your environment

The vibes of your environment

The balance of our day to day and our macro lives hang between our emotions and how we manage through them. Our emotions form from our thoughts and our thoughts emerge from what we absorb and consume.

What we consume depends on the type of environment that is around us.

The environment further gets divided into your internal and external environment, with your internal environment being what you personally consume for your mind and for your body.

But, today we focus on the external environment and the vibes that we get from it.

Why is it said that you’re a sum total of the five people you surround yourself with, is simply because you subconsciously pick up the tiniest of their behaviors, their values and their traits and you start imitating them without knowing how.

Every single thing that immediately happens around you, affects you. Whether this is a positive environment or a negative environment or maybe even a toxic environment, it all gets to you eventually.

The vibes that you pick up from your external environment is going to have an effect on your day to day, on your thoughts, on your emotions, on how you act and behave, on your decisions, on your macro life as well.

Sometimes you understand your environment and you make a stance to act differently, but there’s only so much you can control, especially when you are in an environment you don’t necessarily agree with.

Those are the times when a hard call is made, with respect to your environment and you choose whether to let it be a part of your life or not.

Change doesn’t happen from 0 to 1

Change doesn’t happen from 0 to 1

How many times can you recollect changing something about yourself? Could be some aspect of your life, could be a minor thing or a major thing.

How many times have you thought it’s taking too long? Or you might have thought that the results aren’t appearing at all?

We sometimes feel that we are the same even after putting in a ton of efforts.

It is because our primary focus is to see that change happen from 0 to 1, and we can’t wait to see that 1 and be joyous about it.

But, in all those thoughts, we forget that change doesn’t happen from 0 to 1.

The process isn’t so easy, the results don’t come so soon, and it takes a lot of time and patience too.

However, the biggest factor that we have to realize in all of this is… Change occurs from 0 to 0.1 to 0.2 and so on.

When you’re on that path of change, we have to focus on the smallest of wins, and those wins are the tiniest of things you have acknowledged, learnt, implemented, experimented with and will now see the outcome of it too.

That is the real change, when you are in the process, when you notice how you rose from 0 to 0.1 and you notice the fruits of your efforts, knowing the fact that it’s going to take a while to reach that 1.

So much we don’t know

So much we don’t know

Right from the beginning to our schools and colleges, from people around us to the internet, we have been constantly learning something.

Every sort of learning that occurs moulds us into something more, every day.

Some part of that learning was conscious, some subconscious. Some of that learning happened willingly and some forceful or through associativity.

And with every learning that happens, we feel we know so much… We make our decisions based on that learning and based on what’s good for us (which is again derived from that learning).

But, it’s only when you want to know more, when you open your eyes, do you realize that there’s so much we don’t know.

In comparison to what we know, there must be 99.99% more things that we don’t know. It is at that point when there’s also a realization of how little understanding do we have of things, how inexperienced we are in most things, and how much more we could be if we know more… Only if we take the effort to know more.

That realization leads to that learning, in order to grow and evolve, as an individual we must constantly focus on learning. Learning in every sector of our lives, learning the depths of mostly everything that we find interesting.

The more we learn, the more we’ll understand things around us, the more we’ll understand reality in general and ultimately everything that we do will have an impact on everything else eventually.

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The Last 7 Days #84 (11.10 – 17.10)

With another Sunday, here’s the 84th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. What is the gut-brain axis? An exploration of the communication pathways between the brain, the gut, and the microbiota. Read more here.
  2. Squid Game‘ and the ‘untranslatable’: The debate around subtitles explained here.
  3. 6 microaggressions to avoid around women. Check it out here.
  4. How to Stay on Schedule Even When You Go Off Track? Read here.
  5. The growing pains of Apple’s subscription addiction. Read more here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella joins Kara Swisher for a discussion on ransomware, remote work, and dealing with the Trump administration. Listen on the Pivot podcast here.
  2. On Blockchain and Booze, Alon Goren chats with Noah Davis of Christie’s, Gary Vaynerchuk of VaynerX, and Joe Vezzani of LunarCRUSH about building and empowering your community with NFTs. Check it out here.
  3. On Today, Explained podcast, how Squid Game won Netflix and whether the show’s message is being lost in the shuffle. Listen here.
  4. Melissa McCarthy [Bridesmaids, Mike & Molly, Saturday Night Live] talks with Brie Larson and Jessie Ennis on Learning Lots about regret, the things we regret, and why. Listen to it here.
  5. On Conan O’Brien Needs a Friend, Jake Gyllenhaal sits down with Conan to talk about kindness in entertainment, shooting his new film The Guilty on a contained set, and why performance is so integral in maintaining mental health. Check it out here.

What To Watch:

  1. Taapsee Pannu talks on online trolling and how she deals with it, the business mindset & her unstoppable drive to make it on her own, on The Ranveer Show. Watch it here.
  2. On the Yes Theory channel, Eric and Thomas head to a country in Eastern Europe that doesn’t exist that calls itself Transnistria.. Considered dangerous to travel to by some familiar with the region.. They decided to travel there without any itinerary and see what they find. Watch here.
  3. Why people are reviving 3000-year-old cacao traditions in Guatemala? Check it out here.
  4. Former FBI Agent and body language expert Joe Navarro breaks down body language pet peeves. Watch it here.
  5. TV Show Recommendation of the Week – Marvel’s What If (Reimagining noteworthy events in the Marvel Cinematic Universe and creating a multiverse of infinite possibilities.) Now streaming on Hotstar here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #29 (10.10 – 16.10)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. Among painters, poets, writers, actors, bloggers, directors, influencers, capitalists, fundraisers, politicians and singers, you’ll find a few who want to go all the way to superfamous.
They understand that their work won’t reach every single human, it can’t. They’re okay with that. But they’d like to reach just a few more people than anyone else.

Back when the New York Times bestseller list mattered, they worked to be on it. Not just on it, but on top of it.

Back when 100,000 followers were seen as a lot on Twitter, they hustled to be in the top spot. And when it got to a million, then that was the new goal.

Pop albums used to sell millions of copies. Now they sell in the tens of thousands. But one more than just about anyone else is enough (for now).

The desire to be superfamous might come from a good place. The work is important, it deserves to be seen by more people. The work is arduous, and reaching more people with it feels appropriate. The work is measurable, and measuring better is a symptom of good work.

Or the desire might come from the same drive that pushes people to do the work in the first place. Bigger is better, after all.

The problems with superfamous are varied and persistent.

First, it corrupts the work. By ignoring the smallest viable audience and focusing on mass, the creator gives up the focus that can create important work.

Second, the infinity of more can become a gaping hole. Instead of finding solace and a foundation for better work, the bottomless pit of just a little more quickly ceases to be fuel and becomes a burden instead.

Trust is worth more than attention, and the purpose of the work is to create meaningful change, not to be on a list. [Seth Godin]

2. The 10 goods of rice, by Rujuta Divekar

A. Rice is a pre-biotic, it feeds not just you but the diverse ecosystem of microbes within you.
B. Hand milled, single polished rice can be cooked in versatile ways from kanji to kheer and everything in between
C. Leads to steady blood sugar response when you eat like the way Indians eat it – with pulses, dahi, kadhi, legumes, ghee even meat.
D. Easy to digest and light on the stomach. Leads to restorative sleep which further leads to better hormonal balance. Especially required in the ageing and the very young.
E. Great for skin, gets rid of enlarged pores that come with high prolactin levels.
F. Sustains and improves hair growth that an impaired thyroid may have damaged.
G. Rice growing communities tend to be more co-operative and gender equal.
H. Every part of rice is usable, bran fed to cattle.
I. Leaves behind adequate moisture in soil to grow pulses which then enrich the soil
further by working as natural nitrogen fixtures.
J. Grandmom approved – local, seasonal, belongs to your food heritage. Sustains
health, economy, ecology, PURE GOLD. [Rujuta Diwekar]

3. The secret to being productive is to work on the right thing—even if it’s at a slow pace. [James Clear]

4. Politician and Noble Peace Prize winner Aung San Suu Kyi on corruption:
“It is not power that corrupts but fear. Fear of losing power corrupts those who wield it and fear of the scourge of power corrupts those who are subject to it.”

Source: From her speech, “Freedom from Fear” [via James Clear’s newsletter]

5. Children’s dislike of cauliflower and broccoli is connected to the concentration of enzymes produced by bacteria in their saliva. The more of an enzyme called cysteine lyases their mouths produce, the more sulphurous brassicas will taste, according to research published in the Journal of Agricultural and Food Chemistry. [8fact]

Are you only thinking about yourself?

Are you only thinking about yourself?

There are two types of scenarios, single-person scenarios where only you get affected, and multiple-person scenarios where either both the parties or they or you affected.

In most cases, we think about ourselves, as it should be, you should be the first priority for yourself. Is something affecting you negatively or are you doing something unwillingly? In scenarios like those, it should always be you first (whether it is pointing something out or creating those boundaries).

Always self first, your emotions first, your feelings first…

But the question, ‘Are you only thinking about yourself?’ becomes a problem too.

Whilst you put yourself first, the problem begins right there in that question itself, Are you *only* thinking about yourself. We prioritize ourselves first, but we often forget about the other person in the equation.

Whilst we should say what we feel, and whilst we should create boundaries that protect us, we must also keep the other person in mind and how you’re conveying to them what you’re conveying and how it’d make them feel after.

Yes, easier said than done, as is the case for most things that will make us better in the short and long run, and this is one of those things, when even in the heat of the moment, we must practice to not only think about ourselves… But to understand what the other person is trying to convey, the meaning of it irrespective of their approach, and then ultimately, how your words and actions will impact them.

Then the question becomes, Are you then ready to take the responsibility of thinking for yourself and for others?

Only when you look closely

Only when you look closely

When you carefully look at everything that is shared and spoken, you realize how all of it is different to each individual, maybe the crux of it could be relatable but every person has their own point of view, their perspective of looking at things, their own approach to the topic, moreover their added experience along with their mistakes and their learning. And these are just some of the factors to mention.

It’s only when you go in-depth, and when you carefully observe, and when you truly want to learn, is when you learn to understand the differences and what can you take away and use to your advantage.

So, the next time you reach a stage where you feel, have I learned enough and is there more to learn, look closely because there always is.

Unpublished drafts

Unpublished drafts

When it comes to writing, sometimes you’re stuck without the first word just thinking of an idea to strike, and sometimes there’s an influx of ideas and you simply create multiple drafts of those ideas.

The first thought is to write down the ideas first, and you can get to the writing part of it later.

Both those scenarios happen in a cycle from time to time, it’s not about one day, but it happens as often as you write.

Time behold, you realize that you’ve a number of such unpublished drafts that you have never attended to.

Here’s the catch… Those drafts remain unpublished because the content part of it is still missing, you simply have written just the idea part of it. As time passes, there’s a 50-50 chance that you remember the context of that idea.

The issue that I’ve faced multiple times is the following, once the time has passed, you just don’t get the same flow to complete one of those drafts as you felt when the idea emerged on the day of creating that draft.

And thus, the cycle of having these tens and hundreds of unpublished drafts continue… Maybe with a single option of weighing in more time and writing down the entire piece when the idea emerges rather than just the gist of it to complete later.

Doing it all in a rush vs Scheduling it in Slots

Doing it all in a rush vs Scheduling it in Slots

Everyday there’s a ton of things to do for every individual. Some things get done, some get postponed, and some never even make it to the list in the first place.

Now, not everyone’s good at time management. When the time comes to actually do any of those tasks, either of the two things may happen… Either you are able to manage your day properly and schedule your tasks accordingly or you go ticking every item off that list one after the other, just to complete every task and there’s a larger possibility of many of those items going unchecked.

What happens in the latter scenario is that you’re doing it all in a rush. In a rush where neither your time is managed nor your energy. Some things may take more time, some less, some require more energy or more attention, some less, but in either of the scenarios you’re rushing towards every task, without being present, without being available for yourself, and in no time will you realize that the day is over and you now have to hover through the next day’s tasks now.

But, there’s another option. One where you manage your time and you manage your energy. Here, you’re more present, and more available too. The approach here is to schedule your day in slots… And then allot your to-do things or your tasks in those slots. Every slot has a time range, when that time is approaching you now focus on that slot, and the set of things alloted in that slot and that alone.

For example, a self care slot, where you can focus on your reading, or meditating, or workout etc.

Another example could be, of a smaller slot, one which is only assigned to read your mails, and none of your other minutes are assigned for this task then.

Now you aren’t rushing nor are you disorganized. Everything is managed properly, everything is in order, and now you know what’s to be done when and for how long, without seeming like things are going out of order.

In a scenario where you’re doing it all in a rush vs scheduling everything in slots, which one do you think makes more sense now? Which one makes you more organized, more present, more in control of your time and your life?

Living for your Future Self

Living for your Future Self

When you look back at this day after a week, would you be satisfied?

When you look back at this month, after a year or two, would you be satisfied?

When you look back at the life you have lived, after 10 or 20 years, would you be satisfied with the life you have lived?

Some times, things in the micro, the tiniest of things may feel inexecutable, but you think of your future self and how glad you’d be that you overcame whatever (temporary) emotion you were facing then and you did what had to be done.

Some major decisions that need to be taken, that you were hesitant towards, but you think of your future self, and you think that my future self is definitely going to be glad that I made this decision for my life.

Micro or macro, we face moments in our life, time and again, when our past issues or present approach may hinder what we do, right in the moment or something that affects us long-term.

But introduce the concept of thinking for your future self and how you would feel looking back at this moment then. Sometimes you don’t make your decisions for yourself then, sometimes you make it for your future self.

So you overcome the feeling, the problem at hand, or anything else, and you do it, so it affects your future self positively or your future self would be glad you made that decision. And eventually, you, right now itself are glad to have that made that call and did whatever you had to do.

Here’s something else I wrote, that was on similar lines but completes the point that I was trying to make in this post…

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The Last 7 Days #83 (04.10 – 10.10)

With another Sunday, here’s the 83rd edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. In Real Life, Not All Interruptions Are Rude. Read the entire article here.
  2. Why do we work so hard? Read it here.
  3. A Harvard nutritionist and brain expert shares the 5 foods she eats every day to sharpen her memory and focus. Check it out here.
  4. What makes a good cup of coffee? Read here.
  5. Why is Sendha Namak consumed during Navratri fasts? Read more here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. On Pivot, Kara Swisher sits down with SpaceX CEO/Tesla Technoking Elon Musk for a discussion on China, rockets, Mars colonization, and more. Listen to it here.
  2. Rob Dyrdek, Founder & CEO of venture studio Dyrdek Machine, former professional skateboarder, and star of hit shows like Rob & Big and Ridiculousness, joins Sam and Shaan on My First Million Podcast to discuss how he transitioned from acting and athletics to venture capital and how he structures his many business interests and more. Check it out here.
  3. In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty discusses the three personality types that are common in most relationships and how to create a powerful relationship. Listen to what those types are here.
  4. On Awards Chatter, Nicolas Cage reflects on growing up Coppola, following ‘Leaving Las Vegas’ by going full Bruckheimer, why he now works constantly and what it’s like being “rediscovered” at 57. Listen here.
  5. Rahul Kohli discusses working with the writer and director Mike Flanagan, developing his character Sheriff Hassan and his iconic look and stance, the responsibility of playing that character, and his interpretation of that ending of Midnight Mass, on Just the Facts with Alex Zane. Check it out here, only if you’ve watched Midnight Mass.

What To Watch:

  1. Aston Martin Chief Creative Officer Marek Reichman talks about all the Aston Martin cars that appear in the James Bond movies. Marek talks about the popularity brought to the DB5 after Goldfinger, all the awesome gadgets they’ve fit into the cars throughout the years, and how the Aston Martin has grown with the Bond series. Check it out here.
  2. What happened in the first minutes after the dinosaurs disappeared? Watch it here.
  3. On Film Companion, Prajakta Koli discusses the craft of content creation, the responsibility of having that kind of influence, and navigating her new life as an actor. Watch here.
  4. TV Show Recommendation of the Week – Squid Game (Hundreds of cash-strapped contestants accept an invitation to compete in children’s games for a tempting prize, but the stakes are deadly.) Now streaming on Netflix here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Kaanekkaane (Dpt. Tahsildar Paul Mathai arrives in town for some court matters. He is welcomed by his son-in-law Allen. But when Paul is leaving Allen’s home, something catches his eye. There comes the shift in their lives…) Now streaming on SonyLIV here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #28 (03.10 – 09.10)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. Five words we misuse/overuse :
A. Happiness
Most people mistake pleasure for happiness. They think moments of heightened satisfaction mean they’re happy, when really, all it means is they’re satisfied. True happiness is fulfillment – finding things you care about so much you’re willing to sacrifice for them.

B. Love
People mistake affection and validation for love. They assume love is occurring when something is making them feel so good they can’t imagine doing something else. True love is determined by what you feel good about, even when you feel bad.

C. Need
We all overestimate what we need in the world. We need to do good in school. We need to make our friends happy. We need to see the new Netflix show.

We don’t need any of these things. Thousands of people have lived without much of what we believe we need.

D. Best
The idea of “best” is an arbitrary designation based on whatever values we choose to hold. The idea of best is the enemy of growth. There is no such thing as best. There is only “better.”

E. Friend
Stats show there’s a growing sense of loneliness in the world. Perhaps some of this is due to the unreasonably low bar we have for our friendships. A friend is not simply someone who is nice to you. A friend is someone who is willing to sacrifice something for you. [Mark Manson]

2. “I’m just being honest” is a poor excuse for being rude.
Candor is being forthcoming in what you say. Respect is being considerate in how you say it.

Being direct with the content of your feedback doesn’t prevent you from being thoughtful about the best way to deliver it. [Adam Grant]

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Source: lizandmollie on Twitter

4. Two men once needed to cross a sea.
One asked: ”Better to row or sail?”

The elder replied: ”Rowing will be quicker at first. But sailing will ultimately be faster and more enjoyable if we can align ourselves with the winds and currents.”

Don’t confuse motion with progress. [David Perell]

5. There is a difference between moving fast and rushing.
You can move fast and be thoughtful. When you rush, you sacrifice thoughtfulness.

Conversely, when you are thoughtful but not moving fast, you are overthinking it. Procrastination in disguise.

Don’t rush, but don’t wait. [James Clear]

Once you start writing…

Once you start writing…

How many times has it happened that you were constantly thinking of an idea and were just stuck at that point? You never started writing because of it.

How many times has it happened that you had an idea ready to write about but you were too lazy to start?

The issue lies in the start.

Once you start writing, the mind automatically starts flowing in that direction. Once you write down a few words, you fall into that zone of writing more.

The words now start flowing through you, you start going in to the depth of it.

Once you start, then there’s no reason to pause or to stop.

But that’s the problem in itself… We think of more reasons for not starting than to just open that document and start throwing around some words until it starts making sense to you.

The expectations of it, the pressure of it, the outcome of it, weighs you down so much that you’re not even willing to start in the first place.

However, just start writing, write down a few words at first, and eventually you’ll get rid of the writers block, ideas block, time block or anything that was supposedly creating that barrier.

The Thought Chain

The Thought Chain

Constantly studies are being conducted on this, but it is said that an individual has 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts in a day, a single day.

When you look upon this, it is imperative for every individual to figure out what they are thinking about, where those thoughts lead towards, and whether you should change the way you think or not.

Throwing more light upon the topic, not all of those thoughts fall under 60,000 separate topics, but rather fall under particular branches and go in depth of them.

Now, for a particular topic, one thought leads to another and another and goes deeper and deeper into that topic (also spending a certain amount of time on it).

Under such conditions, how you think, your process, what do you think about are important points to ponder upon, because in the macro, such thoughts are going to form your emotions, your actions will depend upon them, and ultimately your life will be based on all of that.

It all starts with your thoughts, one thought after another.

Lost in Translation

Lost in Translation

You want to say something, you have a certain thought on a particular topic and now your mind automatically starts translating that thought to words and you start saying it.

Most of the times, you say something exactly how you meant it and if you’re in luck, then it’s perceived in the same manner too.

Our perception of looking at things and someone else’s perspective of looking at things is going to be different, and there’s no denying that.

So when both the parties are on the same page, then it was well-communicated. But there are other times when what you thought of doesn’t get translated in the same manner.

The words got lost in translation.

Now, the individual at the other end isn’t going to receive this with how you intended it to be, but rather the output of it, and they aren’t wrong in doing that.

These are the times when the loss in translation hurts, and it then leads to one thing or the other.

How important communication is, how important words are, and how well can you explain what’s on your mind is all understood and learned in such situations. There on, it’s all practice and how you build yourself in these three categories.

Your Thoughts are your Enemies

Your Thoughts are your Enemies

Our brains are designed to think, a lot. Where do these thoughts originate from?

Through our sensory organs, every piece of information (not just digitally, but every little thing around us) that we consume gets recorded in our brain.

Then comes learning from association (what do people talk about, what topics are popular, what do people dislike, what gets a conversation going), and learning from self-interest (anything that you get curious about).

Now, because we know the basics of mostly everything, the second part that comes in is how the brain already knows what you’re going to do next or what you’re going to do in specific situations, that originates from every action to every response being a habit and the brain recognizes that.

So when these two overlap, the learning, and the response, therein comes the thoughts. The thoughts around a certain topic, the depth of which depends on one’s curiosity, the quality of which depends on one’s internal and external environment, the quantity depending on their mindfulness.

So, now that we have shed some light on the concept of thoughts, are they our friends or enemies?

Here comes three important pointers that will determine that
– the consumption
– the environment
– the mindfulness

Most of what we willingly consume and not subconsciously is something that is designed to hit certain emotions for an individual. Based on how it hits, that certain information will be grabbed by your brain accordingly.

Because of that, you now consume more than you can imagine… The reason being it’s fun, it’s exciting, it’s making you laugh, etc.

What you don’t realize is the logic and the application behind the emotion are also being consumed by you.

Now comes the environment, internal and external. Who have you surrounded yourself with, what information is being discussed with individuals and groups, how do they tackle their emotions, how do they tackle certain problems, what issues do they create in the first place, there are tens, if not hundreds of pointers of our external environment that thus affect our internal environment, until both have been polluted to a point we aren’t aware of.

The third point is a silver lining for some, but full of dark clouds for mostly all… Introducing the concept of mindfulness. For mostly all of our lives, we live by certain concepts and traditions and associations, which we don’t question, thus them becoming the same habits, generation by generation, for most of the people without anyone questioning anything. We aren’t present to what is happening now because of the past, and what will happen in the future because of the present.

When the worlds of consumption, environment and mindfulness collide, is when either your thoughts serve you or they don’t.

When you start dreaming of your
– fantasies,
– alternative what-if scenarios of the past,
– imagined scenarios of the future,
– a scenario being run from your perspective when you fail to see what’s actually happening,
– starting to feel that everything is wrong only with you, or
– starting to feel that everything wrong only happens to you,

Are some of the classic scenarios when your thoughts are your enemies, feeding you something that keeps you in a shell protected, away from reality and you not being in control.

In such a situation, you aren’t able to grasp the true reality, nor are you able to change things around… Unless you are out of the ‘matrix’.

Unless you decide that I’m going to be in control, I’m going to be mindful, I’m going to choose my thoughts, I’m going to start living life as I choose it to be.

All of this is a lot easier said than done, it takes ages to become self-aware of who you are and understanding the situation that you’re in, it takes time and a lot of patience to first deal with yourself, and later on, start with the process of change, to make your thoughts your friends again… And eventually make your life better.

How are you doing vs How are you doing today?

How are you doing vs How are you doing today?

A simple question that is often asked by mostly everyone, if not all is, “How are you doing?”

A question that is followed by a Hello or Hi before the real conversation begins. Sometimes the question shows care and compassion, but usually, it’s just part of a routine.

Even the reply has become a standard one, “I’m fine” or “I’m doing good”.

Whether you are or not is a different issue altogether. You want to respond and then get on the topic or situation at hand.

But let’s make a slight modification to that question, “How are you doing today?

A potential response to such a question would be, “Overall I’m doing good. But today’s not so great. A certain something took place and now I’m feeling x because of it.”

Just by adding a word at the end of your question, you now ask something that opens up the other individual and allows them to share the real answer to that question. Not just that, but that simple addition of a word shows the difference in you and shows that it’s not a routine question anymore.

Try it out, next time when you have a conversation, ask “How are you doing TODAY?”

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The Last 7 Days #82 (27.09 – 03.10)

With another Sunday, here’s the 82nd edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. Facebook’s report on what their research really says about teen well-being and Instagram. Check it out here.
  2. A Twitter thread on the conspiracy theory behind social media applications listening to everything we say. Check out the thread here.
  3. Timeboxing: The Most Powerful Time Management Technique You’re Probably Not Using. Read here.
  4. The 2 biggest mental traps that hold us back from becoming more resilient and confident in life. Read it here.
  5. 20 really good things that happened in 2020. Check it out here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. In this episode of Life Kit, Devon Price, author of Laziness Does Not Exist, shares tips for rethinking the concept of laziness and how feeling “lazy” is actually a useful signal from our bodies and our deepest selves. Listen here.
  2. Wolfgang Puck on defining success and maintaining ownership of your businesses, on Just B with Bethenny Frankel. Listen to it here.
  3. Anne Helen Peterson, author of Can’t Even: How Millennials Became The Burnout Generation, joins Matt in this episode of The Yes Theory Podcast to talk about the costs of living in an achievement-obsessed culture, how monetizing what you love can get in the way of building a life, and the systemic issues that have perpetuated a system of workaholism. Check it out here.
  4. On Naan Curry with Sadaf and Archit, Nandita Iyer, doctor, food writer, and author discusses healthy food, and specifically what qualifies as a superfood, how do you decide what to eat, what is mindful eating, and more. Listen to it here.
  5. Alicia Vikander joins the Armchair Expert to discuss how her ballet training translated to her film career, moving to Stockholm at 15 from a small town, about the difference between Swedish and American cultures, and more. Listen here.

What To Watch:

  1. Paul Conti, MD, on how trauma works and how to heal from it, on The Tim Ferriss Show. Watch it here.
  2. On Film Companion, Sneha Menon Desai deep dives into the business of comedy with Danish Sait and Kusha Kapila. Check it out here.
  3. What happens to your body when you eat 2 bananas every day? Watch here.
  4. TV Show Recommendation of the Week – Midnight Mass (The arrival of a charismatic priest brings miracles, mysteries and renewed religious fervor to a dying town.) Now streaming on Netflix here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Free Guy (A bank teller discovers that he’s actually an NPC inside a brutal, open-world video game.)

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #27 (26.09 – 02.10)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. We enjoy spicy food, roller coasters, and depressing music due to something called “benign masochism”. We feel a sense of pleasure from initiating negative experiences that our brain falsely interprets as threatening.

This realization that the body has been fooled, and that there is no real danger, leads to pleasure derived from ‘mind over body’. [Source: 8fact on Instagram]

2. There is something called organ comfort. There are various aspects to this. Just to handle one aspect of it – see right now, most of the vital organs of the body are in the chest and abdomen region. These organs are not rigid, they are not fixed with bolts and clams. They are loose, hanging in nets. Only if you sit with your spine erect, your organs will be in the maximum possible comfort.

Now, the modern idea of comfort is to lean backward and slouch. If you sit in such a posture, your organs will never be at comfort. They will not function the way they need to. This is especially true if you eat a full meal and sit in a reclining chair. A lot of travel happens in reclining chairs. I would say, if you travel a thousand kilometers on a reclining chair in a car, your lifespan will come down by at least three to five years. This is because the organs suffer so much, their ability to function will go down dramatically or you will at least be impaired in some ways.

Keeping the body erect is not because we don’t like comfort, it is because we understand and experience comfort in a completely different way. You can train your muscles to be comfortable, with your spine erect, but you cannot train your organs to be comfortable while slouching. There is no way to do it. So, we choose to train the body, so that our skeletal system and muscular system are comfortable sitting this way. [Sadhguru]

3. People think originality is a form of genius, but it’s not really about intelligence or talent – it emerges naturally from people who have absorbed this basic fact –

Conventional Wisdom is not very wise

Originality lives in all of us, but we keep it locked away behind the classic delusion :

‘If my weird ideas were actually special, they’d already be out there. If no one else is saying/doing it, there must be a good reason.’

We all come pre-programmed with this delusion. Originals are those who have learned to override it. [Tim Urban]

4. Saying no doesn’t always mean you’re letting someone down. It might mean you’re holding up your own boundaries.

You feel guilty when you focus on the costs of falling short of others’ expectations. You feel relieved when you consider the benefits of knowing your own limits. [Adam Grant]

5. Let’s say you want to teach someone how to play chess.

What most people do is explain how all the pieces work (which takes a while) before playing a game (which is a reward).

Instead, you could explain how two pieces work (which doesn’t take long) and play a mini-game using only those pieces (which engages the student and hooks them).

The more engaging (and rewarding) you make learning and the faster you do so, the more likely the person you teach is to care.

(via p. 48 of Write Useful Books) [Source: For The Interested newsletter by Josh Spector]

Inward and Outward

Inward and Outward

Every action of ours has an inward and outward effect.

What we think/ feel/ eat/ drink/ how we care for our mind/ body/ the words we communicate/ the work we do/ the experiences we have,

All of it has not just an effect on the outside, but it equally affects us on the inside too (our inner body processes/ organs/ brain activity, brain processes, hormone releases, neural activity, body energy, just about everything).

Every emotion we feel (as an outcome of anything that we choose to do) releases an energy of that sort in the body too.

Every thing we eat and drink is how our body processes it, and whether it is good for the body or not, then has an outcome accordingly.

Whether we exercise or not, not just has an effect on how “slim” we become, but it has an effect on our body processes too.

The words that we communicate, not just affects our character and our relationships, but also the quality of our mind and the type of voice that develops because of it.

In such a short span of a few sentences, it’s a lot to process… But eventually the baseline still stands the same, everything we do has an effect, not just on the outward, but inward too.

We usually don’t think about any of this, we weren’t taught to think in this manner, neither did we question the working of anything.

If we become a tiny bit more mindful than usual, then we can start taking care of our mind, body and soul, at least from now on, if not before (and experience life differently than before).

The mundaneness of a routine

The mundaneness of a routine

Routines are good and fun. When you have a routine, you have basically collected all your habits and distributed them in a manner that suits your day well.

Having a routine actually gives you the freedom to do more, rather than worrying about what to do when. You now have systems in place, and you can either have time to do specific things more (self care, ideation, socializing etc) or simply work around the slots that you’ve already filled.

Routines happen like muscle memory, those things that you do daily just happen automatically in those timely slots. You can then spend less time scheduling a particular piece of activity, because there already is a slot assigned for it. You can spend less time worrying about missing out on something or just having to skip something, because it’s part of your routine and it will happen.

But, here’s a catch… Only those habits that you love doing will actually keep you on your toes everyday, and that is what keeps the system running.

Only when you enjoy doing it can you then enjoy doing all of those things every day.

Otherwise, the mundaneness of a routine starts seeping in your life.

Every day you wake up, and you have to do a particular activity, then another activity and so on (whether it is with regards to your personal, social, or professional life), your day will surround any of those sectors.

The moment you don’t enjoy any of those particular habitual slots, and it still has to happen, then you start forcing yourself towards those things. Now you aren’t in the right mood right from the start (irrespective of how things will shape up), now you aren’t doing it for your enjoyment, but because it has to be done with or without your personal wishes.

It is that moment when the mundaneness seeps in, and now you start looking at your life differently… You enjoy parts of your life and other parts you don’t. It is that moment when you look in the macro, when you wish things would be different.

One could also perceive it as a call to change, to shuffle things around, to replace your habits with something better, to spice up your life.

Can you remember a previous thought?

Can you remember a previous thought?

How many times has it happened that you think of something (not necessarily an idea), but something of significance, that you may want to think about more later on, or something that you want to do… But a few thoughts later or as time passes, you just can’t remember that thought.

What can you do? Your brain is designed in a way to have constant thoughts, one after the other – sometimes many are linked to just one topic and sometimes it jumps from topic to topic, and sometimes when you aren’t distracted, you’re just sitting there blank.

There are some rare occasions when a particular thought is of quite significance to you and you know you’ve to remember it… It is during those moments when amidst all the chaos of time and thoughts, you are able to remember that thought.

But otherwise… Can you remember a previous thought? I don’t think so.

This is also why anyone who’s ideating on literally anything is said to have some kind of journal or anything to put their thoughts on with them, at such times.

You never know when you’ll have a notable thought and whether you’d be able to remember it or not… Better write it down before another thought (maybe important or maybe wasteful) comes on and disturbs this current thought.

More Questions than Answers

More Questions than Answers

There is an information overload at this point of time in our lives. The amount of information on any specific topic is too much to read or know about, but that’s a good thing too (a topic for another day).

But, whether it’s something about your field or not, is it necessary for an individual to know all the answers already?

When you already know everything, somewhere in the process, you lose that fun and passion that was keeping you on track. But the other question is, can anyone truly know everything about something?

That leads to a curious individual whose deeply interested in a topic and now has more questions than answers.

Only when you are truly interested and there is a want to know more, you want to dig deeper, is when you start asking questions as well.

The more questions you ask, the more you dig. The more you now know, the more questions will start to erupt in your mind.

When a process to learn becomes like that, is when that field becomes interesting to you, and you want to invest more and more time into it. That is also another way to figure out what gets your juices flowing.

Judging your food by how it looks

Judging your food by how it looks

We judge food by its outcome

We judge food by its outcome – how it looks in the end, how it tastes. This is also how corporations and food chains are able to take advantage, serving us any kind of food, working on their presentation and marketing and also scientifically manipulating the food items as well.

Because we don’t ask the right questions

How often do we care about the kind of ingredients being used for the food we’re eating, the source of those ingredients, whether they are organic or processed, what kind of benefits or disadvantages do they have on you or your mind or body, whether they’re hand made or machine made, etc.

Impact of everything you eat

Everything that you eat, how it’s prepared and stored, it’s quality, all of it has an impact on your life – how it affects your digestive system, nervous system, your brain, your body organs, your cells, your energy levels, the quality of your thoughts, the kind of emotions you cruise through.

At various times in our life, someone may have a disease, someone may be eating medicines, someone may have physical or mental issues – and while there are various reasons for any of it to happen – a good percentage of that also boils to the type of food items you’re putting in your body.

Eating everything you want

Sooner or later, everyone realizes this – just depends at which point of life. When you understand everything, you also realize you can eat anything and everything you want – as long as it’s the right kind of ingredients, it’s prepared in the right manner and if it’s in moderation.

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The Last 7 Days #81 (20.09 – 26.09)

With another Sunday, here’s the 81st edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. Putting time in perspective, from today to the Big Bang. Definitely check it out here.
  2. The Perfectionism Trap. Read more here.
  3. Know what Ayurveda says about (over)exercising. Read it here.
  4. Invisible labor is real, and it hurts: What you need to know. Check it out here.
  5. Why a dash of sugar in dals and sabzis goes a long way? Read here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. Social Media isn’t the problem, we are… An audio article from Mark Manson. Listen to it here.
  2. Andrew Huberman joins the Armchair Expert to discuss how testosterone treatment affects the development of the brain and body, what it means to have “roid rage”, the connection between blinking and our concept of time, and much more. Check it out here.
  3. The iPhone created entirely new industries, wiped out giant competitors, and changed the way all of us live. Here’s how Apple did it, on Land of the Giants podcast. Listen here.
  4. On Cyrus Says, Jatin Sapru talks about joining ESPN in 2008, becoming a commentator as a fan and not as an ex-cricketer, his early life of shifting from Kashmir to Delhi, how he got into sports journalism, going from news channel to news channel with his CV, and how he became a cricket commentator, and lots more. Check it out here.
  5. Actor Sayani Gupta on becoming the face of the OTT industry, on Stars se Baatein with Salil. Listen here.

What To Watch:

  1. With consumers being more health conscious than ever, they’re willing to pay more for what they perceive as better. But, what exactly does “organic” mean and is it worth it? Watch it here.
  2. In this Bombay Journey, Aparshakti Khurana shares his career paths, some of the moments that he will never forget, and much much more. Check it out here.
  3. Short Film Recommendation of the Week – Shimmy (Raima (Chahat Tewani), a nervous 11 year old, has a secret that she desperately needs to get off her chest. When her father, Amol (Pratik Gandhi) finally realizes what’s troubling her, they both set out on a mission to save the day) Now streaming on Amazon MiniTV here.
  4. Movie Recommendation of the Week – CODA (a 2021 American coming-of-age comedy-drama film that follows a hearing teenage girl who is a child of deaf adults (CODA for short)) Now streaming on Apple TV+ here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #26 (19.09 – 25.09)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. There is a commonality to all successful businesses and individuals. The commonality centres around a specific story they tell, believe in and what the story is in reality. The more these three are identical, the more successful the person and business will be in the long term. It’s a story that becomes synonymous with them in so many ways that it’s hard to disregard but unfortunately easy to be superficial.

The story comes from the answer to a straightforward question

“Why do you exist?”

And the answer could define your narrative, its success and also determine how satisfied you are with it. Guy Raz, in his book “How I built this” puts it eloquently when he says,

“The story must explain at a fundamental level why you exist. It is a story you have to tell to your customers, to investors, to employees, and ultimately to yourself.”

It is such a fundamental question to refine and focus on. If the answer is built on a foundation of reflection, passion, and an innate need to work on it in the long term, it will bring success, deep satisfaction, and happiness. And in times when the day gets clogged with things to do, interests become many and varied, and new bright shiny objects demand our attention leading to our sense of clarity becoming blurred, Ask yourself this simple question. An honest answer built on reflection can help you find clarity for a lifetime. [Unschooled with Varun Duggirala]

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Source: sketchplantations on Twitter

3. Life is easier when you know what you want—but most people don’t take the time to figure out what they want.
It’s not that we are completely lost, but our efforts are often slightly misdirected. People will work for years and ultimately achieve a lifestyle that isn’t quite what they were hoping for—often, simply, because they never clearly defined what they wanted.

An hour of thinking can save you a decade of work. [James Clear]

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Source : @ lizandmollie on Twitter

5. Seven lessons on wealth and happiness, by Naval
– Happiness is evident more by its absence than its presence.
– Spend your time in the company of geniuses, sages, children, and books.
– In an age of abundance, pursuing pleasure for its own sake creates addiction.
– Retirement starts when you stop sacrificing today for some imaginary tomorrow.
– Making money through an early lucky trade is the worst way to win. The bad habits that it reinforces will lead to a lifetime of losses.
– Persistent, non-specific anxiety is the result of wanting so much, talking so much, and doing so much that you lose touch with the quiet joys of Solitude.
– Code and media are permissionless leverage. They’re the leverage behind the newly rich. You can create software and media that works for you while you sleep. [Naval Ravikant]

Can you trust your inner voice?

Can you trust your inner voice?

The next time your inner voice tells you that you’re not capable of something or something negative comes to your mind, think where does it originate from?

Your inner voice is a collective of
– your experiences
– your learning
– the people around you
– the information you consume
– your opinions of yourself
– the expectations of the society

Once you know this, ask yourself, can you trust your inner voice?

Moreover, it’s not about ignoring your voice.

The thought should be, if you don’t like your voice, what can you do about it?

With practice and self-awareness, you can change this voice if you don’t like it, make a more positive environment in your head, everything is possible if you want something to change.

All of this takes a lot of time, a lot of patience, and there will be a lot of setbacks as well. Every time you fall, you will feel like why are you even doing this?

But the more you stand still, the more you get back again, you will be able to push one step further, you will be able to look back and be glad you practiced with patience, because you will be satisfied with the outcome.

“Embrace the Mess”

“Embrace the Mess”

The beauty of film/tv and storytelling is that it has the power to move and influence you, change your perspective, the power to change your approach towards anything.

One such incident occurred while I was watching this TV show, ‘Only Murders in the Building’, and without giving any spoilers, there was this line in the show that just stayed with me, “Embrace the Mess”.

It got me thinking about the mess in our lives, in every area of our lives, and how our life is surrounded with any and all kinds of mess.

Most of the times, we are overwhelmed with this mess, and usually our first approach is to clean this mess so we can have clarity where there was none, or to blame this mess for things not turning out the way we wanted.

But, how many times do we think of embracing this mess? Making it a part of our lives and then driving through it? Instead of letting it hamper our path, making it the road for us to drive through?

Now, instead of this mess overpowering our lives, we’re in control, we have embraced these moments of our lives, and we can decide how do we want to move forward.

To acknowledge this mess, let alone embrace it is one of the biggest steps for anyone to take. It is difficult to accept that our life is in chaos, and to then think of these moments and situations and then embracing them as well, but then what is the better choice, to acknowledge and embrace, or to let it control us?

(P. S. There’s no one definition to explain this ‘mess’. Each individual has their own kind of mess in their lives, everyone defines it differently, and it affects each one differently. You get to decide what is mess for you and what isn’t.)

5 Questions to ask yourself at the End of the Day

5 Questions to ask yourself at the End of the Day

Every day brings with its own set of thoughts, emotions, opportunities, ideas, problems, and much more. Every day can be the same and every day can be different, depending upon your approach.

How can you then know how did your day go? How can you evaluate each day?

At the end of each day, you can ask yourself a set of questions, even if they seem overwhelming at first, you can start with one and then keep adding one by one to your list.

You can ponder upon these questions, you can journal your answers, you can simply think about them… But a simple exercise of this sorts helps you manage your days in the micro, so the impact can look and feel even better in the macro.

Here goes the questions…

A. Do you, at the end of the day, look back and just observe everything that happened with you, around you?

B. How did this day affect you? How did it impact you? What did you get out of it?

C. How did your actions affect other people? How did their actions affect you? How did your words affect others and vice versa?

D. Were you satisfied with the events of this day? If not, what changes can you think of so the process of those events can be changed the next time around?

E. Were you able to manage your time? Were you able to allot some time for yourself?

Questions that may look complicated, but are actually simple questions in theory, questions that help you personally perceive your day and your life in a different manner and may ask you to take difficult steps that you wouldn’t have thought of in the first place.

How can you know if you haven’t tried it?

How can you know if you haven’t tried it?

Often, and this happens with each individual, before trying anything new, they want to know how something is going to end, what the outcome is going to look like.

They look upon other people’s outcomes and seek to their opinions, judge the outcome by their outcomes.

That eventually boils down to adhering your life to another individual’s likes and dislikes, and how they want their life to be.

But everyone’s life is different, everyone’s perspective to their life is different and how they want to live it.

If that is the case, then how can you know anything if you haven’t tried it yourself? What if it suits you? What if the outcome is in your favour but wasn’t for the other individuals?

What if something looked difficult for someone else, but it’s only when you tried it and you find out it wasn’t difficult for you?

How can you know you won’t enjoy the process until you don’t try something out?

Eventually, the hard question needs to be asked for every decision you take based on how someone else did it… How can you know if you haven’t tried it?

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The Last 7 Days #80 (13.09 – 19.09)

With another Sunday, here’s the 80th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. How to grow the fuck up : a guide to Humans. Read it here.
  2. Facebook Knows Instagram Is Toxic for Teen Girls, Company Documents Show. Check it out here.
  3. A psychotherapist shares 24 conversation starters he uses to ‘build deeper, more interesting relationships’ with anyone. Read here.
  4. The network effect is anticompetitive. Read more here.
  5. Shows that heal (literally), a piece by Kareem Abdul Jabbar. Check it out here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. Roshan Abbas joins Amit Varma in episode 239 of The Seen and the Unseen to describe his remarkable journey as a creator — and to explain why the best is yet to come. Listen to it here.
  2. In this conversation on Sway, Kara Swisher and Jeffrey Katzenberg delve into Quibi’s demise, the shifting power dynamics in Hollywood and his pivot to Silicon Valley. Listen here.
  3. Robin Uthappa opens up about being plagued by suicidal thoughts during the 2009 IPL, how he almost walked away from the game because of his depression and what his comeback journey looked like, on 22 Yarns with Gaurav Kapur. Check it out here.
  4. In this episode of My First Million, Sam Parr and Shaan Puri talk about what Shaan has learned over the last week by taking a Bill Gates-inspired week off to dive deep into crypto. They also talk about Wilbur Wright, identifying stories from your work experiences, and who they follow in real estate Twitter. Listen here.
  5. From “3rd Rock From the Sun” to “The Dark Knight Rises” to his own series he created, “Mr. Corman”, Joseph Gordon-Levitt deep dives into his journey on the Happy SAD Confused podcast. Listen to it here.

What To Watch:

  1. Sadaf and Archit explore the origin, history and cultural references of turmeric, how is the best turmeric produced and what are the best ways to consume it, the science and economics behind turmeric and more, on The Naan Curry podcast. Watch here.
  2. How to optimize your gut and brain bacteria? Check it out here.
  3. Salim Merchant breaks down his most iconic songs, how did he come up with the ideas and the process behind them, feat Yashraj Mukhate. Watch it here.
  4. Documentary Recommendation of the Week – Schumacher (The life and career of seven-time Formula 1 world champion race car driver Michael Schumacher.) Now streaming on Netflix here.
  5. TV Show Recommendation of the Week – Mumbai Diaries 26/11 (Doctors, nurses, first responders, and other hospital personnel deal with a crisis of immense magnitude in Mumbai.) Now streaming on Amazon Prime here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #25 (12.09 – 18.09)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. People who jump from project to project are always dividing their effort, and producing high quality work becomes difficult without intense effort.
Meanwhile, your average work day can be leisurely, yet also productive, if you return to the same project each day.

Do one thing well and watch it compound. [James Clear]

2. We talk about risk like it’s a bad thing.
But all forward motion involves risk. You can’t find a risk-free way to accomplish much of anything.

Appropriate risk has two elements:
A. The odds of it working out are commensurate with the benefits.
B. The consequences of being wrong don’t eliminate your chance to try a different path next time.

We don’t try something simply because there’s no downside. Instead, we intelligently choose projects where the downside is understood and the work is worth doing. [Seth Godin]

3. The theologian Dorothee Sölle on letting go:
“If my hands are fully occupied in holding on to something, I can neither give nor receive.”

Source: The Strength of the Weak

4. Tetris taught me that if you fit in, you disappear – Tobi Lutke

[Illustration by GoLimitless on Twitter]

5. “Bad luck” is lack of discipline, no initiative, and too much time making up excuses.
“Good luck” is risk-taking, self-belief, grit, and consistency of long-term investments. [Orange Book on Twitter]

Either you find out or someone points it out

Either you find out or someone points it out

Change is an essential part of life. It happens sooner or later. It happens voluntarily or involuntarily, that choice remains with you, but it happens.

But where does it usually originate from?

– Either you find out (something about yourself and you decide to change that certain something)

– Or, someone points it out to you (and then it clicks you)

It usually originates from these two key factors, which then further leads to a number of steps that evolve into a before and after change.

Expanding into those two factors, how does an individual find something out?

That itself originates from two factors, one, you’re on a path of becoming self aware and want to improve at certain areas of your life.

Second, either through any kind of an interaction with an individual or a certain event that took place becomes the catalyst that then evolves into you thinking about change.

Or if not by yourself, then a few fortunate people have closed ones around them who look out for them and are then willing to point out when something about you is bothering them or something that needs to be looked into.

Others, well, there are times when someone’s boss or a colleague, or a professor, or on social media, where someone who doesn’t know you personally will point out something and that is when you find out about something.

Either or, when you keep your eyes open, you will constantly find clues which tell you something about yourself, which become this catalyst of change. Only if you’re ready to look though.

Juggling your Set of Responsibilities

Juggling your Set of Responsibilities

Any individual has their life divided into multiple sectors, and every day they have to juggle between them – their personal life – includes self time, family/ friends time, house chores and personal chores, relaxation and or escapism time, and their professional life – includes their work timing, projects, deadline, etc.

Mostly it’s branched between the personal life and professional life, and a ton of sub sectors then get added to those two branches.

Every day, any individual has to juggle each set of those sectors, because with each sector comes a certain set of responsibilities as well.

Sometimes there’s a choice, and sometimes there are certain things that has to be paid attention to, and amidst all the daily chaos, the individual has to maintain the balance between their personal and professional life, and equally juggle between them and the set of responsibilities that are asked/ required for the particulars.

So is life, and along with all dreams and deadlines, also comes this juggling that has to be done.

The Last Thought

The Last Thought

Every day. Hundreds and thousands of thoughts. In an hour. Within a span of hours. In a day.

Some you remember. Some connect to one another. Many you forget. Some repeat again the next day.

In all this chaos of thoughts, the last thought that you sleep with is extremely important.

It’s that thought that stays with you throughout the night, throughout your sleep. That very thought is going to grow on you, without you even knowing it.

Where one may or may not be trained to command their last thought, one can definitely try to remember the last thought that they sleep with. And may be as an experiment, also notice how that very thought plays a role on the next day or generally in life too.

What’s that last thought you sleep with?

Looking back at your Day

Looking back at your Day

Do you, at the end of the day, look back and just observe everything that happened with you, around you?

How did this day affect you? How did it impact you? What did you get out of it?

How did your actions affect other people? How did their actions affect you? How did your words affect others and vice versa?

Were you satisfied with the events of this day? If not, what changes can you think of so the process of those events can be changed the next time around?

Were you able to manage your time? Were you able to allot some time for yourself?

The questions might feel a bit overwhelming at first. You can start asking them to yourself one by one, and then add one every day or however you feel comfortable.

You can ponder upon these questions, you can journal your answers, you can simply think about them… But a simple exercise of this sorts helps you manage your days in the micro, so the impact can look and feel even better in the macro.

The backlog keeps building up

The backlog keeps building up

The moment you decide to do something later, and if it doesn’t have a deadline, it gets left out eventually.

Whether it is related to your personal or your professional life, there are a bunch of micro and macro tasks that need your mental or your physical attention, or both.

Prioritizing according to each one’s deadline and their particular importance, you assort them into doing some things now and some later.

But, when you come to think of it, and when you practically notice your past deeds as well, you’ll notice that the backlog keeps building up (with regards to most of those pending things).

Every day, every week, something new comes up. The tasks change, the manner of importance changes, thus you look at the urgent things at hand. And eventually, what was left out remains left out.

That backlog keeps building up, until you realize how big or long that backlog has become. You may choose to attend to it, one by one, or just leave it altogether, or maybe build that backlog more (knowingly or unknowingly).

This post is a reminder for you to check whether you have a backlog too or not.

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The Last 7 Days #79 (06.09 – 12.09)

With another Sunday, here’s the 79th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. The exact science of what happens to your brain when you meditate. Read more here.
  2. A neuroscientist shares the 6 exercises she does every day to build resilience and mental strength. Read here.
  3. Tackling a loss of trust during the pandemic. Read it here.
  4. A guide to living off of the grid. Check it out here.
  5. How the wizards behind Marvel’s What If…? give the hit animated series its prestige look, signature thrills, and “Kirby crackle”. Read here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. Seth Godin on how advertising built the world, on his podcast Akimbo. Listen here.
  2. On Naan Curry with Sadaf and Archit, Ashdin Doctor discusses the mental and physical benefits of intermittent fasting, the origin of breakfasts, how to break your fasts, the rationale behind the existence of religious fasts like Shravan and Ramazan, and more. Check it out here.
  3. Brie Larson joins the Armchair Expert to discuss being home schooled as a child, how she knows her way around set from being an actor for over 20 years, trying to be people pleasers, learning how to accept success and failures. Listen to it here.
  4. Sean Penn discusses his new film, his old films, and everything in between– like the world on SmartLess. Listen here.
  5. Podcast Recommendation of the Week – Southern Slurp, a podcast that features recipes, ingredients, stories, voices, and cultural history giving the audience a transcendent gastronomic experience. Check it out here.

What To Watch:

  1. In this episode of My First Million, Gary Vaynerchuk joins Sam Parr and Shaan Puri to give a master class on NFTs. Gary shares his predictions on the future of NFTs and how they’ll be (eventually) used by everyone. Watch it here.
  2. Rohit Sharma discusses his first selection, his upbringing, dealing with pressure and much more, with Dinesh Karthik on Sky Sports. Watch here.
  3. Actor Gajraj Rao joins Kunal Vijayakar on Khaane Mein Kya Hai discussing their love for biryani and his favourite food items from all over the country, a video to watch when you’re seeking fun and food. Check it out here.
  4. YouTube Recommendation of the Week – McLaren Unboxed (a behind the scenes look at the team, reliving the highs and lows of every race) Watch it on YouTube here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Thimmarusu (Eight years after a young man is framed for murder, an up-and-coming lawyer re-opens the case, beginning a tricky mission to find the real culprit) Now streaming on Netflix here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #24 (05.09 – 11.09)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. Saying “that’s a good point” doesn’t lose the argument. It wins trust.
Acknowledging a valid observation is a display of respect.

It signals that you’re listening with an open mind, and motivates them to follow suit.

You don’t have to agree on everything to agree on something. [Adam Grant]

2. Excitement comes from the achievement.
Fulfillment comes from the journey that got us there. [Simon Sinek]

3. Pleasure is a false god. It’s the most superficial form of happiness, therefore the easiest to obtain and the quickest to go away. [Mark Manson]

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@ lizandmollie

5. Creative have two ways of working : beer mode and coffee mode.

Beer mode is a state of unfocused play where you discover new ideas. It’s filled with intellectual surprises that are impossible to predict. On most days, you feel like you wasted time because you don’t make a breakthrough discovery. But once in a while, beer mode leads to an intellectual breakthrough that you would’ve never discovered in coffee mode.

In contrast, coffee mode is a state of focus where you work towards a specific outcome.

The problem with traditional productivity advice is that it doesn’t take beer mode seriously. Standard tropes like turn off the internet, tune out distractions, and turn towards your goals are all examples of coffee mode thinking.

The see-saw or beer mode and coffee mode is like breathing.

Your best ideas emerge when you balance the inhale of beer mode with the exhale of coffee mode. Beer mode rewards laughter, while coffee mode rewards action
Beer mode rewards conversation, while coffee mode rewards focus.

Our best ideas rarely arise when we’re busy. They spring to Life in aimless contemplation.

In beer mode, you find inspiration. In coffee mode, you harvest it. If you only spend time in coffee mode, you’ll shut yourself off to transformative ideas because the fruits of genius are sown with the seeds of beer mode serendipity. [David Perell]

It’s difficult to stay consistent

It’s difficult to stay consistent

A particular lifestyle or a purpose originates from the multiple habits that form into it. Those habits require consistency and daily efforts to keep them going, and even when they become a part of your life, you still have to be consistent with them in order to keep them going.

But, with each day also comes a whole new set of issues and emotions and how did you start your day, how did you embrace the day, there’s a whole list of things that decide how a particular day is going to turn out to be.

Eventually, even when you understand the technicalities, and even on those particular days when you push through and still remain consistent, there comes that once in a blue moon day, when it’s extremely difficult to stay consistent.

This isn’t one of those rest days that one should take. This is one of those days that demanded so many other things from you, that also showed some mismanagement issues on your side, but eventually it remained difficult to stay consistent with your usual things, that’s the bottom line.

Those days come, these things happen, you have to take them with a grain of salt, and be ready to bounce back again, as soon as possible, not because you have to… But because you want to.

An Idea becomes Obsolete

An Idea becomes Obsolete

The pace at which the world is changing and evolving at, with the advancement of technology, the trends keep changing, the platforms keep changing, the audiences’ tastes keep changing… It’s hard to stay at one particular thing for long.

Everything has a shelf life, unless it’s impact is long term, but even then, most of the micro things have a shelf life at least.

You have to constantly be updated, you have to constantly experiment, evolve with the times and bring new ideas into the picture.

An idea, if not shared in time, becomes obsolete with time.

As soon as an idea strikes you, you have to work on it, and bring it out as soon as possible.

Another individual could’ve a similar or the same idea. Another individual could execute at a faster pace than you. Not that there’s competition, but if ideas come to you at a slower pace than others, it’s always better to output them as soon as possible, so the identity of the idea stays with you.

All the iterations and extensions of that idea could then be worked alongside that particular idea. But that one has to go out before it becomes obsolete. Before it’s freshness is expired. Before it’s essence is eliminated.

Every idea becomes or seems obsolete if not shared or executed in time.

The thing about Exceptions

The thing about Exceptions

Whether it is with regards to our routine or habits or our style of living or thinking or communicating…

There comes a time, every now and then, when we have to make exceptions. Constantly.

What kind of exceptions? Well, day to day, there are obstacles that we have to adapt ourselves to, there are problems that keep occurring, and we have to make these exceptions (from our usual way of doing things) as per those moments and situations.

The thing about exceptions is, if we don’t make them, then we’ll not be able to enjoy or rather savour whatever caused the change in the first place.

The thing about exceptions is, if we don’t make them, then we’ll not be able to adapt and lose the tiny bit of control over what can be controlled of the moment.

The thing about exceptions is, we have to make them, because sometimes there’s no other choice.

Sit with ‘It’

Sit with ‘It’

You may be stuck with a problem, you may not like a particular emotion that’s staying with you, a memory that’s coming back to you…

Our usual instinct is to get rid of any of the particulars, so we escape, i.e. normally done with the help of any kind of distractions.

As soon as we get distracted, there’s a change in our thoughts or emotions, and what we were stuck with or rather what we didn’t want to encounter is now gone.

That road seems like the easier path to take. And as often as it works, the problem with that path is, it keeps popping up time and again.

What looks a tougher road to take even before we begin is to address ‘it’. ‘It’ could be anything – a emotion, a problem or a memory.

Amongst a bunch of processes that can be tried and tested for this, varying from individual to individual, a method that works wonders is to sit with ‘it’.

Instead of escaping and distracting yourself, sit with whatever you’re stuck with.

Usually, we avoid that distress only for it to dig even deeper and erupt on a larger scale next time.

When you sit with that ‘it’, what you also allow is to face that discomfort, and when you are ready to face it, is when you’re able to see things more clearly.

At those times, you’re able to understand yourself more, able to understand that ‘it’ more, and now with time, able to understand how do you tackle or face the ‘it’.

Only when you sit with ‘it’.

Not a single day goes wasted

Not a single day goes wasted

Some days you feel you didn’t accomplish much that day…

Some days you feel you weren’t able to check off the items from your to do list…

On such days you feel disappointed, you feel dismayed, you feel the day was such a waste…

The question to now ask is, was it truly wasted?

Sometimes we focus on what we didn’t do and that overclouds what we did do and what we did have. Sometimes to remember those things at the end of the day also becomes the key moment of our day.

– Did we have our food on that particular day?

– Did we spend some time with our loved ones?

– Did you do something for yourself this day? (can be anything)

Some basic questions makes us realize that not a single day goes wasted, there’s always something to cherish and be grateful for.

Moreover, there are several moments, deemed good or bad, but are a lot to learn from, and those moments make us learn a lot in micro and macro.

Perspective Matters, how you approach a particular day matters… Not a single day goes wasted!

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The Last 7 Days #78 (30.08 – 05.09)

With another Sunday, here’s the 78th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. Digital Addictions Are Drowning Us in Dopamine. Read more here.
  2. How are McDonald’s hamburgers really made, as seen at a McDonald’s meat-processing factory? Check it out here.
  3. Mickey Mouse will be public domain soon—here’s what that means.
  4. The crises won’t stop coming. Radical acceptance is the key to coping. Read here.
  5. When big influencers steal content, small original creators lose out. Read more here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. Satya Nadella discusses how, as Chairman and CEO, he has transformed Microsoft from a cutthroat culture towards embracing social networks, collaboration, and cloud, on Masters of Scale with Reid Hoffman. Listen here.
  2. Each episode of ‘We Are Supported By‘ deep dives with a woman who has put a crack in the glass ceiling, and this time hosts Kristen Bell and Monica Padman deep dive into the life of Sheryl Sandberg. Check it out here.
  3. 4 Tips for cleaning up your social media diet on the Life Kit podcast. Listen to it here.
  4. On F1 Beyond the Grid podcast, Mick Schumacher talks improving as a driver, duelling with Verstappen, and his F1 mentors. Listen here.
  5. On The Director’s Cut, director Tom McCarthy discusses his new film, Stillwater, with fellow director Scott Cooper in a Q&A at the DGA theater in Los Angeles. Check it out here.

What To Watch:

  1. How do tech companies manipulate the media? Watch here.
  2. Mr. Rajiv Malhotra, a renowned computer scientist, also an Indian-American activist, author, and speaker who raises voices on issues for the nation, talks on topics like Artificial Intelligence, Indian politics, Geopolitics, & Future Technologies on The Ranveer Show. Check it out here.
  3. Watch all of Cristiano Ronaldo’s goals scored for Manchester United here.
  4. Show Recommendation of the Week – Down To Earth with Zac Efron (Actor Zac Efron travels around the world with wellness expert Darin Olien to find healthy, sustainable ways to live.) Now streaming on Netflix here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Vivo (A music-loving kinkajou embarks on the journey of a lifetime to fulfill his destiny and deliver a love song for an old friend.) Now streaming on Netflix here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #23 (29.08 – 04.09)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. Initially, you’re only attracted to songs that move you emotionally. If they’re catchy, you’ll listen to them enough to get stuck in your head. If the song keeps resonating with you, you’ll learn about the artist and explore the lyrics in depth. Talk to an obsessive and in addition to singing the lyrics for you, they’ll tell you the backstory behind the music.

Learning works the same way. [David Perell]

2. Work-life balance isn’t about squeezing everything into one day.
It’s about spreading what matters to you throughout the week.

You can’t have it all at once, but you can probably have most of it over time.

[Adam Grant + lizandmollie]

3. The next time you find yourself worrying about what to do: try to simplify first, not last.

It’s a frameshift that will help you come up with options that are categorically different and usually better. [Wes Kao] (Understand more here – https://www.weskao.com/blog/simplify-first-not-last)

4. A batter who averages 4 hits every 20 at-bats is out of a job.

One who averages 5/20 is mediocre.

6/20, an all-star.

7/20, the league MVP.

There’s probably some area of your life you’re going 4/20 and feel hopeless. But upping your game just a little might change everything. [Tim Urban]

5. Research demonstrates that long-term meditators have been shown to have increased hippocampal volume.

One of the likely reasons for this change is that stress decreases hippocampal volume over time. Cortisol can lead to a shrunken hippocampus, the seat of our learning and memory. As we engage in long-term meditation practices, we’re down regulating our stress and cortisol levels, and this has a protective effect on the size of our hippocampus. [Neurohacker] (Read more here – https://neurohacker.com/the-exact-science-of-what-happens-to-your-brain-when-you-meditate)

The essence of a blog post

The essence of a blog post

How long does a blog post need to be? Is there a predefined limit that we need to meet? Minimum words criteria?

The essence of a blog post lies in the meaning being conveyed behind the words.

One can stretch it for as long as possible to meet any kind of SEO purposes, or keep it extremely short and crisp directly implying the point.

For anyone who’s writing, the purpose is for the reader to understand what’s written, with or without context. Keeping their attention for that limited period of time. Ensuring there’s something to take away from that reading.

The post could be a one-liner or a five page read, as long as certain boxes are checked from the writer’s point of view.

Sometimes it gets too tiring

Sometimes it gets too tiring

Every day brings its own set of promises and challenges, sometimes a balance is maintained, and sometimes the scale is tipped higher on either of the sides.

But every day also brings with it, it’s own set of thoughts, emotions, and managing the tasks and the routine, and the responsibilities and goals and what not.

And that, well, sometimes it gets too tiring.

It becomes too tiring to keep up with everything, it becomes difficult to maintain the levels, and your mind feels clouded as well.

Sometimes these are one-off days, sometimes more, sometimes you have the energy to dig deeper and try to understand what’s the source of this feeling or what tipped it off recently, and sometimes you just linger with the feeling…

A feeling that… sometimes it gets too tiring.

Does anyone know you a hundred percent?

Does anyone know you a hundred percent?

We take into account other people’s choices before making our decisions. We get bogged down by people’s opinions. We feel hurt by people making fun of us or by people trolling us. We feel judged by people.

Moreover, we let all of those things affect us.

But in all this chaos, we forget the most important thing, do any of these people know you a 100% to take into account any of those things?

When people don’t know you, they look at a percentage of you (one they’re able to perceive) and make their opinions / judge/ decide or whatever based on that.

While it’s not okay for them to do that, you cannot do anything about it. But what you can do is understand that it’s an opinion on a perceived image of yours.

Let’s dig more into it. From your parents to your coworkers, from your siblings to your friends, from your social media audience to people you encounter on the streets, there are people at different levels of your life who know different things about you, who know a part of you or more than that.

But even the most important people don’t know you a hundred percent. That’s the thing.

Right from the deepest of your thoughts, to everything that you think and you do and you plan to do, it’s all within you. Even when you share, you can only share so much.

That’s what it boils down to. No body, not a single person knows you a hundred percent, than you.

So when you take anything exterior, that is outside of you, into account, then you must realize this… That no body knows you a 100% hundred except you.

Sure you can take their opinions into account, but at the end of the day you know yourself better, and you know what’s good for you and what’s not. What you want to do, what you must do and what you shouldn’t.

A moment of rest

A moment of rest

In a day of attending to your personal and professional tasks, in a day of listening to others, in a day of constant noise, in a day of chasing things, in a day of deadlines and calls,

Don’t forget to take a moment of rest.

Don’t mix the concept of rest and sleep. Both are different concepts and both are important in their own right.

Rest is to just recuperate your breath, rest is to stay still for a while, rest is to not focus on anything, but to also not distract yourself with anything.

Rest is to take a break for yourself. Rest is to not burden yourself with personal tasks or self improvement or learning during your rest. The right way to manage your time is to balance everything and give some time, whether a few minutes or more for your rest as well.

A concept not spoken of enough, a concept that is looked down upon, and yet it is the rest that springs you back into action, puts you back into focus, gives you the stillness to be in action for the rest of the time, rest is important.

Rest for a while, if you haven’t already.

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The Last 7 Days #77 (23.08 – 29.08)

With another Sunday, here’s the 77th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. ‘I eat almost 3 kilos of fruits; do 60 push-ups in a minute’: Milind Soman on diet, fitness, and more. Read here.
  2. How Learning Happens? Check it out here.
  3. A Twitter thread on how to not f*ck up relationships (in business & life), by Shaan Puri. Check out the thread here.
  4. Buy Now, Pay Later Is an Innovation That’s 200 Years Old. Read more here.
  5. The Ascent of the Anti-Antihero: How ‘Ted Lasso’ and More Emmy Nominees Embrace Likability and Kindness. Read here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. On The School of Greatness, Lewis and Katy Milkman, who is an award-winning behavioral scientist and Professor at The Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, discuss the biggest internal barriers holding you back from changing your life, how our sense of identity helps and hurts us, what science says about how to believe in yourself more, why setting big goals is actually hurting your ability to succeed, and more. Listen here.
  2. How Ben Chestnut built MailChimp, an email subscription service company, on How I Built This with Guy Raz. Listen to it here.
  3. Andrew Wilson CEO of Electronic Arts on how the company grows a metaverse, on Masters of Scale with Reid Hoffman. Check it out here.
  4. Neuroscientist Sandrine Thuret on how we can grow new brain cells, on Ted Talks Daily podcast. Listen here.
  5. On Sway, Kara Swisher and Joseph Gordon-Levitt discuss what the trend of tech companies taking over Hollywood means for the entertainment industry and how he thinks about social media. Listen more here.

What To Watch:

  1. Michael Pollan, the author of “This is your Mind on Plants”, goes into the history of coffee drinking, breaking down its origins, and how humans are addicted to caffeine. Watch it here.
  2. Gastroenterologists Dr. Fola May and Dr. Austin Chiang debunk 12 myths about indigestion. They explain how spicy food doesn’t cause ulcers, why you don’t need to poop every day, and how long it really takes to pass gum. They also talk about probiotics and why they might not be the cure-all you think it is. Watch more here.
  3. Rocky and Mayur are back with a Season 5 of Roadtrippin with Rocky and Mayur. Check it out here.
  4. Show Recommendation of the Week – Nine Perfect Strangers (Based on The New York Times best-selling book by author Liane Moriarty, “Nine Perfect Strangers” takes place at a boutique health-and-wellness resort that promises healing and transformation as nine stressed city dwellers try to get on a path to a better way of living.) Now streaming on Amazon Prime here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – The Green Knight (King Arthur’s headstrong nephew embarks on a daring quest to confront the Green Knight, a mysterious giant who appears at Camelot. Risking his head, he sets off on an epic adventure to prove himself before his family and court.) Check more details here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #22 (22.08 – 28.08)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. LeBron James didn’t always have thick calves, a raging six-pack, and arms like the Incredible Hulk. Ask LeBron about his off-season training regime, and he’ll share a detailed run-down of his workout plan and on-the-court practice routine.

Athletes train. Musicians train. Performers train.

But knowledge workers don’t.

Knowledge workers should train like LeBron, and implement strict “learning plans.” To be sure, intellectual life is different from basketball. Success is harder to measure and the metrics for improvement aren’t quite as clear. Even then, there’s a lot to learn from the way top athletes train. They are clear in their objectives and deliberate in their pursuit of improvement.

Knowledge workers should imitate them. But right now, they don’t. Even the most ambitious knowledge workers don’t take their work as seriously as they could. Learning plans are rare. What’s the equivalent of watching game film? Stretching. Or, working out for 90 minutes every day?

Just as LeBron structures his training to win Championships, knowledge workers should train to build skills, generate leverage, and increase their productive abilities. [Learn like an Athlete, a mini essay by David Perrell]

2. Anger is often seen as an irrational emotion. But it’s not due to the absence of logic—it’s due to the presence of threat or harm.

Getting mad is a sign that something important to you is at risk.

Understanding what makes you angry is a prism for understanding what you value. [Adam Grant]

3. Folks with substance, don’t like to give and receive compliments unless truly deserved.

Folks without substance, tend to constantly form mutual admiration club to belong. [Kunal Shah]

4. “Today I escaped from all bothering circumstances – or rather I threw them out.
They were nothing external, but inside me, just my own judgements.”

Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 9.13

5. Ego gets in the way of learning. You can’t learn if you’re not open to being wrong.
Two ways to identify people who learn:
(1) When they’ve made a mistake, they quickly correct it rather than hoping things will get better; and
(2) They change their mind. [Shane Parrish]

The Cristiano Homecoming

The Cristiano Homecoming

Transfer Window 2021, one of the craziest football transfer windows, in the recent years.

Some of the biggest names have changed their clubs, including Lionel Messi, a transfer that not only shocked the Messi and Barcelona fans, but everyone else as well.

Coming back to the topic, I love Manchester United, I love Cristiano Ronaldo, the club more than the player, but there’s no denying of the joy to watch one of the greatest play and to just witness that.

Keeping it crisp and not touching a lot of other points, as football fans would be aware of… The last 72 hours have been crazy and the word crazy is an understatement here.

The news that started with Cristiano to Manchester City just hurt all of us, and it was quite, quite devasting to say the least. To see that photoshopped picture of him in that City jersey was like a burn in my eyes. The news shook me and majority of the fans.

Until Friday, the 27th, it was all but clear and yet to hard to accept that the move was almost done. It felt like a heartbreak that your favourite player was about to ruin his legacy and join the rival club, for whatever reasons there may be.

But sometimes things don’t happen for good. Sometimes bigger things are meant to happen and you just don’t know it yet.

All of a sudden, there was a murmur that apart from the only club who could afford the player, there was another club lingering in at that very last moment.

Manchester United knocking on the door, showing interest, almost felt like another one of those yearly CR7 to United news.

But who knew this time there was actually substance to the news, as minutes passed, more news started coming in and it felt more real and real.

At this point of time, I’m just a spectator constantly refreshing my feed, reading every bit of news coming in, waiting to see what’s going to happen.

And there it was… Within a couple of hours and less, the news was confirmed.

CRISTIANO RONALDO BACK TO MANCHESTER UNITED.

IT WAS HOMECOMING TIME!

THE RETURN OF THE KING 👑

The news was too surreal to even understand what was reality and what was not.

It was a time to enjoy the legend back at the club. A time to cheer, Viva Ronaldo!

The feeling of Him going to City wasn’t completely out of the system, but this news was far bigger and better that it overcame that news soon enough.

A team that already has such a good manager, building the culture, the squad, already a couple of good signings this season with Sancho and Varane, but this was different…

A few hours have passed since that news, still celebrating, still enjoying, with a feeling that this season will be different.

Until that debut is on, enjoying these pictures, being in nostalgic mode…

#CR7 👑🔥❤️

Mistakes are a Part and Parcel of Life

Mistakes are a Part and Parcel of Life

Every time we make a mistake, we feel why, why did I do this? What could’ve happened differently?

We regret over those mistakes, and wonder would things have turned out differently if we hadn’t made those mistakes?

We also wonder, are we the only ones making such “stupid” mistakes?

Alas, the reality is, there’s hardly anyone who doesn’t make mistakes. Literally no one.

Making mistakes are a part and parcel of life. Without such mistakes, none of us would be where we are, individually and as a civilization too.

No matter how much of an amateur you think you are, or how great you have become according to others, sometimes you feel some things are right and you do those things according to that thought process without realizing you’re making a mistake.

Sometimes you make that mistake, you learn from it and carry on. Sometimes, you’re about to make that mistake but the universe stops you from making it, it wasn’t supposed to happen that way.

Either way, you learn in both those scenarios and eventually you carry those Learnings in your other phases of life as well.

But, the more important thing to remember is, mistakes are a part and parcel of life. No one can avoid them. No one can get away from them, irrespective of your knowledge and success and what not.

Repetition of an Idea

Repetition of an Idea

How many times have you noticed a particular idea executed repetitively over time?

You feel you’ve already seen this before, or why should I read or consume this again? You feel why did this person imitate an idea already done before?

But, when you think of it, you peel off all the layers, and you boil everything down to its bottom-est layer, and you notice that there are a handful of ideas which have been broken down into, created layers of, and served into hundreds and thousands of ideas.

Sometimes, the roots of an idea remain the same, but what becomes different from person to person and from time to time are two things –

A. Every individual brings their set of perspective to the table. How they perceive the world and what they think the world provides to them is how they filter these ideas and express it through their lens, with a fresh set of eyes.

B. Now, there are some, who have an extra zest of curiosity within them who experiment with every idea, observe it in the open, and then combine multiple ideas into one packaged new idea, a layer someone didn’t think of before.

Either of the scenarios allow everyone to be introduced to newer ideas, to newer perspectives, to newer point of views, and to evolve with these ideas over time.

Whenever you dismiss of an idea being repetitive (some people just copy and paste but that’s an entirely different point altogether), just try and look at what could be different and what you can learn from it.

Just Write Something

Just Write Something

Whether in the form of

– documenting your thoughts,

– documenting your day,

– sharing a piece of content,

– expressing your gratitude or in the form of affirmations in a journal,

Every individual should just write something.

When you write, it not only helps you instilling that same thing within you, but it also helps you give you a deeper perspective to what you think or rather who you are.

When you write, it helps you clear your mind, it helps you understand things better, it helps you see yourself in a third person perspective.

When the benefits outweigh the negatives, then there is some form of an advantage to try something out, to experiment with it and to see how it personally benefits you.

Why don’t you just write something, anything, and see how it makes you feel?

Every Word has an Idea

Every Word has an Idea

So many times, someone or the other is seeking an idea. An idea could be for anything, a project, a company, a book, a film, a blog post, literally anything.

Sometimes that hunt is easy and the idea comes quickly to you, and sometimes (everyone who has been seeking an idea has gone through this), that the hunt becomes too difficult at times too, and you don’t seem to get that idea soon enough.

But the more you observe, and the more you think in depth, and allow those thoughts to go as random as possible, you’ll notice that every word has an idea attached to it.

Every word means something. Now when you start looking at that exact word from different lenses and put it in different contexts, your mind comes up with thoughts around it, it automatically stitches that word with other words and now that same thought ends up thinking about a topic.

More often than not, some words are powerful enough, when you start thinking about that word and everytime you’re able to think of something new around it (pertaining to you having a open mindset, allowing your mind to wander around as well as having an interest towards whatever you’re thinking about).

The intersection of yours and others time

The intersection of yours and others time

Time is important. There shouldn’t be even a debate on that topic. Macro time, micro time, each individual should keep that in mind.

Macro, whatever you’re spending your time towards, is the process or the destination worth it?

Micro, every day we wake up with a set of tasks to complete, things to do, things to do when we’re free, and so on.

In the midst of that time management, there comes a time or many, when your time is intersected with others and their time with yours. Two scenarios, either you want their time or they want your time.

But, understanding this intersection is crucial. Because each person’s time is important.

When you want someone else’s time, you cannot “expect” it on your time, unless they’ve agreed for that time as well. Certainly so, because now person A wants something on their time, but B has their own things aligned according to their schedule (unless it was previously agreed upon), so how can person A expect person B to leave everything and follow person A’s schedule, just because it is convenient for them. And vice-versa as well. And same logic applies to multiple people in a group as well.

*A small segway to the topic… Another important factor to consider in this entire understanding is when your time impacts someone else’s.

When you’ve agreed to do something that involves other people, not just yourself, and there’s a certain time factor around it, then when your time impacts others, then that range of time is not worked according to you, but according to them. (not by being readily available to the other individual, but by respecting the timeline of the task)*

Quite often, because we feel time is limited, time is short and we’ve so much to do for the day, considering the micro perspective, we forget about this intersection of time with others, and how its not only about yourself.

When that is understood and implied, then eventually you see a distant improvement in how you operate with others and how any kind of personal or professional work or task or communication is done with ease. Just by understanding the intersection of your and others’ time.

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The Last 7 Days #76 (16.08 – 22.08)

With another Sunday, here’s the 76th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. How to find ‘flow’ while working from home, according to a peak performance expert? Read here.
  2. Why is a minute divided into 60 seconds, an hour into 60 minutes, yet there are only 24 hours in a day? Read it here.
  3. In Charts: How India Is Ageing. Check it out here.
  4. How to Avoid the ‘Kick the Cat’ Effect? Read here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. Olympic gold medalist Neeraj Chopra talks about what’s holding back our track and field athletes from beating world class international athletes, his diet and love for shopping, the biggest change in the minds of Indian athletes going to the Olympics and more, on Stars se Baatein with Salil. Listen here.
  2. Neuroscientist Wendy Suzuki discusses the brain-changing benefits of exercise on the Ted Talks Daily podcast. Check it out here.
  3. Harsh Jain, Co-Founder, and CEO of Dream Sports speaks about what inspired him to start Dream11, choosing the right investors to partner with, building the right company culture, and setting audacious goals for yourself, on The Kalaari Podcast. Listen to it here.
  4. Formula One driver Daniel Ricciardo cruises through on The SmartLess podcast, discussing everything from his early days to his journey in F1 and tid-bits about the sport. Check it out here.
  5. Actor David Harbour discusses the powerful ending to Season 3 of “Stranger Things”, auditioning for the role, the evolution of his character, and exciting things to expect in Season 4, on That Scene with Dan Patrick. Listen here.

What To Watch:

  1. Marc Fagelson travels into the auditory system to explore the constant ringing sensation of tinnitus, why it happens, and how to treat it. Watch here.
  2. Grant Cardone talks about the benefits of having an American mindset, the Secret to his SALES skills, Billionaire Mindset & so much more, on The Ranveer Show. Watch it here.
  3. Impromptu Antakshari, the sets of Sholay, winning a national award at the age of 5 and driving through the lanes of Bandra, is what this episode of The Bombay Journey with Sachin & Shriya Pilgaonkar has in store. Check it out here.
  4. Show Recommendation of the Week – The White Lotus (A social satire set at an exclusive Hawaiian resort follows the vacations of various hotel guests over the span of a week as they relax and rejuvenate in paradise) Now streaming on Hotstar here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Kuruthi (Kuruthi is about how enduring human relations that transcends boundaries struggle to survive trials of hatred.) Now streaming on Amazon Prime here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #21 (15.08 – 21.08)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. There are many types of wealth:
– you have a healthy body
– you grew up with loving parents
– in a position to donate and help
– you spend your time as you wish
– the people you love love you back
– freedom from envy, peace of mind
[@ Orange Book on Twitter]

2. One mark of a smart person is the ability to learn from people they don’t like. [Shane Parrish]

3. Resting is not a waste of time. It’s an investment in well-being.

Relaxing is not a sign of laziness. It’s a source of energy.

Breaks are not a distraction. They’re a chance to refocus attention.

Play is not a frivolous activity. It’s a path to connection and creativity.
[Adam Grant]

4. Ironically, the more we imitate others, the more we discover our unique style.

There’s a long lineage of comedians who tried to copy each other, failed, and became great themselves : Johnny Carson tried to copy Jack Benny, but failed and won six Emmy awards. Then, David Letterman tried to copy Johnny Carson, but failed and became one of America’s great television hosts.

Reflecting on his own influences, Conan O’Brien sair: “It is our failure to become our perceived ideal that ultimately defines us and makes us unique.”

All these comedians learned that imitation reveals our identity, especially when we fall short of those we admire. To improve your writing, binge-read your favorite writers and imitate their style when you write. Spoiler alert: You won’t be able to do it perfectly. Your voice will reveal itself when you try to imitate them – which is exactly what you want to have happen.

Don’t seek originality. Instead, imitate others so passionately that the glitter of their brilliance shines upon your craft. Imitation the closest you can get to a conversation with the writer. Aim for perfection but pay attention to your shortcomings, for they hold the seeds of your individuality.

Imitate, then innovate. [A mini-essay by David Perrell]

5. Emotions usually only last 90 seconds when you observe them without judgment and gently breath in and out. Many people create and reinforce disempowering emotional loops by getting sucked into thinking about what they are feeling. Then… they feel what they are thinking about and unknowingly create a self-fulfilling disempowering doom loop that gets reinforced and cemented deeper and deeper into the subconscious. [John Assaraf]

Which side are you on, black or white?

Which side are you on, black or white?

We consider everything as black or white. Everything is either at one side or the other. Everyone chooses a side. Based on where they align with their values and what matches with their perspective.

There’s a lot to be uncovered in the middle, i.e. the gray area. But that requires time and efforts and a bit of digging to get around.

So, instead, people choose one of the two sides where they think they align with. Sometimes, the black, sometimes, the white.

But, what if instead of choosing a side and sticking to it, you try and wear both the colours for once? Check out both the sides, try and understand both the perspectives, both the point of views, and look at everything from the middle, being in the gray area.

When you do that, then you are not opting for a side, but instead you are the third person noticing what’s happening and creating a personal point of view with what your approach should be, instead of aligning with someone else’s or instead of thinking “what the right side” would be.

That approach starts with an open mindset of not wanting to be on a side, wanting to try out both black and white and maybe even try to align with both sides of the coin instead of shouting heads or tails.

If we don’t learn from the past

If we don’t learn from the past

You can not travel back in time. You cannot change what has already happened. You cannot change its outcome. So there is one option left, to focus on the present and how it influences the Future.

As true as that may be, we cannot forget the past. That past is a part of our life. That past has made our present, however it may be.

Therefore, we must learn everything from the past, as much as we can. Ours and everyone else’s.

History speaks a lot. So when you think about yourself, your past says what you did to get here, and depending on your level of satisfaction, whether you must continue down those same steps or start changing them.

Similarly, thinking about the human race’s history, our country’s history, we understand the culture, the background, the mistakes made, how certain elements of history are always repeated.

The ultimate point being, if we don’t learn from our past, we can never influence our future in a way we want to. Sure the past is the past, but the present is because of the past, and in order to change that future, we must learn from that past so we can make those changes in the Now.

As complicated as that may seem, all answers lie in the past. And we need to learn from it.

Figuring out yourself is the biggest decision one has to make

Figuring out yourself is the biggest decision one has to make

The world is developing at a rate where at every step of the way, there’s chaos.

Chaos about all the necessary things in life, chaos about all the “luxurious” things in life, there’s chaos everywhere.

Fill in the societal pressure of doing a certain something by a certain age.

Now, for most people, with the chaos and the pressure, they start following a certain route, doing everything that falls along their way, without questioning too many things… And basically following all the norms.

But does that mean they have figured themselves out!?

In most cases, unfortunately that’s not the answer. Following a route and knowing yourself what you truly want are two different things.

Figuring yourself out is a task in itself. Some wait their entire lives to do so, some don’t at all. Some very quickly, and with some it happens at their own timeline.

But, a question of this stature falls down to a bigger question, What do you align yourself with?

Forget all associations, forget everything that society has taught, forget all institutions and forget everything that was externally built… Now ask yourself, what do you align yourself with?

Sitting down with a pen and paper and asking that question to yourself will help you jot down everything that comes to your mind, of course sitting stress-free and schedule-free.

What do you align with – values, character traits, interests, hobbies, tastes, type of people, wants, needs, etc.

This isn’t something that is obtained in a single sitting, but one that definitely get you started. You have your whole life to figure out yourself, and everyday you might discover something new, but that intention to start figuring out yourself is the biggest decision that one has to make.

Getting back on track

Getting back on track

Life’s about ups and downs. When there’s an up, there’s a down as well. That is applicable to macro life, and micro to the days as well.

Some habits you love, some you want to get rid of. Some things you’re able to check off the list, some you aren’t able to.

And sometimes those micro downs get you down, with a feeling that you didn’t do it (when you could’ve), with a feeling of what now…

Sometimes you can’t do anything about it… Sometimes you have a bigger agenda to follow and you lose a track of those things…

But it is when you get back on track, that action, that feeling is something else. It gets you in the mood, it gets you in your groove. You feel like you were missing the action and now you’re back.

There’s nothing like getting back on track, when your mind is set to it, when you’re looking forward to it and you execute it.

My Sister’s Birthday – the biggest event of the year!

My Sister’s Birthday – the biggest event of the year!

There are few moments when the destination is better than the journey, and this was that moment, when after days and weeks of time and efforts and constant planning and executing was done to get this big day into motion…

My SISTER’S BIRTHDAY 🥳🎉

She always ensures that each of our day’s goes top notch, and she deserves the same! We set out with our goal of making her day special, and right from our gifts to our decorations to the cake to how we spent our day, the intent was the same. ( We – Mom was by my side at every step of the planning, with dad at the constant call to help every now and then, this was a proper team effort).

Our theme was one of pink and black, with a ‘Messy Chocolate Mousse Cake’ courtesy #RTHCooks, I added the messy to the name after how the exterior turned out to be a bit messy. But trust me, the reviews of the taste were just fantastic, I honestly didn’t expect that. For anyone who cooks, they just want the recipient to be glad.

Another big moment, now that I have shifted to clean eating (which has turned into a family collaboration as well), and me not heading outside, this was a huge one for me to go out for the first time since March’20 to dine out and remove the mask as well.

Nonetheless, we chose Kabana at Conrad as our spot, one that turned out to be unexpectedly amazing with their ambience as well as their food. Just wow. Special shoutout to their Garlic Naan, their Chilli Schezwan sauce, and their Truffle Edamame Dim-Sums. In all, a fabulous moment of this day. (Thanks for the cake, Conrad)

Let’s come to the gifts now, all unwrapped two hours before the day got over (that’s how fast the time ran out), but we got some amazing reactions from the birthday girl. (Spot out the gifts in the picture, it’d be too long to pin point everything here)

Am I forgetting to mention that hug picture?

Well, my sister’s a hugger and I’m not, so I did the one thing I could – gifted her a Long Distance Hug Pillow so she can hug it whenever she wants to hug me 😂

Alas, Happy Birthday @kudihighonlife. Hope you had a fantabulous day, and it was as much fun for you, as we had and as we had set it out to be. ❤️❤️❤️

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The Last 7 Days #75 (09.08 – 15.08)

With another Sunday, here’s the 75th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. There is more to generational analysis than the pseudo-science that plagues it. Read here.
  2. Is anything cool anymore? Read more here.
  3. How does the world’s fastest man Usain Bolt mentally prepare for a race? Check it out here.
  4. HBO’s ‘The White Lotus‘ Elevates Tension To An Art Form (Read this only if you’ve watched The White Lotus) Read here.
  5. When Writers Cave to Social Media Scolds, by Kareem Abdul-Jabbar. Read it here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. On The Decoder with Nilay Patel, Nilay and Jack Conte, co-founder, and CEO of Patreon, talk about how Patreon’s model as “membership” works, what Patreon’s relationship is to Apple and the app store, and where the overall creator economy is going on the internet. Listen here.
  2. HubSpot co-founder and CTO Dharmesh Shah shares his thought process behind buying the Hustle, how he thinks about time & money, and how HubSpot came to be, and more on the My First Million podcast. Check it out here.
  3. On the Fittr podcast, Jitendra Chouksey examines the practice of eating breakfast down the ages. Listen to it here.
  4. On 22 Yarns with Gaurav Kapur, Dinesh Karthik chat about his foray into commentary, rooming with Shikhar Dhawan in his U-19 days, his trip to Belgrade with Sunil Gavaskar, the captaincy handover at KKR in 2020, his relationship with Shah Rukh Khan, and the Mushtaq Ali wins with Tamil Nadu. Listen here.
  5. Matt Damon joins the Armchair Expert to talk about his experience writing Good Will Hunting with Ben Affleck, how your subjective experience changes when you become famous, how easy it is to be generous when things are going your way, and more. Check it out here.

What To Watch:

  1. Effects Different Foods Have on Your Brain. Watch here.
  2. Fitness experts debunk 17 exercise myths. Watch it here.
  3. Show Recommendation of the Week – Dave (“Dave” centers on a neurotic man in his late 20s who has convinced himself that he’s destined to be one of the best rappers of all time. Now he must convince his closest friends because, with their help, he actually might convince the world. Simultaneously exasperating and inspiring to his friends, he vows to leave no stone unturned on his quest to become the next superstar.) Now streaming on Hotstar here.
  4. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Kumbalangi Nights (Saji, Bonny, Bobby and Franky are siblings who mostly do not get along. However, a series of events forces them to keep their animosity aside and support each other.) Now streaming on Amazon Prime here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #20 (08.08 – 14.08)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. Sociologist, historian, and activist W. E. B. Du Bois with some life advice in a letter to his daughter: “The main thing is the YOU beneath the clothes and skin—the ability to do, the will to conquer, the determination to understand and know this great, wonderful, curious world.

Don’t shrink from new experiences and customs. Take the cold bath bravely. Enter into the spirit of your big bedroom. Enjoy what is and not pine for what is not.

Read some good, heavy, serious books just for discipline: Take yourself in hand and master yourself. Make yourself do unpleasant things, so as to gain the upper hand of your soul.”

Source: The Correspondence of W. E. B. Du Bois (via James Clear’s newsletter)

2. There are countless ways to make a point. You can clearly demonstrate that you are angry, smart, concerned, stronger, faster, or more prepared than the person you’re engaging with.

But making a point isn’t the same thing as making a difference.

To make a difference, we need the practical empathy to realize that the other person doesn’t know what you know, doesn’t believe what you believe, and might not want what you want. We have to move from where we are and momentarily understand where they are.

When we make a point, we reject all of this. When we make a point, we establish our power in one way or another, but we probably don’t change very much.

Change comes about when the story the other person tells themselves begins to change. If all you do is make a point, you’ve handed them a story about yourself. When you make a change, you’ve helped them embrace a new story about themselves.

And even though it’s more fun (and feels safe, in some way) to make a point, if we really care, we’ll do the hard work to make a difference instead. [Seth Godin]

3. Time away from something or someone gives us perspective on that something or someone. [Mark Manson] (Check out more here – https://markmanson.net/newsletters/mindfck-monthly-91)

4. Most people disagree on social media in the most undesirable way either because they’ve not learned about superior methods of disagreeing or just wish to outrage to get likes. This chart by Paul Graham is a good way to know if you disagree well. [via Kunal Shah’s Twitter account]

5. Things people aren’t afraid to say when they have psychological safety:

  • I don’t know
  • I made a mistake
  • I disagree
  • I might be wrong
  • I have a concern
  • I have an idea

[via Adam Grant’s Twitter and image from @ lizandmollie on Twitter]

More Writing, More Depth

More Writing, More Depth

How do you observe something at a deeper level? How do you notice what’s beneath the surface? How do you break the structures of these walls that are built around you and start asking questions?

The answer to that lies in writing.

The more you write, the more you understand your thoughts. You start laying down all these thoughts, you start connecting them, you start observing layers you didn’t before, you start pondering about different things here and there, and then comes the depth.

With more writing, not in a single day, but with practice and observation, comes more depth. The more you write, the more you think, the more you question, the more answers you seek.

Something on like, on such a deeper level, doesn’t come with your own thoughts, or by communicating with someone, but laying it all brick by brick and then witnessing this structure that you’ve built.

Whether you write for yourself personally, or you write publically like this blog, every time it unlocks something different in you, especially more, when you write with a purpose of why are you even writing it.

Are you really that person?

Are you really that person?

Every individual on the internet with a social media account has a persona that they put out there. Now, for some that’s their authentic persona, but for most that’s a modified image of them, or just one of the images for social media.

Now, why blame just social media, right? Whether it is in regards to your colleagues, or your friends, or your loved ones, most people have a different persona for each situation.

Each of these particular personas include a set of values, character traits and habits that represent the essence of that persona.

Now, bring in self-awareness, understand who you truly are, what your values are, what your character traits are, what is your purpose, what is it that you’re putting out…

Once that is settled, compare that with your other personas, and ask yourself… Are you really that person?

Because, if not, then how long can you act it out. Plus, what’s the reason for not portraying that authenticity? What are you trying to hide? With that also comes a bunch of other questions, which you can easily figure out once you’re in that spot.

But, moreover, the main essence of this question is to realize who you truly are, and so you don’t confuse your own identity in the midst of all these other portrayed identities.

Hold on! I don’t want to think this!

Hold on! I don’t want to think this!

Each and every minute, daily, we are in a constant rush of thoughts. Say, roughly around 60,000 to 80,000 in a day.

Now, some things you constantly think about, some just come to you randomly, some through an observation or communication. One thought leads to another and another, and at times, there’s a whirlwind of thoughts around a singular topic.

There comes a time, or many, when a thought starts expanding, that you don’t want to think about at all.

You may choose to distract yourself with something else at that moment, or try thinking about something else… But sometimes you just have to tell yourself, “Hold on! I don’t want to think this!”.

Does it work? Try it out. Your brain listens to everything. Why not this as well?

Not thinking about the present, past or future

Not thinking about the present, past or future

Aren’t we in a constant turmoil, always thinking about what’s going on, what’s going to happen next, how to plan for it, what happened before, etc.

Either in the form of memories, or tasks to do, or how something is affecting us, we are always thinking about the present, past, or future. Always.

That turmoil affects someone more who wants to be in control, who doesn’t want to let the situation control them, and eventually thinking more than others about everything in these three time scenarios.

It’s now of course very easy to say this, but what takes an enormous amount of practice and patience, but even a minute worth of not thinking about the past, present, or future is worth it.

To not think about yourself or how anything affects us, or anything that needs to be done, just to be with yourself and to stay in that silence, even if it’s for a minute is definitely a feeling hard to describe. But one that brings great solace to your mind and to you.

What is this moment telling you?

What is this moment telling you?

Every moment of our life, something or the other is happening, in the form of a thought, a communication or an action, every moment has something of its own.

But what is this moment telling you?

Either as a lesson, or a learning, what are you receiving from that particular moment?

Sometimes we rush so much from one moment to the next, we forget to take in what we are receiving. We don’t soak it in.

Sometimes, we have to stay still for a second (or learn stillness in general) to understand what that moment is telling you, and what we can take away from it.

Next time, simply ask yourself out of the blue… ‘What is this particular moment telling me?’, until it becomes a habit.

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The Last 7 Days #74 (02.08 – 08.08)

With another Sunday, here’s the 74th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. Has the pandemic aggravated cyberchondria? Read here.
  2. Cracking the science of coconut. Check it out here.
  3. Scientists spot light behind a black hole for the first time. Read more here.
  4. If We All Bought Less Stuff, We Could Be Happier and Work Fewer Hours. Read here to know what it means.
  5. A Harvard-trained sports medicine doctor shares the ‘super easy’ stretch she does every day to relieve lower back pain. Read here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. In this episode of The Varun Duggi Show, CEO & Co-Founder of Under25 Anto Philip talks about what keeps us going as creators and how focusing on content that serves a purpose over just the numbers drives so much more value. Listen here.
  2. On this episode of The Wire Talks, host Sidharth Bhatia talks to director Hansal Mehta about how the lockdowns have affected the film industry, the closure of cinemas, and the future of films and the way films will be made in the coming months and years. Check it out here.
  3. Suchita Salwan (Founder and CEO – LBB) on this episode of the Pepper Spotlight podcast talks about how LBB looks at content and the impact it drives as a marketing strategy. Listen to it here.
  4. On the Happy Sad Confused podcast, James Gunn reflects on the low-point of his career, his resurrection thanks to THE SUICIDE SQUAD, and more. Check it here.
  5. Kate Winslet joins The Awardist to talk about her hit HBO limited series Mare of Easttown — why audiences connected to much with her grieving mother character, getting the look just right (that’s a wig!), caring for Jean Smart after an on-set injury, SNL’s Murdur Durdur sketch, and much more. Listen here.

What To Watch:

  1. Sandeep Nailwal, the co-founder of Polygon, talks about the myths and assumptions around how crypto works, the future of cryptocurrency and blockchain, and more, on The Ranveer Show. Watch here.
  2. On the Naan-Curry Podcast, Sadaf and Archit talk about the global history of chocolate, the economics of growing and consuming chocolate in India, and more. Watch it here.
  3. Business Insider breaks down how USA Olympians make money, and why the system left many of America’s top athletes broke. Check it out here.
  4. Show Recommendation of the Week – Marvel Studios Assembled (A behind-the-scenes look at the series and movies of the Marvel Cinematic Universe, including “WandaVision,” The Falcon and the Winter Soldier” and “Loki.”) Now streaming on Hotstar here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – The Suicide Squad (The government sends the most dangerous supervillains in the world — Bloodsport, Peacemaker, King Shark, Harley Quinn and others — to the remote, enemy-infused island of Corto Maltese. Armed with high-tech weapons, they trek through the dangerous jungle on a search-and-destroy mission, with only Col. Rick Flag on the ground to make them behave.)

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


My Weekly Learnings #19 (01.08 – 07.08)

My Weekly Learnings #19 (01.08 – 07.08)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. The Color of Your Thoughts
If you bend your body into a sitting position every day for a long enough period of time, the curvature of your spine changes. A doctor can tell from a radiograph (or an autopsy) whether someone sat at a desk for a living. If you shove your feet into tiny, narrow dress shoes each day, your feet begin to take on that form as well.

The same is true for our minds. If you hold a perpetually negative outlook, soon enough everything you encounter will seem negative. Close it off and you’ll become closed-minded. Color it with the wrong thoughts and your life will be dyed the same. [The Daily Stoic 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living]

2. The ultimate form of intrinsic motivation is when a habit becomes part of your identity. It’s one thing to say I’m the type of person who wants this. It’s something very different to say I’m the person who is this. The more pride you have in a particular aspect of your identity, the more motivated you will be to maintain the habits associated with it.

True behavior change is identity change. You might start a habit because of motivation, but the only reason you’ll stick with one is that it becomes part of your identity.⁠ [James Clear]

3. You might know some people who have stayed healthy into old age … and others who seem to be old before their time. Some of this difference is because of genes (i.e., genotype) and some of it is a result of how genes express themselves on a cellular level as they interact with nutrition, lifestyle, and environment (i.e., phenotype). ⁣⠀
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Identical twins share the same genes, but the older they get, and especially if their nutrition, lifestyle, and/or environment substantially diverge, the way they express these same genes also diverges. The result is that their susceptibility to age-related diseases, the way they look as they age, and even their lifespans also diverge. ⁣⠀
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The key thing to remember is that, while we can’t change our genes, there’s a great deal we can do to influence how they express themselves. While aging isn’t a choice, we can make choices that influence how gracefully we age, because our choices do influence how we express our genes. ⁣[Neurohacker Collective]

4. At Steve Jobs’ funeral Jony Ive said: “I think he better than anyone understood that while ideas ultimately can be so powerful, they begin as fragile, barely formed thoughts, so easily just squished.”

So protect young ideas like a bird protects its eggs.

Later, they can fly. [David Perell] (https://twitter.com/david_perell/status/1422634978064613383)

5. Education is uncomfortable.
Studying nutrition will reveal weaknesses in your health.
Studying money will reveal weaknesses in your finances.
Studying philosophy will reveal weaknesses in your mentality.

True for any subject.

That’s why most people don’t do it. [Jack Butcher]

Off Days

Off Days

Sometimes you’re just not feeling it, sometimes it’s just one of those days, it’s not a recurring thing, but once in a while such a day comes by. I call it, the off day.

These off days, when they come by, aren’t about feeling unmotivated or about being unfocused in the macro, but in the micro, may be so.

On such days, you aren’t interested in anything or anyone. What keeps you going are your habits that you stick by, for some that might not be the case. But usually, the habits keep you on track, other than that you’re just off balance.

Either due to exterior circumstances or maybe because of interior struggles, something ticks off these off days.

It could be a single day, or it could turn out to be a few days or even more, but that switches from being off days into something that should be addressed.

Usually, you just have to wait for this feeling to get over or rather the day to get over… and eventually you just snap back into momentum the next day and you realize it was just an off day.

When more things are going wrong than right

When more things are going wrong than right

You are making a list right now. A list about your life. A list that says everything that’s going right in your life right now. And besides it, everything that’s going wrong in your life.

But, all of a sudden, whilst noting down these pointers, you realise that more things are going wrong in your life than right. You are suddenly horrified at that feeling.

A sudden thought comes, ‘Why is everything so wrong about my life?’

Now, there could be two possible scenarios ahead.

Looking at this list, you could spiral down a pit hole just wondering how did everything go so wrong in every phase of your life, every tiny element against you and just worry about the what ifs and what nots.

Or, you could take a breather. Notice what right and wrong looks for you. Imagine how different life would be if all of those things had gone right for you… Do you like that life? Would you be where you are, with your learnings and experience, if everything that has happened with you, didn’t happen? How many of these situations are in your control, and moreover what can you do about it? If you aren’t doing anything about it, then well, can you complain?

When things start going wrong, and even the tiniest of things start going wrong and it starts piling up, a ton of thoughts and emotions rush through your mind. And you certainly don’t like them. But that path leads to a dark path which you certainly won’t like, because it’s just darkness, negative thoughts, negative emotions and what not. That starts affecting everything, starting from your mind and body to everything that you think and do, and how you interact and more importantly, what you think about life.

Because at that moment, what you think about life will also determine everything that happens to you in the now and in the future, irrespective of whatever happened in the past.

The present comes in the way of the past

The present comes in the way of the past

How often do you think about the past? Your past memories? Your past experiences? Your past mistakes? Your past glories?

Some things you cherish. Some things you don’t. But the good part is that you understand those things that you don’t. Now you want to get over those things, now you try to heal from those things…

But sometimes the present comes in the way of the past.

Your present issues… Your present problems… Your present perspective… Those things sometimes come in the middle of that path. Now you wonder whether you should tackle the present or the past? You may try to juggle both, but then you fail at both. You choose one, but the baggage of the other becomes heavier. Now what?

Well, how about just tackling things on the level of priority as it affects you? Irrespective of the present or the past? The time doesn’t matter, it’s effectiveness does. Now you can choose more easily the moments you want to tackle, the moments you want to heal from, the moments you want to pay attention to.

Now, may be the present doesn’t come in the way of the past.

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The date is August 3, 2026

The date is August 3, 2026. 5 Years from Today. You imagine today is that day. Just visualize it!

Now, ask yourself the following questions…

Do you want to be mentally healthy?
Do you want to be physically healthy?
Do you want to be free of all ailments?
Do you want a positive voice in your head?
Do you want to have less anxiety and/or less stress?
Do you want to be satisfied or feel fulfilled in life?
Do you want to have fewer problems in your life?
Do you want to evolve to a higher version than what you were 5 years ago?

In order to say ‘YES‘ to those questions 5 years from today, the work for it starts TODAY.

Your today’s actions may not have an impact today, but they definitely have an impact ONE year from today, FIVE years from today, and TWENTY years from today.

The life you live today affects your future, no one else’s.

The three focus points of my life

The three focus points of my life

Mind. Body. Breath. The three most important aspects of our life. The three focus points of my life. Each of those areas plays an individual role in our lives. Moreover, in our lifetime, either beforehand or after, you have to start taking care or start paying attention to all those three areas. But here’s the important part, your mind, body, and breath play a role in each other’s areas as well. Your breath plays a part in the working of your mind and body. Your body plays a role in your mind and breath. Your breath plays a part in your mind and body. When one fails, all fail. When you work on one aspect, it has an impact on all three aspects.

Knowing that, understanding the advantages of working on those areas, understanding how those three aspects of our lives are interconnected, but also have an external impact on all areas of our life as well.

Whether it is how you live, how long you want to live, how well you want to live, what’s going on in your mind, is your mind well-fed, what is the voice inside your head telling you, how does your body regulate your energy, how often do the foods you eat cause a negative impact on your thoughts, on your day as well, how eating something nutritious immediately turns that scale, how is your breath affecting your actions, how is your food affecting your stress levels… These and more are questions that every individual should ask themselves… The sooner you start, the sooner you start seeing the results and the impact of these results on your life and the various external aspects of your life.

Mix all of this, with self-awareness, and I boiled down my life to three specific focus points and what do I need to about it, now, and how that affects my future. Thus, I focused on the following three areas… It took time, a lot of patience, and understanding, and experimentation, but eventually I realized the change once I started walking down that path.

1. I replaced the foods understanding their impact on my mind and body

2. I worked on the chemistry of my breath

3. I changed the voice in my head

All three individual areas of life, seem as if they don’t impact each other or the external aspects of our life, but they do, more than one can think of.
Replacing the foods helped not just my body, but also the health of my mind, and my breath. Working on my breath helped me realize how it impacts every moment of my life, how it impacts what I do in the very next moment, and how it’s signaling my emotions too. The voice in the head is the biggest work that can ever be done, one that is initially shaped by society’s prejudices, biases, and whatnot, and that’s how we grow up. But work on it, and that voice can become a positive, optimistic tone that helps you and pushes you to help others as well.

None of this has a destination though when you start working on it, it’s a lifetime work-in-progress, but every day you see the progress, and every tomorrow there’s an evolution waiting to happen.

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The Last 7 Days #73 (26.07 – 01.08)

With another Sunday, here’s the 73rd edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. How Nothing designed its Ear 1 earphones to beat Apple’s AirPods? Read here.
  2. Simone Biles withdrew from final ‘to focus on my mental health’ — here’s how to tell if you need a break. Read more here.
  3. Avoid these 24 overused words and phrases that make you sound ‘pretentious,’ say grammar experts. Check it out here.
  4. What Makes Music Universal? Read here.
  5. Eternal Change for No Energy: A Time Crystal Finally Made Real. Read here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. Dr. Andrew Huberman on Optimizing Sleep, Enhancing Performance, Reducing Anxiety, Increasing Testosterone, and Using the Body to Control the Mind, on The Tim Ferriss Show. Listen here.
  2. In this episode of Life Kit, a culinary historian, a professor, and a nutritionist share their advice on how to carry on culinary traditions. Listen to it here.
  3. Sarvesh Shashi on his journey to building SARVA Yoga, on the AngelList India Radio podcast. Check it out here.
  4. On Cyrus Says, F2 Racing car driver Jehan Daruvala talks about starting out in racing so young, Parsis and their love for cars, how he started karting at a very young age, how it all works – Formula 1, 2 & 3, how it all starts from Go-karting, how Jehan moved up the ranks to be in Formula 2 right now, and tons more. Listen here.
  5. Matt Damon joins the Happy Sad Confused podcast to chat about his new film, STILLWATER, his choice of films, Good Will Hunting, and much more! Listen to it here.

What To Watch:

  1. Dr. Baland Jalal talks about Lucid Dreaming, Spiritualism, the Occult to the Human Mind, explained from a neuroscience perspective, on The Ranveer Show. Watch here.
  2. Co-CEO and Chief Content Officer of Netflix, Ted Sarandos talks about his impeccable storytelling instincts, the art of dealing with artists, and the future of entertainment on Film Companion. Check it out here.
  3. Sadhguru on how to overcome compulsive emotional patterns? Watch here.
  4. Short Film Recommendation of the Week – Natkhat (It stars Vidya Balan as a mother educating her young son about gender equality) Now streaming on Voot here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Sarpatta Parambarai (A young man from the Black Town of 1970s segregated Madras finds an opportunity to redeem his boxing clan and himself from years of defeat.) Now streaming on Amazon Prime here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


My Weekly Learnings #18 (25.07 – 31.07)

My Weekly Learnings #18 (25.07 – 31.07)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

For this week’s edition, I’m sharing a third edition of the quotes from Star Wars : The Clone Wars (continuing from the first set here and the second set here(updating the quotes as and when I watch more episodes)

Star Wars : The Clone Wars. A series created by George Lucas, began with a theatrical feature film, and is set in the fictional Star Wars galaxy during the three years between the prequel films Episode II: Attack of the Clones and Episode III: Revenge of the Sith.
At the start of each episode is a line that summarizes a lesson, a takeaway from the episode and its definitely something to learn.

S02E01 (Holocron Heist) : A lesson learned is a lesson earned

S02E02 (Cargo of Doom) : Overconfidence is the most dangerous form of carelessness

S02E03 (Children of the Force) : The first step to correcting a mistake is patience

S02E17 (Bounty Hunters) : Courage makes heroes, but trust builds friendship.

S02E18 (The Zillo Beast) : Choose what is right, not what is easy.

S02E19 (The Zillo Beast Strikes Back) : The most dangerous beast is the beast within

S02E04 (Senate Spy) : A true heart should never be doubted.

S02E05 (Landing at Point Rain) : Believe in yourself or no one else will

S02E06 (Weapons Factory) : No gift is more previous than trust

S02E07 (Legacy of Terror) : Sometimes, accepting help is harder than offering it

— will hopefully update more in the coming series as and when I watch more episodes —

A preview of Flipping the Script

A preview of Flipping the Script

There’s a script written for everything. For everyone. For age. For work. For life. For relationships. For achievements. For success. For health. For money. There’s a script for everything, a script that everyone must follow. These are also known as the standards set by the society.

Now there has to be an origin story for each of these scripts. Someone started it and then followed on. Someone started it to take advantage of others. No one usually questions these scripts though. As long as everything is followed by those standards, everything’s perfect.

Only with awareness, followed by questioning everything, with a mindset of curiosity and growth, are people able to snap out of these scripts and pave a new path for themselves. They are called ‘different’ by the society.

Now, today is just a tease of what Flipping the Script looks like. Whilst I would like to deep dive into every topic and expand on what this flipping looks like, today is just a tease of that topic and work for you to do, if you’d like to flip the script too. Question the usual, question what everyone has been doing for so long, question what you’ve been doing, and imagine a scenario when that script is flipped. What does it look like?

Are you buying it for yourself?

Are you buying it for yourself?

How often do you buy something? How often do you post about it on social media? Oh, you aren’t active there? How often do you tell your friends then about what you bought?

We have this feeling that we really want something, then we buy it, then we’ll share it everywhere and more often than not, the happiness of telling everyone about it takes over the happiness of having that thing.

Where does that root from?

We have this dire need within us to be better than others, to be superior, to choose communities that have the same beliefs as us. When we are compared to someone else, we should be the one chosen. We want to constantly look down upon others. Because that makes us feel better about ourselves. Now how does that happen? Who cares about characteristics or values, right? Or who cares about being secure with themselves?

So, now we buy something that someone else couldn’t. We will go somewhere where someone else couldn’t. And talk about it, on and on and on. We’ll constantly post about it.

Now, let’s get one thing clear. Sharing something about your life isn’t wrong. You want your audience, you want your friends and your relatives to be updated with what’s going on with you. With that intent, sure, it’s a good thing.

But when it turns into, oh let me show that person what I bought, or let me tell everyone what I’m able to do, then it turns uglier. Now whatever you’re doing isn’t for your self at all. Now, there’s boasting about it, and what not.

When you don’t tell a single soul about it, and/or you don’t share it on social media or anywhere else, and yet you’re satisfied with what you’ve bought, well then, you have bought something truly for yourself.

Random Thoughts

Random Thoughts

All our thoughts aren’t focused in one direction. How can they be?

Our thoughts range between 12,000 to 80,000 in a day, depending on the individual.

In that quantity, they aren’t focused on one topic alone. From time to time, maybe in minutes or hours, those thoughts range between a ton of topics.

And most of them are just random thoughts.

So random, you wouldn’t know what to do with them. But what can you do? How many times can you even divert your thoughts to a particular topic only?

But here’s the thing… Every thought has something to say! No matter how random they are, how matter how meaningless they may seem, every thought has something to say.

More often than not, its these random thoughts that speak volumes. They may lead up to something about us that we didn’t see before, or maybe you’re ideating on something and these random thoughts bring something to light that help you in that direction.

The point being, instead of dismissing these random thoughts, we should admire them and cherish them, and try to extract what can be extracted from them, instead of being disappointed that you’re not in the right space, or that you’re distracted.

These random thoughts sometimes speak more than we can see.

Half the things said, don’t need to be

Half the things said, don’t need to be

An individual averagely speaks 125 to 250 words per minute. Now imagine, if this individual speaks on for hours and hours in a day…

Our brain is similar to a programming machine, everything that is seen through our eyes, heard through our ears, said through our mouth, touched through our hands and legs, everything is recorded. To that, a certain emotion is then attached and accordingly the voice in your head is formed too.

So, what you then speak whether about yourself or someone else or anything else eventually becomes a part of you.

Now… Imagine if everything that you say in a day is recorded externally and is then read back to you. Would you be proud of everything that has come out of your mouth?

Do half the things that you uttered needed to be said to yourself, or to someone else at all?

How many times did your emotions take over and you said something that you shouldn’t have?

Moreover, what is the impact of everything that you’re talking about? What does it even mean? Does it have any meaning? Or are you then speaking just for the sake of it?

Eventually, when you keenly observe, when you analyze, when you understand, you realize that half the things said, don’t need to be.

A forceful break, regards the body

A forceful break, regards the body

How its often told that you should balance your life, that you should take macro breaks in between things, and micro breaks in between different tasks during your day as well…

Sometimes we do it and sometimes we don’t.

Those breaks are as beneficial as the things that we were doing if not for those breaks. Both have their time and place and importance.

A break of that kind allows you to rest, to rejuvenate, to gather yourself to go all out again.

But sometimes, unknowingly, your body decides to give you a break as well (either because you didn’t know you needed it or because you were taking on too much).

A forceful break, temporary, is sometimes handed over to you, when you can’t take a decision but you just have to accept that break and wait for things to get back better again.

Such breaks could be of any kind, but instead of freaking out, may be we just ought to listen to our mind and body, and just understand the signals being sent to us, and the takeaways from those signals.

Sometimes, a break is forced onto you, regards the body.

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The Last 7 Days #72 (19.07 – 25.07)

With another Sunday, here’s the 72nd edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. What if everyone’s nutrition was personalized? Read more here.
  2. Why does Mitochondrial health affect aging? 4 science-backed ways to rejuvenate mitochondria. Read here.
  3. 5 ways ‘Ted Lasso’ shows how effective leadership can be achieved through kindness. Check it here.
  4. From clip art to Comic Sans: These screenshots from 25 years ago show just how much the internet has changed. Check it out here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. In this episode of The School of Greatness, Lewis and Dr. Emeran Mayer discuss the biggest triggers for inflammation, the foods we should eat & avoid to improve our gut health, why we’ve become so addicted to sugar & the effects it has on our body, whether our brain or gut health affects our body more, how our digestive system functions, and so much more! Listen here. (There’s a part two to this episode, where they discuss what the mind actually is, finding a higher purpose have on your mind, the key changes to make today to improve your health, and more)
  2. On The Daily Stoic, Ryan Holiday talks to Dave Asprey about the benefits of intermittent fasting, how to optimize your life to maximize both physical and mental performance, and more. Listen to it here.
  3. Facebook COO, Sheryl Sandberg on changing culture and lessons from loss, on Just B with Bethenny Frankel. Check it out here.
  4. In this week’s episode of 22 Yarns, Suresh Raina joins Gaurav Kapur to discuss his newly released autobiography, Believe. They talk about the story behind the book’s name, the 2011 World Cup triumph, Greg Chappell’s impact on his career, his learnings under Dravid’s captaincy, his time as Gujarat Lions captain & his special relationship with MS Dhoni. Listen here.
  5. On Happy Sad Confused Podcast, Tom Hiddleston deep dives into his beloved Marvel character, plus some geeking out about one of his favorite comfort movies, “Cast Away”. Listen to it here.

What To Watch:

  1. Jack Dorsey, Cathie Wood, Elon Musk discuss Bitcoin as a tool for economic empowerment. Watch it here.
  2. Sadhguru sits down to discuss identity, consciousness, inner freedom, human evolution, and his book Karma, A Yogi’s Guide to Crafting Your Destiny, on The Tony Robbins Podcast. Watch here.
  3. On this episode of Cyrus Says, he is joined by Pratik Gandhi to talk about his critically acclaimed series ‘Scam 1992’, his love for the theatre, performing a monologue in three different languages on the same day that got him into the Limca Book of Records, and tons more. Check it out here.
  4. Series Recommendation of the Week – Kevin Can F**k Himself (A dark comedy that alternates between traditional multi-camera sitcom and single-camera drama. Set in Worcester, Mass., the series follows the journey of Allison McRoberts, a stereotypically smart and beautiful sitcom wife, who is married to Kevin, a husky, self-centered man-child who is clearly punching above his weight. After making a dark discovery, Allison teams up with neighbor Patty O’Connor as she attempts to escape the confines of her life and take control of her fate.)
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Black Widow (Natasha Romanoff, aka Black Widow, confronts the darker parts of her ledger when a dangerous conspiracy with ties to her past arises. Pursued by a force that will stop at nothing to bring her down, Natasha must deal with her history as a spy, and the broken relationships left in her wake long before she became an Avenger.)

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


My Weekly Learnings #17 (18.07 – 24.07)

My Weekly Learnings #17 (18.07 – 24.07)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. “It can be easy to think you’re going down the wrong path, that you’re making a huge mistake, that nobody gets it, that you’re the only one. The reason for this is simple: We hear a lot more from the people who disagree with us than the people who agree with us.” [Ryan Holiday]
(Listen to this in-depth here – https://open.spotify.com/episode/6FkCPauGZqUuimk11ipiPI)

2. The physiological sigh is a pattern of breathing that we all engage in in deep sleep. When levels of carbon dioxide in our bloodstream get too high, we, or our dogs, you can see your dog do this, will do a double-inhale, followed by an extended exhale. Children, or adults for that matter, that are sobbing and lose their breath, so to speak, will also do a double-inhale, exhale. That’s the spontaneous execution of what we call the physiological sigh. The reason it works so well to relax us is because it offloads a lot of carbon dioxide all at once, and the way it works is the following: Our lungs are not just two big bags of air. We have all these little millions of sacks of air, that if we were to lay them out flat, they would be as big as about a tennis court or so. The volume of air, therefore, and the volume of carbon dioxide that we can offload is tremendously high, except that we get stressed as carbon dioxide builds up in our bloodstream, and, it’s kind of a double whammy, these little sacks deflate.
Now, when we do a double-inhale, so I’ll do this now twice through my nose, or you could do this. You could do it through your mouth, but it works best through the nose. It’s inhale, and then you sneak a little bit more air in at the very end. When you do that, you reinflate those little sacks, and when you exhale, then you discard all the carbon oxide at once. So the simple way to describe this protocol is that, unless you are underwater, you do a double-inhale, followed by an extended exhale, and you offload the maximum amount of carbon dioxide. And we found in our laboratory, and other laboratories have found, that just one, two, or three of those physiological sighs brings your level of stress down very, very fast. And it’s a tool that you can use any time. [Andrew Hubberman, a Neurobiologist on Optimizing Sleep, Performance, and Testosterone on The Tim Ferriss Show] (Listen to the full episode here – https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ac19ix9yioyJDXtTtNp2V)

3. Working on a better Mindset over 2021 while neglecting your Heartset sets up a situation of self-sabotage where your intellect knows what you should do yet your emotional world keeps you limited. [Robin Sharma] (Understand this in depth here – https://open.spotify.com/episode/5BwmXSljMOfuNwX0EhrKs2)

4. THE DREAM:
You want something. Month after month, year after year, you dream you are going to get it.

THE REALITY:
Nothing happens. You never come any closer to it…

THE TRUTH:
You didn’t actually want it. You wanted the idea of it. [Mark Manson]

5. When you only listen to the smartest person in the room, you miss out on discovering what the rest of the room is smart about.
Everyone you meet knows something you don’t—and has wisdom from experiences you haven’t lived.

Every conversation is a chance to learn something new. [Adam Grant]

Take a Minute

Take a Minute

Do you have a ton of personal tasks to do? Do you have work projects pending? Are you running around a lot?

More than your physical output, all of this organizational mess of our day-to-day puts a pressure on our mental output.

Right from our energy to the output of our emotions, to our time, everything takes a hit.

And at the moment when you think everything is up to the brim…

You must take a minute.

A minute for yourself.

A minute to settle down.

A minute to take back control of yourself.

A minute to get back to you and focus on what truly matters.

This could be a minute or several minutes, but take it without feeling the guilt, without feeling the pressure, without thinking of the consequences.

Sometimes all you need is that minute is to get back on track.

Access to Information

Access to Information

What is it that you want to learn?

We live at a time when, unlike the previous times or generations, we have an unlimited access to Information.

So much so, that you cannot consume even 0.1% of it in your lifetime.

Now, the question arises again, what is it that you want to learn?

No limited course or degree or experience of life can give you enough knowledge about something, that it stops you from learning more.

Moreover, while these external tools guide you and create a structure so you can learn… It doesn’t necessarily allow the depth or freedom to explore all the areas of a subject.

Now it boils down to, are you willing to put in the time and energy and efforts so you can expand not only your knowledge, but also your perspective, your point of view and learn something new?

With the access of information that you now have, is there another reason why you wouldn’t access it?

RTHReviews : Pig

RTHReviews : Pig

Pig might seem basic at first, all your assumptions take over telling you that this is going to be a straightforward film like always.

But, Pig is not that. The film Pig is beautiful, with layers underneath which you need to look closely to understand… Moreover, it’s not at all what you’d expect. And not expect in a negative way, but on the contrary, blowing your mind, that they’d go in such a direction.

Here’s the official synopsis, “Living alone in the Oregon wilderness, a truffle hunter returns to Portland to find the person who stole his beloved pig.”

Nicolas Cage is simply fabulous in the film, he’s legendary and this film is another example of that. He keeps you constantly invested in the character, whilst also trying to give you a glimpse of life outside of the film, and that was a good one to watch.

Patrick Scola with the cinematography and Michael Sarnoski with his direction and writing have delivered quite wonderfully, the cinematography in particular speaks quite a lot about the tone of the film and what its trying to state, that’s another aspect to look out for in this film.

Lastly, if you’re able to catch the main aspects (the learnings) which make the film what it is (which we aren’t going into, because spoilers), then you’d truly enjoy this film.

One Line Review: Nicolas Cage is back!

Is it amplified?

Is it amplified?

We like to overcomplicate things. A bit more complex. Because who likes basic? Why keep something at a level 1, when you can take it to level 5? Why not amplify it?

What are we talking about?

Emotions.

Situations.

Perspective.

Approach.

Understanding.

Audience.

Everything is amplified. To another level. Even when its not. Because you’re not equipped to manage something when its just at the start, when it actually is manageable.

So it amplifies. To a level where everything else is blamed but you. Everyone else is put on spotlight but you. Everyone needs to work but you.

All because you have amplified something to what its not.

Instead, with working on your mindset, to look at things differently, to approach things differently, to accept things that happen to you… You learn to manage… You learn to work things around. You are now accountable. You are now in control. Now whatever it is doesn’t need to be amplified. Because you can manage it at the start itself.

It all begins when you work on a mindset of growth and self-development. A mindset of accountability. A mindset of acceptance. When that happens, now ask yourself…

Is it still amplified?