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My Weekly Learnings #26 (19.09 – 25.09)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. There is a commonality to all successful businesses and individuals. The commonality centres around a specific story they tell, believe in and what the story is in reality. The more these three are identical, the more successful the person and business will be in the long term. It’s a story that becomes synonymous with them in so many ways that it’s hard to disregard but unfortunately easy to be superficial.

The story comes from the answer to a straightforward question

“Why do you exist?”

And the answer could define your narrative, its success and also determine how satisfied you are with it. Guy Raz, in his book “How I built this” puts it eloquently when he says,

“The story must explain at a fundamental level why you exist. It is a story you have to tell to your customers, to investors, to employees, and ultimately to yourself.”

It is such a fundamental question to refine and focus on. If the answer is built on a foundation of reflection, passion, and an innate need to work on it in the long term, it will bring success, deep satisfaction, and happiness. And in times when the day gets clogged with things to do, interests become many and varied, and new bright shiny objects demand our attention leading to our sense of clarity becoming blurred, Ask yourself this simple question. An honest answer built on reflection can help you find clarity for a lifetime. [Unschooled with Varun Duggirala]

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3. Life is easier when you know what you want—but most people don’t take the time to figure out what they want.
It’s not that we are completely lost, but our efforts are often slightly misdirected. People will work for years and ultimately achieve a lifestyle that isn’t quite what they were hoping for—often, simply, because they never clearly defined what they wanted.

An hour of thinking can save you a decade of work. [James Clear]

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Source : @ lizandmollie on Twitter

5. Seven lessons on wealth and happiness, by Naval
– Happiness is evident more by its absence than its presence.
– Spend your time in the company of geniuses, sages, children, and books.
– In an age of abundance, pursuing pleasure for its own sake creates addiction.
– Retirement starts when you stop sacrificing today for some imaginary tomorrow.
– Making money through an early lucky trade is the worst way to win. The bad habits that it reinforces will lead to a lifetime of losses.
– Persistent, non-specific anxiety is the result of wanting so much, talking so much, and doing so much that you lose touch with the quiet joys of Solitude.
– Code and media are permissionless leverage. They’re the leverage behind the newly rich. You can create software and media that works for you while you sleep. [Naval Ravikant]

Can you trust your inner voice?

Can you trust your inner voice?

The next time your inner voice tells you that you’re not capable of something or something negative comes to your mind, think where does it originate from?

Your inner voice is a collective of
– your experiences
– your learning
– the people around you
– the information you consume
– your opinions of yourself
– the expectations of the society

Once you know this, ask yourself, can you trust your inner voice?

Moreover, it’s not about ignoring your voice.

The thought should be, if you don’t like your voice, what can you do about it?

With practice and self-awareness, you can change this voice if you don’t like it, make a more positive environment in your head, everything is possible if you want something to change.

All of this takes a lot of time, a lot of patience, and there will be a lot of setbacks as well. Every time you fall, you will feel like why are you even doing this?

But the more you stand still, the more you get back again, you will be able to push one step further, you will be able to look back and be glad you practiced with patience, because you will be satisfied with the outcome.

“Embrace the Mess”

“Embrace the Mess”

The beauty of film/tv and storytelling is that it has the power to move and influence you, change your perspective, the power to change your approach towards anything.

One such incident occurred while I was watching this TV show, ‘Only Murders in the Building’, and without giving any spoilers, there was this line in the show that just stayed with me, “Embrace the Mess”.

It got me thinking about the mess in our lives, in every area of our lives, and how our life is surrounded with any and all kinds of mess.

Most of the times, we are overwhelmed with this mess, and usually our first approach is to clean this mess so we can have clarity where there was none, or to blame this mess for things not turning out the way we wanted.

But, how many times do we think of embracing this mess? Making it a part of our lives and then driving through it? Instead of letting it hamper our path, making it the road for us to drive through?

Now, instead of this mess overpowering our lives, we’re in control, we have embraced these moments of our lives, and we can decide how do we want to move forward.

To acknowledge this mess, let alone embrace it is one of the biggest steps for anyone to take. It is difficult to accept that our life is in chaos, and to then think of these moments and situations and then embracing them as well, but then what is the better choice, to acknowledge and embrace, or to let it control us?

(P. S. There’s no one definition to explain this ‘mess’. Each individual has their own kind of mess in their lives, everyone defines it differently, and it affects each one differently. You get to decide what is mess for you and what isn’t.)

5 Questions to ask yourself at the End of the Day

5 Questions to ask yourself at the End of the Day

Every day brings with its own set of thoughts, emotions, opportunities, ideas, problems, and much more. Every day can be the same and every day can be different, depending upon your approach.

How can you then know how did your day go? How can you evaluate each day?

At the end of each day, you can ask yourself a set of questions, even if they seem overwhelming at first, you can start with one and then keep adding one by one to your list.

You can ponder upon these questions, you can journal your answers, you can simply think about them… But a simple exercise of this sorts helps you manage your days in the micro, so the impact can look and feel even better in the macro.

Here goes the questions…

A. Do you, at the end of the day, look back and just observe everything that happened with you, around you?

B. How did this day affect you? How did it impact you? What did you get out of it?

C. How did your actions affect other people? How did their actions affect you? How did your words affect others and vice versa?

D. Were you satisfied with the events of this day? If not, what changes can you think of so the process of those events can be changed the next time around?

E. Were you able to manage your time? Were you able to allot some time for yourself?

Questions that may look complicated, but are actually simple questions in theory, questions that help you personally perceive your day and your life in a different manner and may ask you to take difficult steps that you wouldn’t have thought of in the first place.

How can you know if you haven’t tried it?

How can you know if you haven’t tried it?

Often, and this happens with each individual, before trying anything new, they want to know how something is going to end, what the outcome is going to look like.

They look upon other people’s outcomes and seek to their opinions, judge the outcome by their outcomes.

That eventually boils down to adhering your life to another individual’s likes and dislikes, and how they want their life to be.

But everyone’s life is different, everyone’s perspective to their life is different and how they want to live it.

If that is the case, then how can you know anything if you haven’t tried it yourself? What if it suits you? What if the outcome is in your favour but wasn’t for the other individuals?

What if something looked difficult for someone else, but it’s only when you tried it and you find out it wasn’t difficult for you?

How can you know you won’t enjoy the process until you don’t try something out?

Eventually, the hard question needs to be asked for every decision you take based on how someone else did it… How can you know if you haven’t tried it?

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The Last 7 Days #80 (13.09 – 19.09)

With another Sunday, here’s the 80th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. How to grow the fuck up : a guide to Humans. Read it here.
  2. Facebook Knows Instagram Is Toxic for Teen Girls, Company Documents Show. Check it out here.
  3. A psychotherapist shares 24 conversation starters he uses to ‘build deeper, more interesting relationships’ with anyone. Read here.
  4. The network effect is anticompetitive. Read more here.
  5. Shows that heal (literally), a piece by Kareem Abdul Jabbar. Check it out here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. Roshan Abbas joins Amit Varma in episode 239 of The Seen and the Unseen to describe his remarkable journey as a creator — and to explain why the best is yet to come. Listen to it here.
  2. In this conversation on Sway, Kara Swisher and Jeffrey Katzenberg delve into Quibi’s demise, the shifting power dynamics in Hollywood and his pivot to Silicon Valley. Listen here.
  3. Robin Uthappa opens up about being plagued by suicidal thoughts during the 2009 IPL, how he almost walked away from the game because of his depression and what his comeback journey looked like, on 22 Yarns with Gaurav Kapur. Check it out here.
  4. In this episode of My First Million, Sam Parr and Shaan Puri talk about what Shaan has learned over the last week by taking a Bill Gates-inspired week off to dive deep into crypto. They also talk about Wilbur Wright, identifying stories from your work experiences, and who they follow in real estate Twitter. Listen here.
  5. From “3rd Rock From the Sun” to “The Dark Knight Rises” to his own series he created, “Mr. Corman”, Joseph Gordon-Levitt deep dives into his journey on the Happy SAD Confused podcast. Listen to it here.

What To Watch:

  1. Sadaf and Archit explore the origin, history and cultural references of turmeric, how is the best turmeric produced and what are the best ways to consume it, the science and economics behind turmeric and more, on The Naan Curry podcast. Watch here.
  2. How to optimize your gut and brain bacteria? Check it out here.
  3. Salim Merchant breaks down his most iconic songs, how did he come up with the ideas and the process behind them, feat Yashraj Mukhate. Watch it here.
  4. Documentary Recommendation of the Week – Schumacher (The life and career of seven-time Formula 1 world champion race car driver Michael Schumacher.) Now streaming on Netflix here.
  5. TV Show Recommendation of the Week – Mumbai Diaries 26/11 (Doctors, nurses, first responders, and other hospital personnel deal with a crisis of immense magnitude in Mumbai.) Now streaming on Amazon Prime here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #25 (12.09 – 18.09)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. People who jump from project to project are always dividing their effort, and producing high quality work becomes difficult without intense effort.
Meanwhile, your average work day can be leisurely, yet also productive, if you return to the same project each day.

Do one thing well and watch it compound. [James Clear]

2. We talk about risk like it’s a bad thing.
But all forward motion involves risk. You can’t find a risk-free way to accomplish much of anything.

Appropriate risk has two elements:
A. The odds of it working out are commensurate with the benefits.
B. The consequences of being wrong don’t eliminate your chance to try a different path next time.

We don’t try something simply because there’s no downside. Instead, we intelligently choose projects where the downside is understood and the work is worth doing. [Seth Godin]

3. The theologian Dorothee Sölle on letting go:
“If my hands are fully occupied in holding on to something, I can neither give nor receive.”

Source: The Strength of the Weak

4. Tetris taught me that if you fit in, you disappear – Tobi Lutke

[Illustration by GoLimitless on Twitter]

5. “Bad luck” is lack of discipline, no initiative, and too much time making up excuses.
“Good luck” is risk-taking, self-belief, grit, and consistency of long-term investments. [Orange Book on Twitter]

Either you find out or someone points it out

Either you find out or someone points it out

Change is an essential part of life. It happens sooner or later. It happens voluntarily or involuntarily, that choice remains with you, but it happens.

But where does it usually originate from?

– Either you find out (something about yourself and you decide to change that certain something)

– Or, someone points it out to you (and then it clicks you)

It usually originates from these two key factors, which then further leads to a number of steps that evolve into a before and after change.

Expanding into those two factors, how does an individual find something out?

That itself originates from two factors, one, you’re on a path of becoming self aware and want to improve at certain areas of your life.

Second, either through any kind of an interaction with an individual or a certain event that took place becomes the catalyst that then evolves into you thinking about change.

Or if not by yourself, then a few fortunate people have closed ones around them who look out for them and are then willing to point out when something about you is bothering them or something that needs to be looked into.

Others, well, there are times when someone’s boss or a colleague, or a professor, or on social media, where someone who doesn’t know you personally will point out something and that is when you find out about something.

Either or, when you keep your eyes open, you will constantly find clues which tell you something about yourself, which become this catalyst of change. Only if you’re ready to look though.

Juggling your Set of Responsibilities

Juggling your Set of Responsibilities

Any individual has their life divided into multiple sectors, and every day they have to juggle between them – their personal life – includes self time, family/ friends time, house chores and personal chores, relaxation and or escapism time, and their professional life – includes their work timing, projects, deadline, etc.

Mostly it’s branched between the personal life and professional life, and a ton of sub sectors then get added to those two branches.

Every day, any individual has to juggle each set of those sectors, because with each sector comes a certain set of responsibilities as well.

Sometimes there’s a choice, and sometimes there are certain things that has to be paid attention to, and amidst all the daily chaos, the individual has to maintain the balance between their personal and professional life, and equally juggle between them and the set of responsibilities that are asked/ required for the particulars.

So is life, and along with all dreams and deadlines, also comes this juggling that has to be done.

The Last Thought

The Last Thought

Every day. Hundreds and thousands of thoughts. In an hour. Within a span of hours. In a day.

Some you remember. Some connect to one another. Many you forget. Some repeat again the next day.

In all this chaos of thoughts, the last thought that you sleep with is extremely important.

It’s that thought that stays with you throughout the night, throughout your sleep. That very thought is going to grow on you, without you even knowing it.

Where one may or may not be trained to command their last thought, one can definitely try to remember the last thought that they sleep with. And may be as an experiment, also notice how that very thought plays a role on the next day or generally in life too.

What’s that last thought you sleep with?

Looking back at your Day

Looking back at your Day

Do you, at the end of the day, look back and just observe everything that happened with you, around you?

How did this day affect you? How did it impact you? What did you get out of it?

How did your actions affect other people? How did their actions affect you? How did your words affect others and vice versa?

Were you satisfied with the events of this day? If not, what changes can you think of so the process of those events can be changed the next time around?

Were you able to manage your time? Were you able to allot some time for yourself?

The questions might feel a bit overwhelming at first. You can start asking them to yourself one by one, and then add one every day or however you feel comfortable.

You can ponder upon these questions, you can journal your answers, you can simply think about them… But a simple exercise of this sorts helps you manage your days in the micro, so the impact can look and feel even better in the macro.

The backlog keeps building up

The backlog keeps building up

The moment you decide to do something later, and if it doesn’t have a deadline, it gets left out eventually.

Whether it is related to your personal or your professional life, there are a bunch of micro and macro tasks that need your mental or your physical attention, or both.

Prioritizing according to each one’s deadline and their particular importance, you assort them into doing some things now and some later.

But, when you come to think of it, and when you practically notice your past deeds as well, you’ll notice that the backlog keeps building up (with regards to most of those pending things).

Every day, every week, something new comes up. The tasks change, the manner of importance changes, thus you look at the urgent things at hand. And eventually, what was left out remains left out.

That backlog keeps building up, until you realize how big or long that backlog has become. You may choose to attend to it, one by one, or just leave it altogether, or maybe build that backlog more (knowingly or unknowingly).

This post is a reminder for you to check whether you have a backlog too or not.

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The Last 7 Days #79 (06.09 – 12.09)

With another Sunday, here’s the 79th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. The exact science of what happens to your brain when you meditate. Read more here.
  2. A neuroscientist shares the 6 exercises she does every day to build resilience and mental strength. Read here.
  3. Tackling a loss of trust during the pandemic. Read it here.
  4. A guide to living off of the grid. Check it out here.
  5. How the wizards behind Marvel’s What If…? give the hit animated series its prestige look, signature thrills, and “Kirby crackle”. Read here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. Seth Godin on how advertising built the world, on his podcast Akimbo. Listen here.
  2. On Naan Curry with Sadaf and Archit, Ashdin Doctor discusses the mental and physical benefits of intermittent fasting, the origin of breakfasts, how to break your fasts, the rationale behind the existence of religious fasts like Shravan and Ramazan, and more. Check it out here.
  3. Brie Larson joins the Armchair Expert to discuss being home schooled as a child, how she knows her way around set from being an actor for over 20 years, trying to be people pleasers, learning how to accept success and failures. Listen to it here.
  4. Sean Penn discusses his new film, his old films, and everything in between– like the world on SmartLess. Listen here.
  5. Podcast Recommendation of the Week – Southern Slurp, a podcast that features recipes, ingredients, stories, voices, and cultural history giving the audience a transcendent gastronomic experience. Check it out here.

What To Watch:

  1. In this episode of My First Million, Gary Vaynerchuk joins Sam Parr and Shaan Puri to give a master class on NFTs. Gary shares his predictions on the future of NFTs and how they’ll be (eventually) used by everyone. Watch it here.
  2. Rohit Sharma discusses his first selection, his upbringing, dealing with pressure and much more, with Dinesh Karthik on Sky Sports. Watch here.
  3. Actor Gajraj Rao joins Kunal Vijayakar on Khaane Mein Kya Hai discussing their love for biryani and his favourite food items from all over the country, a video to watch when you’re seeking fun and food. Check it out here.
  4. YouTube Recommendation of the Week – McLaren Unboxed (a behind the scenes look at the team, reliving the highs and lows of every race) Watch it on YouTube here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Thimmarusu (Eight years after a young man is framed for murder, an up-and-coming lawyer re-opens the case, beginning a tricky mission to find the real culprit) Now streaming on Netflix here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #24 (05.09 – 11.09)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. Saying “that’s a good point” doesn’t lose the argument. It wins trust.
Acknowledging a valid observation is a display of respect.

It signals that you’re listening with an open mind, and motivates them to follow suit.

You don’t have to agree on everything to agree on something. [Adam Grant]

2. Excitement comes from the achievement.
Fulfillment comes from the journey that got us there. [Simon Sinek]

3. Pleasure is a false god. It’s the most superficial form of happiness, therefore the easiest to obtain and the quickest to go away. [Mark Manson]

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5. Creative have two ways of working : beer mode and coffee mode.

Beer mode is a state of unfocused play where you discover new ideas. It’s filled with intellectual surprises that are impossible to predict. On most days, you feel like you wasted time because you don’t make a breakthrough discovery. But once in a while, beer mode leads to an intellectual breakthrough that you would’ve never discovered in coffee mode.

In contrast, coffee mode is a state of focus where you work towards a specific outcome.

The problem with traditional productivity advice is that it doesn’t take beer mode seriously. Standard tropes like turn off the internet, tune out distractions, and turn towards your goals are all examples of coffee mode thinking.

The see-saw or beer mode and coffee mode is like breathing.

Your best ideas emerge when you balance the inhale of beer mode with the exhale of coffee mode. Beer mode rewards laughter, while coffee mode rewards action
Beer mode rewards conversation, while coffee mode rewards focus.

Our best ideas rarely arise when we’re busy. They spring to Life in aimless contemplation.

In beer mode, you find inspiration. In coffee mode, you harvest it. If you only spend time in coffee mode, you’ll shut yourself off to transformative ideas because the fruits of genius are sown with the seeds of beer mode serendipity. [David Perell]

It’s difficult to stay consistent

It’s difficult to stay consistent

A particular lifestyle or a purpose originates from the multiple habits that form into it. Those habits require consistency and daily efforts to keep them going, and even when they become a part of your life, you still have to be consistent with them in order to keep them going.

But, with each day also comes a whole new set of issues and emotions and how did you start your day, how did you embrace the day, there’s a whole list of things that decide how a particular day is going to turn out to be.

Eventually, even when you understand the technicalities, and even on those particular days when you push through and still remain consistent, there comes that once in a blue moon day, when it’s extremely difficult to stay consistent.

This isn’t one of those rest days that one should take. This is one of those days that demanded so many other things from you, that also showed some mismanagement issues on your side, but eventually it remained difficult to stay consistent with your usual things, that’s the bottom line.

Those days come, these things happen, you have to take them with a grain of salt, and be ready to bounce back again, as soon as possible, not because you have to… But because you want to.

An Idea becomes Obsolete

An Idea becomes Obsolete

The pace at which the world is changing and evolving at, with the advancement of technology, the trends keep changing, the platforms keep changing, the audiences’ tastes keep changing… It’s hard to stay at one particular thing for long.

Everything has a shelf life, unless it’s impact is long term, but even then, most of the micro things have a shelf life at least.

You have to constantly be updated, you have to constantly experiment, evolve with the times and bring new ideas into the picture.

An idea, if not shared in time, becomes obsolete with time.

As soon as an idea strikes you, you have to work on it, and bring it out as soon as possible.

Another individual could’ve a similar or the same idea. Another individual could execute at a faster pace than you. Not that there’s competition, but if ideas come to you at a slower pace than others, it’s always better to output them as soon as possible, so the identity of the idea stays with you.

All the iterations and extensions of that idea could then be worked alongside that particular idea. But that one has to go out before it becomes obsolete. Before it’s freshness is expired. Before it’s essence is eliminated.

Every idea becomes or seems obsolete if not shared or executed in time.

The thing about Exceptions

The thing about Exceptions

Whether it is with regards to our routine or habits or our style of living or thinking or communicating…

There comes a time, every now and then, when we have to make exceptions. Constantly.

What kind of exceptions? Well, day to day, there are obstacles that we have to adapt ourselves to, there are problems that keep occurring, and we have to make these exceptions (from our usual way of doing things) as per those moments and situations.

The thing about exceptions is, if we don’t make them, then we’ll not be able to enjoy or rather savour whatever caused the change in the first place.

The thing about exceptions is, if we don’t make them, then we’ll not be able to adapt and lose the tiny bit of control over what can be controlled of the moment.

The thing about exceptions is, we have to make them, because sometimes there’s no other choice.

Sit with ‘It’

Sit with ‘It’

You may be stuck with a problem, you may not like a particular emotion that’s staying with you, a memory that’s coming back to you…

Our usual instinct is to get rid of any of the particulars, so we escape, i.e. normally done with the help of any kind of distractions.

As soon as we get distracted, there’s a change in our thoughts or emotions, and what we were stuck with or rather what we didn’t want to encounter is now gone.

That road seems like the easier path to take. And as often as it works, the problem with that path is, it keeps popping up time and again.

What looks a tougher road to take even before we begin is to address ‘it’. ‘It’ could be anything – a emotion, a problem or a memory.

Amongst a bunch of processes that can be tried and tested for this, varying from individual to individual, a method that works wonders is to sit with ‘it’.

Instead of escaping and distracting yourself, sit with whatever you’re stuck with.

Usually, we avoid that distress only for it to dig even deeper and erupt on a larger scale next time.

When you sit with that ‘it’, what you also allow is to face that discomfort, and when you are ready to face it, is when you’re able to see things more clearly.

At those times, you’re able to understand yourself more, able to understand that ‘it’ more, and now with time, able to understand how do you tackle or face the ‘it’.

Only when you sit with ‘it’.

Not a single day goes wasted

Not a single day goes wasted

Some days you feel you didn’t accomplish much that day…

Some days you feel you weren’t able to check off the items from your to do list…

On such days you feel disappointed, you feel dismayed, you feel the day was such a waste…

The question to now ask is, was it truly wasted?

Sometimes we focus on what we didn’t do and that overclouds what we did do and what we did have. Sometimes to remember those things at the end of the day also becomes the key moment of our day.

– Did we have our food on that particular day?

– Did we spend some time with our loved ones?

– Did you do something for yourself this day? (can be anything)

Some basic questions makes us realize that not a single day goes wasted, there’s always something to cherish and be grateful for.

Moreover, there are several moments, deemed good or bad, but are a lot to learn from, and those moments make us learn a lot in micro and macro.

Perspective Matters, how you approach a particular day matters… Not a single day goes wasted!

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The Last 7 Days #78 (30.08 – 05.09)

With another Sunday, here’s the 78th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. Digital Addictions Are Drowning Us in Dopamine. Read more here.
  2. How are McDonald’s hamburgers really made, as seen at a McDonald’s meat-processing factory? Check it out here.
  3. Mickey Mouse will be public domain soon—here’s what that means.
  4. The crises won’t stop coming. Radical acceptance is the key to coping. Read here.
  5. When big influencers steal content, small original creators lose out. Read more here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. Satya Nadella discusses how, as Chairman and CEO, he has transformed Microsoft from a cutthroat culture towards embracing social networks, collaboration, and cloud, on Masters of Scale with Reid Hoffman. Listen here.
  2. Each episode of ‘We Are Supported By‘ deep dives with a woman who has put a crack in the glass ceiling, and this time hosts Kristen Bell and Monica Padman deep dive into the life of Sheryl Sandberg. Check it out here.
  3. 4 Tips for cleaning up your social media diet on the Life Kit podcast. Listen to it here.
  4. On F1 Beyond the Grid podcast, Mick Schumacher talks improving as a driver, duelling with Verstappen, and his F1 mentors. Listen here.
  5. On The Director’s Cut, director Tom McCarthy discusses his new film, Stillwater, with fellow director Scott Cooper in a Q&A at the DGA theater in Los Angeles. Check it out here.

What To Watch:

  1. How do tech companies manipulate the media? Watch here.
  2. Mr. Rajiv Malhotra, a renowned computer scientist, also an Indian-American activist, author, and speaker who raises voices on issues for the nation, talks on topics like Artificial Intelligence, Indian politics, Geopolitics, & Future Technologies on The Ranveer Show. Check it out here.
  3. Watch all of Cristiano Ronaldo’s goals scored for Manchester United here.
  4. Show Recommendation of the Week – Down To Earth with Zac Efron (Actor Zac Efron travels around the world with wellness expert Darin Olien to find healthy, sustainable ways to live.) Now streaming on Netflix here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Vivo (A music-loving kinkajou embarks on the journey of a lifetime to fulfill his destiny and deliver a love song for an old friend.) Now streaming on Netflix here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #23 (29.08 – 04.09)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. Initially, you’re only attracted to songs that move you emotionally. If they’re catchy, you’ll listen to them enough to get stuck in your head. If the song keeps resonating with you, you’ll learn about the artist and explore the lyrics in depth. Talk to an obsessive and in addition to singing the lyrics for you, they’ll tell you the backstory behind the music.

Learning works the same way. [David Perell]

2. Work-life balance isn’t about squeezing everything into one day.
It’s about spreading what matters to you throughout the week.

You can’t have it all at once, but you can probably have most of it over time.

[Adam Grant + lizandmollie]

3. The next time you find yourself worrying about what to do: try to simplify first, not last.

It’s a frameshift that will help you come up with options that are categorically different and usually better. [Wes Kao] (Understand more here – https://www.weskao.com/blog/simplify-first-not-last)

4. A batter who averages 4 hits every 20 at-bats is out of a job.

One who averages 5/20 is mediocre.

6/20, an all-star.

7/20, the league MVP.

There’s probably some area of your life you’re going 4/20 and feel hopeless. But upping your game just a little might change everything. [Tim Urban]

5. Research demonstrates that long-term meditators have been shown to have increased hippocampal volume.

One of the likely reasons for this change is that stress decreases hippocampal volume over time. Cortisol can lead to a shrunken hippocampus, the seat of our learning and memory. As we engage in long-term meditation practices, we’re down regulating our stress and cortisol levels, and this has a protective effect on the size of our hippocampus. [Neurohacker] (Read more here – https://neurohacker.com/the-exact-science-of-what-happens-to-your-brain-when-you-meditate)

The essence of a blog post

The essence of a blog post

How long does a blog post need to be? Is there a predefined limit that we need to meet? Minimum words criteria?

The essence of a blog post lies in the meaning being conveyed behind the words.

One can stretch it for as long as possible to meet any kind of SEO purposes, or keep it extremely short and crisp directly implying the point.

For anyone who’s writing, the purpose is for the reader to understand what’s written, with or without context. Keeping their attention for that limited period of time. Ensuring there’s something to take away from that reading.

The post could be a one-liner or a five page read, as long as certain boxes are checked from the writer’s point of view.

Sometimes it gets too tiring

Sometimes it gets too tiring

Every day brings its own set of promises and challenges, sometimes a balance is maintained, and sometimes the scale is tipped higher on either of the sides.

But every day also brings with it, it’s own set of thoughts, emotions, and managing the tasks and the routine, and the responsibilities and goals and what not.

And that, well, sometimes it gets too tiring.

It becomes too tiring to keep up with everything, it becomes difficult to maintain the levels, and your mind feels clouded as well.

Sometimes these are one-off days, sometimes more, sometimes you have the energy to dig deeper and try to understand what’s the source of this feeling or what tipped it off recently, and sometimes you just linger with the feeling…

A feeling that… sometimes it gets too tiring.

Does anyone know you a hundred percent?

Does anyone know you a hundred percent?

We take into account other people’s choices before making our decisions. We get bogged down by people’s opinions. We feel hurt by people making fun of us or by people trolling us. We feel judged by people.

Moreover, we let all of those things affect us.

But in all this chaos, we forget the most important thing, do any of these people know you a 100% to take into account any of those things?

When people don’t know you, they look at a percentage of you (one they’re able to perceive) and make their opinions / judge/ decide or whatever based on that.

While it’s not okay for them to do that, you cannot do anything about it. But what you can do is understand that it’s an opinion on a perceived image of yours.

Let’s dig more into it. From your parents to your coworkers, from your siblings to your friends, from your social media audience to people you encounter on the streets, there are people at different levels of your life who know different things about you, who know a part of you or more than that.

But even the most important people don’t know you a hundred percent. That’s the thing.

Right from the deepest of your thoughts, to everything that you think and you do and you plan to do, it’s all within you. Even when you share, you can only share so much.

That’s what it boils down to. No body, not a single person knows you a hundred percent, than you.

So when you take anything exterior, that is outside of you, into account, then you must realize this… That no body knows you a 100% hundred except you.

Sure you can take their opinions into account, but at the end of the day you know yourself better, and you know what’s good for you and what’s not. What you want to do, what you must do and what you shouldn’t.

A moment of rest

A moment of rest

In a day of attending to your personal and professional tasks, in a day of listening to others, in a day of constant noise, in a day of chasing things, in a day of deadlines and calls,

Don’t forget to take a moment of rest.

Don’t mix the concept of rest and sleep. Both are different concepts and both are important in their own right.

Rest is to just recuperate your breath, rest is to stay still for a while, rest is to not focus on anything, but to also not distract yourself with anything.

Rest is to take a break for yourself. Rest is to not burden yourself with personal tasks or self improvement or learning during your rest. The right way to manage your time is to balance everything and give some time, whether a few minutes or more for your rest as well.

A concept not spoken of enough, a concept that is looked down upon, and yet it is the rest that springs you back into action, puts you back into focus, gives you the stillness to be in action for the rest of the time, rest is important.

Rest for a while, if you haven’t already.

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The Last 7 Days #77 (23.08 – 29.08)

With another Sunday, here’s the 77th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. ‘I eat almost 3 kilos of fruits; do 60 push-ups in a minute’: Milind Soman on diet, fitness, and more. Read here.
  2. How Learning Happens? Check it out here.
  3. A Twitter thread on how to not f*ck up relationships (in business & life), by Shaan Puri. Check out the thread here.
  4. Buy Now, Pay Later Is an Innovation That’s 200 Years Old. Read more here.
  5. The Ascent of the Anti-Antihero: How ‘Ted Lasso’ and More Emmy Nominees Embrace Likability and Kindness. Read here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. On The School of Greatness, Lewis and Katy Milkman, who is an award-winning behavioral scientist and Professor at The Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, discuss the biggest internal barriers holding you back from changing your life, how our sense of identity helps and hurts us, what science says about how to believe in yourself more, why setting big goals is actually hurting your ability to succeed, and more. Listen here.
  2. How Ben Chestnut built MailChimp, an email subscription service company, on How I Built This with Guy Raz. Listen to it here.
  3. Andrew Wilson CEO of Electronic Arts on how the company grows a metaverse, on Masters of Scale with Reid Hoffman. Check it out here.
  4. Neuroscientist Sandrine Thuret on how we can grow new brain cells, on Ted Talks Daily podcast. Listen here.
  5. On Sway, Kara Swisher and Joseph Gordon-Levitt discuss what the trend of tech companies taking over Hollywood means for the entertainment industry and how he thinks about social media. Listen more here.

What To Watch:

  1. Michael Pollan, the author of “This is your Mind on Plants”, goes into the history of coffee drinking, breaking down its origins, and how humans are addicted to caffeine. Watch it here.
  2. Gastroenterologists Dr. Fola May and Dr. Austin Chiang debunk 12 myths about indigestion. They explain how spicy food doesn’t cause ulcers, why you don’t need to poop every day, and how long it really takes to pass gum. They also talk about probiotics and why they might not be the cure-all you think it is. Watch more here.
  3. Rocky and Mayur are back with a Season 5 of Roadtrippin with Rocky and Mayur. Check it out here.
  4. Show Recommendation of the Week – Nine Perfect Strangers (Based on The New York Times best-selling book by author Liane Moriarty, “Nine Perfect Strangers” takes place at a boutique health-and-wellness resort that promises healing and transformation as nine stressed city dwellers try to get on a path to a better way of living.) Now streaming on Amazon Prime here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – The Green Knight (King Arthur’s headstrong nephew embarks on a daring quest to confront the Green Knight, a mysterious giant who appears at Camelot. Risking his head, he sets off on an epic adventure to prove himself before his family and court.) Check more details here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #22 (22.08 – 28.08)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. LeBron James didn’t always have thick calves, a raging six-pack, and arms like the Incredible Hulk. Ask LeBron about his off-season training regime, and he’ll share a detailed run-down of his workout plan and on-the-court practice routine.

Athletes train. Musicians train. Performers train.

But knowledge workers don’t.

Knowledge workers should train like LeBron, and implement strict “learning plans.” To be sure, intellectual life is different from basketball. Success is harder to measure and the metrics for improvement aren’t quite as clear. Even then, there’s a lot to learn from the way top athletes train. They are clear in their objectives and deliberate in their pursuit of improvement.

Knowledge workers should imitate them. But right now, they don’t. Even the most ambitious knowledge workers don’t take their work as seriously as they could. Learning plans are rare. What’s the equivalent of watching game film? Stretching. Or, working out for 90 minutes every day?

Just as LeBron structures his training to win Championships, knowledge workers should train to build skills, generate leverage, and increase their productive abilities. [Learn like an Athlete, a mini essay by David Perrell]

2. Anger is often seen as an irrational emotion. But it’s not due to the absence of logic—it’s due to the presence of threat or harm.

Getting mad is a sign that something important to you is at risk.

Understanding what makes you angry is a prism for understanding what you value. [Adam Grant]

3. Folks with substance, don’t like to give and receive compliments unless truly deserved.

Folks without substance, tend to constantly form mutual admiration club to belong. [Kunal Shah]

4. “Today I escaped from all bothering circumstances – or rather I threw them out.
They were nothing external, but inside me, just my own judgements.”

Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 9.13

5. Ego gets in the way of learning. You can’t learn if you’re not open to being wrong.
Two ways to identify people who learn:
(1) When they’ve made a mistake, they quickly correct it rather than hoping things will get better; and
(2) They change their mind. [Shane Parrish]

The Cristiano Homecoming

The Cristiano Homecoming

Transfer Window 2021, one of the craziest football transfer windows, in the recent years.

Some of the biggest names have changed their clubs, including Lionel Messi, a transfer that not only shocked the Messi and Barcelona fans, but everyone else as well.

Coming back to the topic, I love Manchester United, I love Cristiano Ronaldo, the club more than the player, but there’s no denying of the joy to watch one of the greatest play and to just witness that.

Keeping it crisp and not touching a lot of other points, as football fans would be aware of… The last 72 hours have been crazy and the word crazy is an understatement here.

The news that started with Cristiano to Manchester City just hurt all of us, and it was quite, quite devasting to say the least. To see that photoshopped picture of him in that City jersey was like a burn in my eyes. The news shook me and majority of the fans.

Until Friday, the 27th, it was all but clear and yet to hard to accept that the move was almost done. It felt like a heartbreak that your favourite player was about to ruin his legacy and join the rival club, for whatever reasons there may be.

But sometimes things don’t happen for good. Sometimes bigger things are meant to happen and you just don’t know it yet.

All of a sudden, there was a murmur that apart from the only club who could afford the player, there was another club lingering in at that very last moment.

Manchester United knocking on the door, showing interest, almost felt like another one of those yearly CR7 to United news.

But who knew this time there was actually substance to the news, as minutes passed, more news started coming in and it felt more real and real.

At this point of time, I’m just a spectator constantly refreshing my feed, reading every bit of news coming in, waiting to see what’s going to happen.

And there it was… Within a couple of hours and less, the news was confirmed.

CRISTIANO RONALDO BACK TO MANCHESTER UNITED.

IT WAS HOMECOMING TIME!

THE RETURN OF THE KING 👑

The news was too surreal to even understand what was reality and what was not.

It was a time to enjoy the legend back at the club. A time to cheer, Viva Ronaldo!

The feeling of Him going to City wasn’t completely out of the system, but this news was far bigger and better that it overcame that news soon enough.

A team that already has such a good manager, building the culture, the squad, already a couple of good signings this season with Sancho and Varane, but this was different…

A few hours have passed since that news, still celebrating, still enjoying, with a feeling that this season will be different.

Until that debut is on, enjoying these pictures, being in nostalgic mode…

#CR7 👑🔥❤️

Mistakes are a Part and Parcel of Life

Mistakes are a Part and Parcel of Life

Every time we make a mistake, we feel why, why did I do this? What could’ve happened differently?

We regret over those mistakes, and wonder would things have turned out differently if we hadn’t made those mistakes?

We also wonder, are we the only ones making such “stupid” mistakes?

Alas, the reality is, there’s hardly anyone who doesn’t make mistakes. Literally no one.

Making mistakes are a part and parcel of life. Without such mistakes, none of us would be where we are, individually and as a civilization too.

No matter how much of an amateur you think you are, or how great you have become according to others, sometimes you feel some things are right and you do those things according to that thought process without realizing you’re making a mistake.

Sometimes you make that mistake, you learn from it and carry on. Sometimes, you’re about to make that mistake but the universe stops you from making it, it wasn’t supposed to happen that way.

Either way, you learn in both those scenarios and eventually you carry those Learnings in your other phases of life as well.

But, the more important thing to remember is, mistakes are a part and parcel of life. No one can avoid them. No one can get away from them, irrespective of your knowledge and success and what not.

Repetition of an Idea

Repetition of an Idea

How many times have you noticed a particular idea executed repetitively over time?

You feel you’ve already seen this before, or why should I read or consume this again? You feel why did this person imitate an idea already done before?

But, when you think of it, you peel off all the layers, and you boil everything down to its bottom-est layer, and you notice that there are a handful of ideas which have been broken down into, created layers of, and served into hundreds and thousands of ideas.

Sometimes, the roots of an idea remain the same, but what becomes different from person to person and from time to time are two things –

A. Every individual brings their set of perspective to the table. How they perceive the world and what they think the world provides to them is how they filter these ideas and express it through their lens, with a fresh set of eyes.

B. Now, there are some, who have an extra zest of curiosity within them who experiment with every idea, observe it in the open, and then combine multiple ideas into one packaged new idea, a layer someone didn’t think of before.

Either of the scenarios allow everyone to be introduced to newer ideas, to newer perspectives, to newer point of views, and to evolve with these ideas over time.

Whenever you dismiss of an idea being repetitive (some people just copy and paste but that’s an entirely different point altogether), just try and look at what could be different and what you can learn from it.

Just Write Something

Just Write Something

Whether in the form of

– documenting your thoughts,

– documenting your day,

– sharing a piece of content,

– expressing your gratitude or in the form of affirmations in a journal,

Every individual should just write something.

When you write, it not only helps you instilling that same thing within you, but it also helps you give you a deeper perspective to what you think or rather who you are.

When you write, it helps you clear your mind, it helps you understand things better, it helps you see yourself in a third person perspective.

When the benefits outweigh the negatives, then there is some form of an advantage to try something out, to experiment with it and to see how it personally benefits you.

Why don’t you just write something, anything, and see how it makes you feel?

Every Word has an Idea

Every Word has an Idea

So many times, someone or the other is seeking an idea. An idea could be for anything, a project, a company, a book, a film, a blog post, literally anything.

Sometimes that hunt is easy and the idea comes quickly to you, and sometimes (everyone who has been seeking an idea has gone through this), that the hunt becomes too difficult at times too, and you don’t seem to get that idea soon enough.

But the more you observe, and the more you think in depth, and allow those thoughts to go as random as possible, you’ll notice that every word has an idea attached to it.

Every word means something. Now when you start looking at that exact word from different lenses and put it in different contexts, your mind comes up with thoughts around it, it automatically stitches that word with other words and now that same thought ends up thinking about a topic.

More often than not, some words are powerful enough, when you start thinking about that word and everytime you’re able to think of something new around it (pertaining to you having a open mindset, allowing your mind to wander around as well as having an interest towards whatever you’re thinking about).

The intersection of yours and others time

The intersection of yours and others time

Time is important. There shouldn’t be even a debate on that topic. Macro time, micro time, each individual should keep that in mind.

Macro, whatever you’re spending your time towards, is the process or the destination worth it?

Micro, every day we wake up with a set of tasks to complete, things to do, things to do when we’re free, and so on.

In the midst of that time management, there comes a time or many, when your time is intersected with others and their time with yours. Two scenarios, either you want their time or they want your time.

But, understanding this intersection is crucial. Because each person’s time is important.

When you want someone else’s time, you cannot “expect” it on your time, unless they’ve agreed for that time as well. Certainly so, because now person A wants something on their time, but B has their own things aligned according to their schedule (unless it was previously agreed upon), so how can person A expect person B to leave everything and follow person A’s schedule, just because it is convenient for them. And vice-versa as well. And same logic applies to multiple people in a group as well.

*A small segway to the topic… Another important factor to consider in this entire understanding is when your time impacts someone else’s.

When you’ve agreed to do something that involves other people, not just yourself, and there’s a certain time factor around it, then when your time impacts others, then that range of time is not worked according to you, but according to them. (not by being readily available to the other individual, but by respecting the timeline of the task)*

Quite often, because we feel time is limited, time is short and we’ve so much to do for the day, considering the micro perspective, we forget about this intersection of time with others, and how its not only about yourself.

When that is understood and implied, then eventually you see a distant improvement in how you operate with others and how any kind of personal or professional work or task or communication is done with ease. Just by understanding the intersection of your and others’ time.

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The Last 7 Days #76 (16.08 – 22.08)

With another Sunday, here’s the 76th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. How to find ‘flow’ while working from home, according to a peak performance expert? Read here.
  2. Why is a minute divided into 60 seconds, an hour into 60 minutes, yet there are only 24 hours in a day? Read it here.
  3. In Charts: How India Is Ageing. Check it out here.
  4. How to Avoid the ‘Kick the Cat’ Effect? Read here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. Olympic gold medalist Neeraj Chopra talks about what’s holding back our track and field athletes from beating world class international athletes, his diet and love for shopping, the biggest change in the minds of Indian athletes going to the Olympics and more, on Stars se Baatein with Salil. Listen here.
  2. Neuroscientist Wendy Suzuki discusses the brain-changing benefits of exercise on the Ted Talks Daily podcast. Check it out here.
  3. Harsh Jain, Co-Founder, and CEO of Dream Sports speaks about what inspired him to start Dream11, choosing the right investors to partner with, building the right company culture, and setting audacious goals for yourself, on The Kalaari Podcast. Listen to it here.
  4. Formula One driver Daniel Ricciardo cruises through on The SmartLess podcast, discussing everything from his early days to his journey in F1 and tid-bits about the sport. Check it out here.
  5. Actor David Harbour discusses the powerful ending to Season 3 of “Stranger Things”, auditioning for the role, the evolution of his character, and exciting things to expect in Season 4, on That Scene with Dan Patrick. Listen here.

What To Watch:

  1. Marc Fagelson travels into the auditory system to explore the constant ringing sensation of tinnitus, why it happens, and how to treat it. Watch here.
  2. Grant Cardone talks about the benefits of having an American mindset, the Secret to his SALES skills, Billionaire Mindset & so much more, on The Ranveer Show. Watch it here.
  3. Impromptu Antakshari, the sets of Sholay, winning a national award at the age of 5 and driving through the lanes of Bandra, is what this episode of The Bombay Journey with Sachin & Shriya Pilgaonkar has in store. Check it out here.
  4. Show Recommendation of the Week – The White Lotus (A social satire set at an exclusive Hawaiian resort follows the vacations of various hotel guests over the span of a week as they relax and rejuvenate in paradise) Now streaming on Hotstar here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Kuruthi (Kuruthi is about how enduring human relations that transcends boundaries struggle to survive trials of hatred.) Now streaming on Amazon Prime here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #21 (15.08 – 21.08)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. There are many types of wealth:
– you have a healthy body
– you grew up with loving parents
– in a position to donate and help
– you spend your time as you wish
– the people you love love you back
– freedom from envy, peace of mind
[@ Orange Book on Twitter]

2. One mark of a smart person is the ability to learn from people they don’t like. [Shane Parrish]

3. Resting is not a waste of time. It’s an investment in well-being.

Relaxing is not a sign of laziness. It’s a source of energy.

Breaks are not a distraction. They’re a chance to refocus attention.

Play is not a frivolous activity. It’s a path to connection and creativity.
[Adam Grant]

4. Ironically, the more we imitate others, the more we discover our unique style.

There’s a long lineage of comedians who tried to copy each other, failed, and became great themselves : Johnny Carson tried to copy Jack Benny, but failed and won six Emmy awards. Then, David Letterman tried to copy Johnny Carson, but failed and became one of America’s great television hosts.

Reflecting on his own influences, Conan O’Brien sair: “It is our failure to become our perceived ideal that ultimately defines us and makes us unique.”

All these comedians learned that imitation reveals our identity, especially when we fall short of those we admire. To improve your writing, binge-read your favorite writers and imitate their style when you write. Spoiler alert: You won’t be able to do it perfectly. Your voice will reveal itself when you try to imitate them – which is exactly what you want to have happen.

Don’t seek originality. Instead, imitate others so passionately that the glitter of their brilliance shines upon your craft. Imitation the closest you can get to a conversation with the writer. Aim for perfection but pay attention to your shortcomings, for they hold the seeds of your individuality.

Imitate, then innovate. [A mini-essay by David Perrell]

5. Emotions usually only last 90 seconds when you observe them without judgment and gently breath in and out. Many people create and reinforce disempowering emotional loops by getting sucked into thinking about what they are feeling. Then… they feel what they are thinking about and unknowingly create a self-fulfilling disempowering doom loop that gets reinforced and cemented deeper and deeper into the subconscious. [John Assaraf]

Which side are you on, black or white?

Which side are you on, black or white?

We consider everything as black or white. Everything is either at one side or the other. Everyone chooses a side. Based on where they align with their values and what matches with their perspective.

There’s a lot to be uncovered in the middle, i.e. the gray area. But that requires time and efforts and a bit of digging to get around.

So, instead, people choose one of the two sides where they think they align with. Sometimes, the black, sometimes, the white.

But, what if instead of choosing a side and sticking to it, you try and wear both the colours for once? Check out both the sides, try and understand both the perspectives, both the point of views, and look at everything from the middle, being in the gray area.

When you do that, then you are not opting for a side, but instead you are the third person noticing what’s happening and creating a personal point of view with what your approach should be, instead of aligning with someone else’s or instead of thinking “what the right side” would be.

That approach starts with an open mindset of not wanting to be on a side, wanting to try out both black and white and maybe even try to align with both sides of the coin instead of shouting heads or tails.

If we don’t learn from the past

If we don’t learn from the past

You can not travel back in time. You cannot change what has already happened. You cannot change its outcome. So there is one option left, to focus on the present and how it influences the Future.

As true as that may be, we cannot forget the past. That past is a part of our life. That past has made our present, however it may be.

Therefore, we must learn everything from the past, as much as we can. Ours and everyone else’s.

History speaks a lot. So when you think about yourself, your past says what you did to get here, and depending on your level of satisfaction, whether you must continue down those same steps or start changing them.

Similarly, thinking about the human race’s history, our country’s history, we understand the culture, the background, the mistakes made, how certain elements of history are always repeated.

The ultimate point being, if we don’t learn from our past, we can never influence our future in a way we want to. Sure the past is the past, but the present is because of the past, and in order to change that future, we must learn from that past so we can make those changes in the Now.

As complicated as that may seem, all answers lie in the past. And we need to learn from it.

Figuring out yourself is the biggest decision one has to make

Figuring out yourself is the biggest decision one has to make

The world is developing at a rate where at every step of the way, there’s chaos.

Chaos about all the necessary things in life, chaos about all the “luxurious” things in life, there’s chaos everywhere.

Fill in the societal pressure of doing a certain something by a certain age.

Now, for most people, with the chaos and the pressure, they start following a certain route, doing everything that falls along their way, without questioning too many things… And basically following all the norms.

But does that mean they have figured themselves out!?

In most cases, unfortunately that’s not the answer. Following a route and knowing yourself what you truly want are two different things.

Figuring yourself out is a task in itself. Some wait their entire lives to do so, some don’t at all. Some very quickly, and with some it happens at their own timeline.

But, a question of this stature falls down to a bigger question, What do you align yourself with?

Forget all associations, forget everything that society has taught, forget all institutions and forget everything that was externally built… Now ask yourself, what do you align yourself with?

Sitting down with a pen and paper and asking that question to yourself will help you jot down everything that comes to your mind, of course sitting stress-free and schedule-free.

What do you align with – values, character traits, interests, hobbies, tastes, type of people, wants, needs, etc.

This isn’t something that is obtained in a single sitting, but one that definitely get you started. You have your whole life to figure out yourself, and everyday you might discover something new, but that intention to start figuring out yourself is the biggest decision that one has to make.

Getting back on track

Getting back on track

Life’s about ups and downs. When there’s an up, there’s a down as well. That is applicable to macro life, and micro to the days as well.

Some habits you love, some you want to get rid of. Some things you’re able to check off the list, some you aren’t able to.

And sometimes those micro downs get you down, with a feeling that you didn’t do it (when you could’ve), with a feeling of what now…

Sometimes you can’t do anything about it… Sometimes you have a bigger agenda to follow and you lose a track of those things…

But it is when you get back on track, that action, that feeling is something else. It gets you in the mood, it gets you in your groove. You feel like you were missing the action and now you’re back.

There’s nothing like getting back on track, when your mind is set to it, when you’re looking forward to it and you execute it.

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The Last 7 Days #75 (09.08 – 15.08)

With another Sunday, here’s the 75th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. There is more to generational analysis than the pseudo-science that plagues it. Read here.
  2. Is anything cool anymore? Read more here.
  3. How does the world’s fastest man Usain Bolt mentally prepare for a race? Check it out here.
  4. HBO’s ‘The White Lotus‘ Elevates Tension To An Art Form (Read this only if you’ve watched The White Lotus) Read here.
  5. When Writers Cave to Social Media Scolds, by Kareem Abdul-Jabbar. Read it here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. On The Decoder with Nilay Patel, Nilay and Jack Conte, co-founder, and CEO of Patreon, talk about how Patreon’s model as “membership” works, what Patreon’s relationship is to Apple and the app store, and where the overall creator economy is going on the internet. Listen here.
  2. HubSpot co-founder and CTO Dharmesh Shah shares his thought process behind buying the Hustle, how he thinks about time & money, and how HubSpot came to be, and more on the My First Million podcast. Check it out here.
  3. On the Fittr podcast, Jitendra Chouksey examines the practice of eating breakfast down the ages. Listen to it here.
  4. On 22 Yarns with Gaurav Kapur, Dinesh Karthik chat about his foray into commentary, rooming with Shikhar Dhawan in his U-19 days, his trip to Belgrade with Sunil Gavaskar, the captaincy handover at KKR in 2020, his relationship with Shah Rukh Khan, and the Mushtaq Ali wins with Tamil Nadu. Listen here.
  5. Matt Damon joins the Armchair Expert to talk about his experience writing Good Will Hunting with Ben Affleck, how your subjective experience changes when you become famous, how easy it is to be generous when things are going your way, and more. Check it out here.

What To Watch:

  1. Effects Different Foods Have on Your Brain. Watch here.
  2. Fitness experts debunk 17 exercise myths. Watch it here.
  3. Show Recommendation of the Week – Dave (“Dave” centers on a neurotic man in his late 20s who has convinced himself that he’s destined to be one of the best rappers of all time. Now he must convince his closest friends because, with their help, he actually might convince the world. Simultaneously exasperating and inspiring to his friends, he vows to leave no stone unturned on his quest to become the next superstar.) Now streaming on Hotstar here.
  4. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Kumbalangi Nights (Saji, Bonny, Bobby and Franky are siblings who mostly do not get along. However, a series of events forces them to keep their animosity aside and support each other.) Now streaming on Amazon Prime here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


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My Weekly Learnings #20 (08.08 – 14.08)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. Sociologist, historian, and activist W. E. B. Du Bois with some life advice in a letter to his daughter: “The main thing is the YOU beneath the clothes and skin—the ability to do, the will to conquer, the determination to understand and know this great, wonderful, curious world.

Don’t shrink from new experiences and customs. Take the cold bath bravely. Enter into the spirit of your big bedroom. Enjoy what is and not pine for what is not.

Read some good, heavy, serious books just for discipline: Take yourself in hand and master yourself. Make yourself do unpleasant things, so as to gain the upper hand of your soul.”

Source: The Correspondence of W. E. B. Du Bois (via James Clear’s newsletter)

2. There are countless ways to make a point. You can clearly demonstrate that you are angry, smart, concerned, stronger, faster, or more prepared than the person you’re engaging with.

But making a point isn’t the same thing as making a difference.

To make a difference, we need the practical empathy to realize that the other person doesn’t know what you know, doesn’t believe what you believe, and might not want what you want. We have to move from where we are and momentarily understand where they are.

When we make a point, we reject all of this. When we make a point, we establish our power in one way or another, but we probably don’t change very much.

Change comes about when the story the other person tells themselves begins to change. If all you do is make a point, you’ve handed them a story about yourself. When you make a change, you’ve helped them embrace a new story about themselves.

And even though it’s more fun (and feels safe, in some way) to make a point, if we really care, we’ll do the hard work to make a difference instead. [Seth Godin]

3. Time away from something or someone gives us perspective on that something or someone. [Mark Manson] (Check out more here – https://markmanson.net/newsletters/mindfck-monthly-91)

4. Most people disagree on social media in the most undesirable way either because they’ve not learned about superior methods of disagreeing or just wish to outrage to get likes. This chart by Paul Graham is a good way to know if you disagree well. [via Kunal Shah’s Twitter account]

5. Things people aren’t afraid to say when they have psychological safety:

  • I don’t know
  • I made a mistake
  • I disagree
  • I might be wrong
  • I have a concern
  • I have an idea

[via Adam Grant’s Twitter and image from @ lizandmollie on Twitter]

More Writing, More Depth

More Writing, More Depth

How do you observe something at a deeper level? How do you notice what’s beneath the surface? How do you break the structures of these walls that are built around you and start asking questions?

The answer to that lies in writing.

The more you write, the more you understand your thoughts. You start laying down all these thoughts, you start connecting them, you start observing layers you didn’t before, you start pondering about different things here and there, and then comes the depth.

With more writing, not in a single day, but with practice and observation, comes more depth. The more you write, the more you think, the more you question, the more answers you seek.

Something on like, on such a deeper level, doesn’t come with your own thoughts, or by communicating with someone, but laying it all brick by brick and then witnessing this structure that you’ve built.

Whether you write for yourself personally, or you write publically like this blog, every time it unlocks something different in you, especially more, when you write with a purpose of why are you even writing it.

Are you really that person?

Are you really that person?

Every individual on the internet with a social media account has a persona that they put out there. Now, for some that’s their authentic persona, but for most that’s a modified image of them, or just one of the images for social media.

Now, why blame just social media, right? Whether it is in regards to your colleagues, or your friends, or your loved ones, most people have a different persona for each situation.

Each of these particular personas include a set of values, character traits and habits that represent the essence of that persona.

Now, bring in self-awareness, understand who you truly are, what your values are, what your character traits are, what is your purpose, what is it that you’re putting out…

Once that is settled, compare that with your other personas, and ask yourself… Are you really that person?

Because, if not, then how long can you act it out. Plus, what’s the reason for not portraying that authenticity? What are you trying to hide? With that also comes a bunch of other questions, which you can easily figure out once you’re in that spot.

But, moreover, the main essence of this question is to realize who you truly are, and so you don’t confuse your own identity in the midst of all these other portrayed identities.

Hold on! I don’t want to think this!

Hold on! I don’t want to think this!

Each and every minute, daily, we are in a constant rush of thoughts. Say, roughly around 60,000 to 80,000 in a day.

Now, some things you constantly think about, some just come to you randomly, some through an observation or communication. One thought leads to another and another, and at times, there’s a whirlwind of thoughts around a singular topic.

There comes a time, or many, when a thought starts expanding, that you don’t want to think about at all.

You may choose to distract yourself with something else at that moment, or try thinking about something else… But sometimes you just have to tell yourself, “Hold on! I don’t want to think this!”.

Does it work? Try it out. Your brain listens to everything. Why not this as well?

Not thinking about the present, past or future

Not thinking about the present, past or future

Aren’t we in a constant turmoil, always thinking about what’s going on, what’s going to happen next, how to plan for it, what happened before, etc.

Either in the form of memories, or tasks to do, or how something is affecting us, we are always thinking about the present, past, or future. Always.

That turmoil affects someone more who wants to be in control, who doesn’t want to let the situation control them, and eventually thinking more than others about everything in these three time scenarios.

It’s now of course very easy to say this, but what takes an enormous amount of practice and patience, but even a minute worth of not thinking about the past, present, or future is worth it.

To not think about yourself or how anything affects us, or anything that needs to be done, just to be with yourself and to stay in that silence, even if it’s for a minute is definitely a feeling hard to describe. But one that brings great solace to your mind and to you.

What is this moment telling you?

What is this moment telling you?

Every moment of our life, something or the other is happening, in the form of a thought, a communication or an action, every moment has something of its own.

But what is this moment telling you?

Either as a lesson, or a learning, what are you receiving from that particular moment?

Sometimes we rush so much from one moment to the next, we forget to take in what we are receiving. We don’t soak it in.

Sometimes, we have to stay still for a second (or learn stillness in general) to understand what that moment is telling you, and what we can take away from it.

Next time, simply ask yourself out of the blue… ‘What is this particular moment telling me?’, until it becomes a habit.

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The Last 7 Days #74 (02.08 – 08.08)

With another Sunday, here’s the 74th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. Has the pandemic aggravated cyberchondria? Read here.
  2. Cracking the science of coconut. Check it out here.
  3. Scientists spot light behind a black hole for the first time. Read more here.
  4. If We All Bought Less Stuff, We Could Be Happier and Work Fewer Hours. Read here to know what it means.
  5. A Harvard-trained sports medicine doctor shares the ‘super easy’ stretch she does every day to relieve lower back pain. Read here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. In this episode of The Varun Duggi Show, CEO & Co-Founder of Under25 Anto Philip talks about what keeps us going as creators and how focusing on content that serves a purpose over just the numbers drives so much more value. Listen here.
  2. On this episode of The Wire Talks, host Sidharth Bhatia talks to director Hansal Mehta about how the lockdowns have affected the film industry, the closure of cinemas, and the future of films and the way films will be made in the coming months and years. Check it out here.
  3. Suchita Salwan (Founder and CEO – LBB) on this episode of the Pepper Spotlight podcast talks about how LBB looks at content and the impact it drives as a marketing strategy. Listen to it here.
  4. On the Happy Sad Confused podcast, James Gunn reflects on the low-point of his career, his resurrection thanks to THE SUICIDE SQUAD, and more. Check it here.
  5. Kate Winslet joins The Awardist to talk about her hit HBO limited series Mare of Easttown — why audiences connected to much with her grieving mother character, getting the look just right (that’s a wig!), caring for Jean Smart after an on-set injury, SNL’s Murdur Durdur sketch, and much more. Listen here.

What To Watch:

  1. Sandeep Nailwal, the co-founder of Polygon, talks about the myths and assumptions around how crypto works, the future of cryptocurrency and blockchain, and more, on The Ranveer Show. Watch here.
  2. On the Naan-Curry Podcast, Sadaf and Archit talk about the global history of chocolate, the economics of growing and consuming chocolate in India, and more. Watch it here.
  3. Business Insider breaks down how USA Olympians make money, and why the system left many of America’s top athletes broke. Check it out here.
  4. Show Recommendation of the Week – Marvel Studios Assembled (A behind-the-scenes look at the series and movies of the Marvel Cinematic Universe, including “WandaVision,” The Falcon and the Winter Soldier” and “Loki.”) Now streaming on Hotstar here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – The Suicide Squad (The government sends the most dangerous supervillains in the world — Bloodsport, Peacemaker, King Shark, Harley Quinn and others — to the remote, enemy-infused island of Corto Maltese. Armed with high-tech weapons, they trek through the dangerous jungle on a search-and-destroy mission, with only Col. Rick Flag on the ground to make them behave.)

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


My Weekly Learnings #19 (01.08 – 07.08)

My Weekly Learnings #19 (01.08 – 07.08)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. The Color of Your Thoughts
If you bend your body into a sitting position every day for a long enough period of time, the curvature of your spine changes. A doctor can tell from a radiograph (or an autopsy) whether someone sat at a desk for a living. If you shove your feet into tiny, narrow dress shoes each day, your feet begin to take on that form as well.

The same is true for our minds. If you hold a perpetually negative outlook, soon enough everything you encounter will seem negative. Close it off and you’ll become closed-minded. Color it with the wrong thoughts and your life will be dyed the same. [The Daily Stoic 366 Meditations on Wisdom, Perseverance, and the Art of Living]

2. The ultimate form of intrinsic motivation is when a habit becomes part of your identity. It’s one thing to say I’m the type of person who wants this. It’s something very different to say I’m the person who is this. The more pride you have in a particular aspect of your identity, the more motivated you will be to maintain the habits associated with it.

True behavior change is identity change. You might start a habit because of motivation, but the only reason you’ll stick with one is that it becomes part of your identity.⁠ [James Clear]

3. You might know some people who have stayed healthy into old age … and others who seem to be old before their time. Some of this difference is because of genes (i.e., genotype) and some of it is a result of how genes express themselves on a cellular level as they interact with nutrition, lifestyle, and environment (i.e., phenotype). ⁣⠀
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Identical twins share the same genes, but the older they get, and especially if their nutrition, lifestyle, and/or environment substantially diverge, the way they express these same genes also diverges. The result is that their susceptibility to age-related diseases, the way they look as they age, and even their lifespans also diverge. ⁣⠀
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The key thing to remember is that, while we can’t change our genes, there’s a great deal we can do to influence how they express themselves. While aging isn’t a choice, we can make choices that influence how gracefully we age, because our choices do influence how we express our genes. ⁣[Neurohacker Collective]

4. At Steve Jobs’ funeral Jony Ive said: “I think he better than anyone understood that while ideas ultimately can be so powerful, they begin as fragile, barely formed thoughts, so easily just squished.”

So protect young ideas like a bird protects its eggs.

Later, they can fly. [David Perell] (https://twitter.com/david_perell/status/1422634978064613383)

5. Education is uncomfortable.
Studying nutrition will reveal weaknesses in your health.
Studying money will reveal weaknesses in your finances.
Studying philosophy will reveal weaknesses in your mentality.

True for any subject.

That’s why most people don’t do it. [Jack Butcher]

Off Days

Off Days

Sometimes you’re just not feeling it, sometimes it’s just one of those days, it’s not a recurring thing, but once in a while such a day comes by. I call it, the off day.

These off days, when they come by, aren’t about feeling unmotivated or about being unfocused in the macro, but in the micro, may be so.

On such days, you aren’t interested in anything or anyone. What keeps you going are your habits that you stick by, for some that might not be the case. But usually, the habits keep you on track, other than that you’re just off balance.

Either due to exterior circumstances or maybe because of interior struggles, something ticks off these off days.

It could be a single day, or it could turn out to be a few days or even more, but that switches from being off days into something that should be addressed.

Usually, you just have to wait for this feeling to get over or rather the day to get over… and eventually you just snap back into momentum the next day and you realize it was just an off day.

When more things are going wrong than right

When more things are going wrong than right

You are making a list right now. A list about your life. A list that says everything that’s going right in your life right now. And besides it, everything that’s going wrong in your life.

But, all of a sudden, whilst noting down these pointers, you realise that more things are going wrong in your life than right. You are suddenly horrified at that feeling.

A sudden thought comes, ‘Why is everything so wrong about my life?’

Now, there could be two possible scenarios ahead.

Looking at this list, you could spiral down a pit hole just wondering how did everything go so wrong in every phase of your life, every tiny element against you and just worry about the what ifs and what nots.

Or, you could take a breather. Notice what right and wrong looks for you. Imagine how different life would be if all of those things had gone right for you… Do you like that life? Would you be where you are, with your learnings and experience, if everything that has happened with you, didn’t happen? How many of these situations are in your control, and moreover what can you do about it? If you aren’t doing anything about it, then well, can you complain?

When things start going wrong, and even the tiniest of things start going wrong and it starts piling up, a ton of thoughts and emotions rush through your mind. And you certainly don’t like them. But that path leads to a dark path which you certainly won’t like, because it’s just darkness, negative thoughts, negative emotions and what not. That starts affecting everything, starting from your mind and body to everything that you think and do, and how you interact and more importantly, what you think about life.

Because at that moment, what you think about life will also determine everything that happens to you in the now and in the future, irrespective of whatever happened in the past.

The present comes in the way of the past

The present comes in the way of the past

How often do you think about the past? Your past memories? Your past experiences? Your past mistakes? Your past glories?

Some things you cherish. Some things you don’t. But the good part is that you understand those things that you don’t. Now you want to get over those things, now you try to heal from those things…

But sometimes the present comes in the way of the past.

Your present issues… Your present problems… Your present perspective… Those things sometimes come in the middle of that path. Now you wonder whether you should tackle the present or the past? You may try to juggle both, but then you fail at both. You choose one, but the baggage of the other becomes heavier. Now what?

Well, how about just tackling things on the level of priority as it affects you? Irrespective of the present or the past? The time doesn’t matter, it’s effectiveness does. Now you can choose more easily the moments you want to tackle, the moments you want to heal from, the moments you want to pay attention to.

Now, may be the present doesn’t come in the way of the past.

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The date is August 3, 2026

The date is August 3, 2026. 5 Years from Today. You imagine today is that day. Just visualize it!

Now, ask yourself the following questions…

Do you want to be mentally healthy?
Do you want to be physically healthy?
Do you want to be free of all ailments?
Do you want a positive voice in your head?
Do you want to have less anxiety and/or less stress?
Do you want to be satisfied or feel fulfilled in life?
Do you want to have fewer problems in your life?
Do you want to evolve to a higher version than what you were 5 years ago?

In order to say ‘YES‘ to those questions 5 years from today, the work for it starts TODAY.

Your today’s actions may not have an impact today, but they definitely have an impact ONE year from today, FIVE years from today, and TWENTY years from today.

The life you live today affects your future, no one else’s.

The three focus points of my life

The three focus points of my life

Mind. Body. Breath. The three most important aspects of our life. The three focus points of my life. Each of those areas plays an individual role in our lives. Moreover, in our lifetime, either beforehand or after, you have to start taking care or start paying attention to all those three areas. But here’s the important part, your mind, body, and breath play a role in each other’s areas as well. Your breath plays a part in the working of your mind and body. Your body plays a role in your mind and breath. Your breath plays a part in your mind and body. When one fails, all fail. When you work on one aspect, it has an impact on all three aspects.

Knowing that, understanding the advantages of working on those areas, understanding how those three aspects of our lives are interconnected, but also have an external impact on all areas of our life as well.

Whether it is how you live, how long you want to live, how well you want to live, what’s going on in your mind, is your mind well-fed, what is the voice inside your head telling you, how does your body regulate your energy, how often do the foods you eat cause a negative impact on your thoughts, on your day as well, how eating something nutritious immediately turns that scale, how is your breath affecting your actions, how is your food affecting your stress levels… These and more are questions that every individual should ask themselves… The sooner you start, the sooner you start seeing the results and the impact of these results on your life and the various external aspects of your life.

Mix all of this, with self-awareness, and I boiled down my life to three specific focus points and what do I need to about it, now, and how that affects my future. Thus, I focused on the following three areas… It took time, a lot of patience, and understanding, and experimentation, but eventually I realized the change once I started walking down that path.

1. I replaced the foods understanding their impact on my mind and body

2. I worked on the chemistry of my breath

3. I changed the voice in my head

All three individual areas of life, seem as if they don’t impact each other or the external aspects of our life, but they do, more than one can think of.
Replacing the foods helped not just my body, but also the health of my mind, and my breath. Working on my breath helped me realize how it impacts every moment of my life, how it impacts what I do in the very next moment, and how it’s signaling my emotions too. The voice in the head is the biggest work that can ever be done, one that is initially shaped by society’s prejudices, biases, and whatnot, and that’s how we grow up. But work on it, and that voice can become a positive, optimistic tone that helps you and pushes you to help others as well.

None of this has a destination though when you start working on it, it’s a lifetime work-in-progress, but every day you see the progress, and every tomorrow there’s an evolution waiting to happen.

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The Last 7 Days #73 (26.07 – 01.08)

With another Sunday, here’s the 73rd edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. How Nothing designed its Ear 1 earphones to beat Apple’s AirPods? Read here.
  2. Simone Biles withdrew from final ‘to focus on my mental health’ — here’s how to tell if you need a break. Read more here.
  3. Avoid these 24 overused words and phrases that make you sound ‘pretentious,’ say grammar experts. Check it out here.
  4. What Makes Music Universal? Read here.
  5. Eternal Change for No Energy: A Time Crystal Finally Made Real. Read here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. Dr. Andrew Huberman on Optimizing Sleep, Enhancing Performance, Reducing Anxiety, Increasing Testosterone, and Using the Body to Control the Mind, on The Tim Ferriss Show. Listen here.
  2. In this episode of Life Kit, a culinary historian, a professor, and a nutritionist share their advice on how to carry on culinary traditions. Listen to it here.
  3. Sarvesh Shashi on his journey to building SARVA Yoga, on the AngelList India Radio podcast. Check it out here.
  4. On Cyrus Says, F2 Racing car driver Jehan Daruvala talks about starting out in racing so young, Parsis and their love for cars, how he started karting at a very young age, how it all works – Formula 1, 2 & 3, how it all starts from Go-karting, how Jehan moved up the ranks to be in Formula 2 right now, and tons more. Listen here.
  5. Matt Damon joins the Happy Sad Confused podcast to chat about his new film, STILLWATER, his choice of films, Good Will Hunting, and much more! Listen to it here.

What To Watch:

  1. Dr. Baland Jalal talks about Lucid Dreaming, Spiritualism, the Occult to the Human Mind, explained from a neuroscience perspective, on The Ranveer Show. Watch here.
  2. Co-CEO and Chief Content Officer of Netflix, Ted Sarandos talks about his impeccable storytelling instincts, the art of dealing with artists, and the future of entertainment on Film Companion. Check it out here.
  3. Sadhguru on how to overcome compulsive emotional patterns? Watch here.
  4. Short Film Recommendation of the Week – Natkhat (It stars Vidya Balan as a mother educating her young son about gender equality) Now streaming on Voot here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Sarpatta Parambarai (A young man from the Black Town of 1970s segregated Madras finds an opportunity to redeem his boxing clan and himself from years of defeat.) Now streaming on Amazon Prime here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


My Weekly Learnings #18 (25.07 – 31.07)

My Weekly Learnings #18 (25.07 – 31.07)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

For this week’s edition, I’m sharing a third edition of the quotes from Star Wars : The Clone Wars (continuing from the first set here and the second set here(updating the quotes as and when I watch more episodes)

Star Wars : The Clone Wars. A series created by George Lucas, began with a theatrical feature film, and is set in the fictional Star Wars galaxy during the three years between the prequel films Episode II: Attack of the Clones and Episode III: Revenge of the Sith.
At the start of each episode is a line that summarizes a lesson, a takeaway from the episode and its definitely something to learn.

S02E01 (Holocron Heist) : A lesson learned is a lesson earned

S02E02 (Cargo of Doom) : Overconfidence is the most dangerous form of carelessness

S02E03 (Children of the Force) : The first step to correcting a mistake is patience

S02E17 (Bounty Hunters) : Courage makes heroes, but trust builds friendship.

S02E18 (The Zillo Beast) : Choose what is right, not what is easy.

S02E19 (The Zillo Beast Strikes Back) : The most dangerous beast is the beast within

S02E04 (Senate Spy) : A true heart should never be doubted.

S02E05 (Landing at Point Rain) : Believe in yourself or no one else will

S02E06 (Weapons Factory) : No gift is more previous than trust

S02E07 (Legacy of Terror) : Sometimes, accepting help is harder than offering it

— will hopefully update more in the coming series as and when I watch more episodes —

A preview of Flipping the Script

A preview of Flipping the Script

There’s a script written for everything. For everyone. For age. For work. For life. For relationships. For achievements. For success. For health. For money. There’s a script for everything, a script that everyone must follow. These are also known as the standards set by the society.

Now there has to be an origin story for each of these scripts. Someone started it and then followed on. Someone started it to take advantage of others. No one usually questions these scripts though. As long as everything is followed by those standards, everything’s perfect.

Only with awareness, followed by questioning everything, with a mindset of curiosity and growth, are people able to snap out of these scripts and pave a new path for themselves. They are called ‘different’ by the society.

Now, today is just a tease of what Flipping the Script looks like. Whilst I would like to deep dive into every topic and expand on what this flipping looks like, today is just a tease of that topic and work for you to do, if you’d like to flip the script too. Question the usual, question what everyone has been doing for so long, question what you’ve been doing, and imagine a scenario when that script is flipped. What does it look like?

Are you buying it for yourself?

Are you buying it for yourself?

How often do you buy something? How often do you post about it on social media? Oh, you aren’t active there? How often do you tell your friends then about what you bought?

We have this feeling that we really want something, then we buy it, then we’ll share it everywhere and more often than not, the happiness of telling everyone about it takes over the happiness of having that thing.

Where does that root from?

We have this dire need within us to be better than others, to be superior, to choose communities that have the same beliefs as us. When we are compared to someone else, we should be the one chosen. We want to constantly look down upon others. Because that makes us feel better about ourselves. Now how does that happen? Who cares about characteristics or values, right? Or who cares about being secure with themselves?

So, now we buy something that someone else couldn’t. We will go somewhere where someone else couldn’t. And talk about it, on and on and on. We’ll constantly post about it.

Now, let’s get one thing clear. Sharing something about your life isn’t wrong. You want your audience, you want your friends and your relatives to be updated with what’s going on with you. With that intent, sure, it’s a good thing.

But when it turns into, oh let me show that person what I bought, or let me tell everyone what I’m able to do, then it turns uglier. Now whatever you’re doing isn’t for your self at all. Now, there’s boasting about it, and what not.

When you don’t tell a single soul about it, and/or you don’t share it on social media or anywhere else, and yet you’re satisfied with what you’ve bought, well then, you have bought something truly for yourself.

Random Thoughts

Random Thoughts

All our thoughts aren’t focused in one direction. How can they be?

Our thoughts range between 12,000 to 80,000 in a day, depending on the individual.

In that quantity, they aren’t focused on one topic alone. From time to time, maybe in minutes or hours, those thoughts range between a ton of topics.

And most of them are just random thoughts.

So random, you wouldn’t know what to do with them. But what can you do? How many times can you even divert your thoughts to a particular topic only?

But here’s the thing… Every thought has something to say! No matter how random they are, how matter how meaningless they may seem, every thought has something to say.

More often than not, its these random thoughts that speak volumes. They may lead up to something about us that we didn’t see before, or maybe you’re ideating on something and these random thoughts bring something to light that help you in that direction.

The point being, instead of dismissing these random thoughts, we should admire them and cherish them, and try to extract what can be extracted from them, instead of being disappointed that you’re not in the right space, or that you’re distracted.

These random thoughts sometimes speak more than we can see.

Half the things said, don’t need to be

Half the things said, don’t need to be

An individual averagely speaks 125 to 250 words per minute. Now imagine, if this individual speaks on for hours and hours in a day…

Our brain is similar to a programming machine, everything that is seen through our eyes, heard through our ears, said through our mouth, touched through our hands and legs, everything is recorded. To that, a certain emotion is then attached and accordingly the voice in your head is formed too.

So, what you then speak whether about yourself or someone else or anything else eventually becomes a part of you.

Now… Imagine if everything that you say in a day is recorded externally and is then read back to you. Would you be proud of everything that has come out of your mouth?

Do half the things that you uttered needed to be said to yourself, or to someone else at all?

How many times did your emotions take over and you said something that you shouldn’t have?

Moreover, what is the impact of everything that you’re talking about? What does it even mean? Does it have any meaning? Or are you then speaking just for the sake of it?

Eventually, when you keenly observe, when you analyze, when you understand, you realize that half the things said, don’t need to be.

A forceful break, regards the body

A forceful break, regards the body

How its often told that you should balance your life, that you should take macro breaks in between things, and micro breaks in between different tasks during your day as well…

Sometimes we do it and sometimes we don’t.

Those breaks are as beneficial as the things that we were doing if not for those breaks. Both have their time and place and importance.

A break of that kind allows you to rest, to rejuvenate, to gather yourself to go all out again.

But sometimes, unknowingly, your body decides to give you a break as well (either because you didn’t know you needed it or because you were taking on too much).

A forceful break, temporary, is sometimes handed over to you, when you can’t take a decision but you just have to accept that break and wait for things to get back better again.

Such breaks could be of any kind, but instead of freaking out, may be we just ought to listen to our mind and body, and just understand the signals being sent to us, and the takeaways from those signals.

Sometimes, a break is forced onto you, regards the body.

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The Last 7 Days #72 (19.07 – 25.07)

With another Sunday, here’s the 72nd edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. What if everyone’s nutrition was personalized? Read more here.
  2. Why does Mitochondrial health affect aging? 4 science-backed ways to rejuvenate mitochondria. Read here.
  3. 5 ways ‘Ted Lasso’ shows how effective leadership can be achieved through kindness. Check it here.
  4. From clip art to Comic Sans: These screenshots from 25 years ago show just how much the internet has changed. Check it out here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. In this episode of The School of Greatness, Lewis and Dr. Emeran Mayer discuss the biggest triggers for inflammation, the foods we should eat & avoid to improve our gut health, why we’ve become so addicted to sugar & the effects it has on our body, whether our brain or gut health affects our body more, how our digestive system functions, and so much more! Listen here. (There’s a part two to this episode, where they discuss what the mind actually is, finding a higher purpose have on your mind, the key changes to make today to improve your health, and more)
  2. On The Daily Stoic, Ryan Holiday talks to Dave Asprey about the benefits of intermittent fasting, how to optimize your life to maximize both physical and mental performance, and more. Listen to it here.
  3. Facebook COO, Sheryl Sandberg on changing culture and lessons from loss, on Just B with Bethenny Frankel. Check it out here.
  4. In this week’s episode of 22 Yarns, Suresh Raina joins Gaurav Kapur to discuss his newly released autobiography, Believe. They talk about the story behind the book’s name, the 2011 World Cup triumph, Greg Chappell’s impact on his career, his learnings under Dravid’s captaincy, his time as Gujarat Lions captain & his special relationship with MS Dhoni. Listen here.
  5. On Happy Sad Confused Podcast, Tom Hiddleston deep dives into his beloved Marvel character, plus some geeking out about one of his favorite comfort movies, “Cast Away”. Listen to it here.

What To Watch:

  1. Jack Dorsey, Cathie Wood, Elon Musk discuss Bitcoin as a tool for economic empowerment. Watch it here.
  2. Sadhguru sits down to discuss identity, consciousness, inner freedom, human evolution, and his book Karma, A Yogi’s Guide to Crafting Your Destiny, on The Tony Robbins Podcast. Watch here.
  3. On this episode of Cyrus Says, he is joined by Pratik Gandhi to talk about his critically acclaimed series ‘Scam 1992’, his love for the theatre, performing a monologue in three different languages on the same day that got him into the Limca Book of Records, and tons more. Check it out here.
  4. Series Recommendation of the Week – Kevin Can F**k Himself (A dark comedy that alternates between traditional multi-camera sitcom and single-camera drama. Set in Worcester, Mass., the series follows the journey of Allison McRoberts, a stereotypically smart and beautiful sitcom wife, who is married to Kevin, a husky, self-centered man-child who is clearly punching above his weight. After making a dark discovery, Allison teams up with neighbor Patty O’Connor as she attempts to escape the confines of her life and take control of her fate.)
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Black Widow (Natasha Romanoff, aka Black Widow, confronts the darker parts of her ledger when a dangerous conspiracy with ties to her past arises. Pursued by a force that will stop at nothing to bring her down, Natasha must deal with her history as a spy, and the broken relationships left in her wake long before she became an Avenger.)

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


My Weekly Learnings #17 (18.07 – 24.07)

My Weekly Learnings #17 (18.07 – 24.07)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. “It can be easy to think you’re going down the wrong path, that you’re making a huge mistake, that nobody gets it, that you’re the only one. The reason for this is simple: We hear a lot more from the people who disagree with us than the people who agree with us.” [Ryan Holiday]
(Listen to this in-depth here – https://open.spotify.com/episode/6FkCPauGZqUuimk11ipiPI)

2. The physiological sigh is a pattern of breathing that we all engage in in deep sleep. When levels of carbon dioxide in our bloodstream get too high, we, or our dogs, you can see your dog do this, will do a double-inhale, followed by an extended exhale. Children, or adults for that matter, that are sobbing and lose their breath, so to speak, will also do a double-inhale, exhale. That’s the spontaneous execution of what we call the physiological sigh. The reason it works so well to relax us is because it offloads a lot of carbon dioxide all at once, and the way it works is the following: Our lungs are not just two big bags of air. We have all these little millions of sacks of air, that if we were to lay them out flat, they would be as big as about a tennis court or so. The volume of air, therefore, and the volume of carbon dioxide that we can offload is tremendously high, except that we get stressed as carbon dioxide builds up in our bloodstream, and, it’s kind of a double whammy, these little sacks deflate.
Now, when we do a double-inhale, so I’ll do this now twice through my nose, or you could do this. You could do it through your mouth, but it works best through the nose. It’s inhale, and then you sneak a little bit more air in at the very end. When you do that, you reinflate those little sacks, and when you exhale, then you discard all the carbon oxide at once. So the simple way to describe this protocol is that, unless you are underwater, you do a double-inhale, followed by an extended exhale, and you offload the maximum amount of carbon dioxide. And we found in our laboratory, and other laboratories have found, that just one, two, or three of those physiological sighs brings your level of stress down very, very fast. And it’s a tool that you can use any time. [Andrew Hubberman, a Neurobiologist on Optimizing Sleep, Performance, and Testosterone on The Tim Ferriss Show] (Listen to the full episode here – https://open.spotify.com/episode/6Ac19ix9yioyJDXtTtNp2V)

3. Working on a better Mindset over 2021 while neglecting your Heartset sets up a situation of self-sabotage where your intellect knows what you should do yet your emotional world keeps you limited. [Robin Sharma] (Understand this in depth here – https://open.spotify.com/episode/5BwmXSljMOfuNwX0EhrKs2)

4. THE DREAM:
You want something. Month after month, year after year, you dream you are going to get it.

THE REALITY:
Nothing happens. You never come any closer to it…

THE TRUTH:
You didn’t actually want it. You wanted the idea of it. [Mark Manson]

5. When you only listen to the smartest person in the room, you miss out on discovering what the rest of the room is smart about.
Everyone you meet knows something you don’t—and has wisdom from experiences you haven’t lived.

Every conversation is a chance to learn something new. [Adam Grant]

Take a Minute

Take a Minute

Do you have a ton of personal tasks to do? Do you have work projects pending? Are you running around a lot?

More than your physical output, all of this organizational mess of our day-to-day puts a pressure on our mental output.

Right from our energy to the output of our emotions, to our time, everything takes a hit.

And at the moment when you think everything is up to the brim…

You must take a minute.

A minute for yourself.

A minute to settle down.

A minute to take back control of yourself.

A minute to get back to you and focus on what truly matters.

This could be a minute or several minutes, but take it without feeling the guilt, without feeling the pressure, without thinking of the consequences.

Sometimes all you need is that minute is to get back on track.

Access to Information

Access to Information

What is it that you want to learn?

We live at a time when, unlike the previous times or generations, we have an unlimited access to Information.

So much so, that you cannot consume even 0.1% of it in your lifetime.

Now, the question arises again, what is it that you want to learn?

No limited course or degree or experience of life can give you enough knowledge about something, that it stops you from learning more.

Moreover, while these external tools guide you and create a structure so you can learn… It doesn’t necessarily allow the depth or freedom to explore all the areas of a subject.

Now it boils down to, are you willing to put in the time and energy and efforts so you can expand not only your knowledge, but also your perspective, your point of view and learn something new?

With the access of information that you now have, is there another reason why you wouldn’t access it?

RTHReviews : Pig

RTHReviews : Pig

Pig might seem basic at first, all your assumptions take over telling you that this is going to be a straightforward film like always.

But, Pig is not that. The film Pig is beautiful, with layers underneath which you need to look closely to understand… Moreover, it’s not at all what you’d expect. And not expect in a negative way, but on the contrary, blowing your mind, that they’d go in such a direction.

Here’s the official synopsis, “Living alone in the Oregon wilderness, a truffle hunter returns to Portland to find the person who stole his beloved pig.”

Nicolas Cage is simply fabulous in the film, he’s legendary and this film is another example of that. He keeps you constantly invested in the character, whilst also trying to give you a glimpse of life outside of the film, and that was a good one to watch.

Patrick Scola with the cinematography and Michael Sarnoski with his direction and writing have delivered quite wonderfully, the cinematography in particular speaks quite a lot about the tone of the film and what its trying to state, that’s another aspect to look out for in this film.

Lastly, if you’re able to catch the main aspects (the learnings) which make the film what it is (which we aren’t going into, because spoilers), then you’d truly enjoy this film.

One Line Review: Nicolas Cage is back!

One Dark Cloud vs the Entire Sky

One Dark Cloud vs the Entire Sky

Quite often, we look at a dark cloud and then describe the entire sky accordingly.

In our generic perspective, which applies to most of us, that one dark cloud is defining the entire beautiful sky. Even though that sky is still behind that cloud.

That same perspective is how we look at life as well.

We let our biased thinking define one particular moment into how miserable your life is or how nothing turns out the way you want it to be.

One moment describing the entire situation. That’s the way we look at most things in life. That’s the way we approach most situations in life. That’s also the way we handle most things in life.

Without even considering the entire sky behind that dark cloud, we have jumped to the conclusion.

Also because that’s easy to understand, that takes less efforts, everything else you will have to think, reflect and work upon. So why do that then?

Ultimately, One Dark Cloud vs The Entire Sky – what do you want your perspective to look like?

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The Last 7 Days #71 (12.07 – 18.07)

With another Sunday, here’s the 71st edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. Matthew McConaughey explains how time off actually helped relaunch his career. Read it here.
  2. The Rebirth Of NFTs: Moving Beyond The Initial Hype. Check more here.
  3. Why Stores Place Candy by the Checkout Counter (And Why New Habits Fail)? Read here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. On the SmartLess podcast, Sean, Jason, and Will chat with LeBron James about his upbringing, career, foundation, and giving back to the community. Listen to it here.
  2. Steve Madden chats on finding success in your thirties and going where the fish are, on Just B with Bethenny Frankel. Check it out here.
  3. On Stupid No Mor by Anshu Mor, co-founder of The Glitch & podcast host of ‘Advertising Is Dead’, Varun Duggirala discusses ‘creator economy’ & go through his process & learnings in creating a diverse content portfolio. Listen here.
  4. On What’s Life without Cricket, Gaurav Kapur took us through his journey from starting out as a Radio Jockey to being a top TV presenter to now being a budding entrepreneur. Listen more here.
  5. Arjun Kanungo opens up about his humble beginnings, his rise to fame, how it’s getting harder to tell what a “hit song” is, and more on Stars se Baatein with Salil. Check it out here.

What To Watch:

  1. 10 years later, Team ZNMD reunites for a virtual table read, reminiscing the best moments from a journey close to our hearts. Watch it here.
  2. World’s worst diet vs healthiest diet for 7 days, by Yes Theory. Check it out here.
  3. On The Ranveer Show, Farhan Akhtar opens up on creativity, fitness and the warrior mindset. Watch here.
  4. Series Recommendation of the Week – Shadow and Bone (Sinister forces plot against a young soldier after she reveals a magical power that may unite her world.) Now streaming on Netflix here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Malik (A young man rises to prominence through his unswerving fight against political and police corruption in his village.) Now streaming on Amazon Prime here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


My Weekly Learnings #16 (11.07 – 17.07)

My Weekly Learnings #16 (11.07 – 17.07)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. The wind gets all the attention. The wind howls and the wind gusts… But the wind is light.
The current, on the other hand is persistent and heavy.

On a river, it’s the current that will move the canoe far more than the wind will. But the wind distracts us.

Back on land, the current looks like the educational industrial complex, or the network effect or the ratchet of Moore’s Law and the cultural trends that last for decades. The current is our persistent systems of class and race and gender, and the powerful industrial economy. It can be overcome, but it takes focused effort.

On the other hand, the wind is the breaking news of the moment, the latest social media sensation and the thin layer of hype that surrounds us. It might be a useful distraction, but our real work lies in overcoming the current, or changing it.

It helps to see it first, and to ignore the wind when we can. [Seth Godin]

2. We may want what others have, but perhaps without having gone through what they have. Focussing on others’ success and feeling resentment towards them causes unnecessary negativity, we should instead be satisfied with what we have and focus on our own growth and contentment. (Listen more here – https://open.spotify.com/episode/4697Gfy5gbjXusQd3trYdS) [Gita for the Young and Restless Podcast]

3. Your personal experiences make up maybe 0.00000001% of what’s happened in the world but maybe 80% of how you think the world works.
Morgan Housel

4. A parable from priest and therapist Anthony de Mello on the stories we tell ourselves:
“A man found an eagle’s egg and put it in a nest of a barnyard hen. The eaglet hatched with the brood of chickens and grew up with them.

All his life the eagle did what the barnyard chicks did, thinking he was a barnyard chicken. He scratched the earth for worms and insects. He clucked and cackled. And he would thrash his wings and fly a few feet into the air.

Years passed and the eagle grew very old. One day he saw a magnificent bird above him in the cloudless sky. It glided in graceful majesty among the powerful wind currents, with scarcely a beat of its strong golden wings.

The old eagle looked up in awe. “Who’s that?” he asked.

“That’s the eagle, the king of the birds,” said his neighbor. “He belongs to the sky. We belong to the earth—we’re chickens.”

So the eagle lived and died a chicken, for that’s what he thought he was.”

Source: Song of the Bird

5. Those who love gossiping have a deep need to be interesting at all costs. [Kunal Shah]

RTHReviews : Malik

RTHReviews : Malik

I have seen a few of Fahadh Faasil’s films and everytime he impresses you with something extraordinary. His acting prowess is at another level, such an underrated gem. 💎

And what to say about Malayalam cinema? Their storytelling, their courage to delve into those stories is simply fascinating… Mix that aspect with the amazing cinematography of this film and the background music, Malik is a gem one shouldn’t miss.

The film wouldn’t have felt the same without that cast who were just brilliant, all of them shine together in this film, without any one person having the spotlight (another brilliant aspect of this genre).

You’ve got a gangster-drama on your hands, with the angle of politics, religion and how the two intertwine, especially when there’s an agenda behind everything… Where did those two and a half hours go, this film is a brilliant brilliant watch.

The Unspoken Act

The Unspoken Act

Some things that are done shouldn’t be asked for.

Some things that are done shouldn’t be told after they are done.

Some deeds, even if they go unnoticed, add a ton of value in someone’s or your own life.

That is the Unspoken Act.

The magic of an unspoken act is that you should do it if you want to do it, don’t wait for anyone’s approval, don’t wait for anyone’s validation, if its on your mind, go for it.

Irrespective of the outcome, the fun is just adding that value with that unspoken act.

90% of the things require just this…

90% of the things require just this…

Whether your professional or personal life, whether you’re thinking about your self or a goal that you want to achieve, or a task yet to be completed…

90% of the things that we do in life or that we would like to get done require just one thing…

Discipline.

Whether it is a project at hand or wanting to workout, or meditate, or if you’d like to cook or journal, anything and everything that you want to do, you can create plans for it, you can jot down the steps, you can find sources for inspiration and get motivated in the short-term, but eventually it all boils down to discipline.

Discipline is that self-generating power that keeps you going, that keeps you on your toes, that keeps you motivated even when the outcome isn’t in your favour, you don’t fail, but you keep going. You keep trying, but you don’t stop.

That’s the power of discipline. It doesn’t allow excuses, it doesn’t allow a setback, no external affairs can create a hindrance.

Said that, being disciplined isn’t an easy process for all. It takes time, it takes patience, and moreover the mindset to get that discipline going.

To get disciplined, you need a strong why behind you. A purpose. And self awareness. Mix the right ingredients in the right proportion and it gets you going. Don’t and it’s a matter of time before you aren’t able to continue for whatever reason and there and then you are thinking why did this not work out.

Pick your Battles

Pick your Battles

All of us, every day, have a ton of stuff to do, and there’s a limited period of time to do them.

In the midst of managing your time, trying to complete your tasks, give enough time to every sector of your life, there will be moments with others, with yourself, with some situations, where it may not go according to your expectations, or you may not be on the same page with a certain someone, or you might be in the wrong.

The point is, when these moments do occur, you have to pick your battles.

Give more than enough time to one particular thing and you take away the time from the other things… Time, energy and peace.

So when you have to pick your battles, you have to let go of your emotions, and you have to choose which conversation is worth arguing for, which outcome is worth fighting for, which situation requires more of you, and for others you just let go.

Not every situation is worth winning, not every situation is worth fighting for. At those times, you have to be smart enough to pick the right battles and move on from the rest.

These battles happen every day, some are happening with yourself too… But if you just hold onto one, then how will you live the rest of the day?

One Mind, One Body, One Life

One Mind, One Body, One Life

Whilst every sector of our life holds its own importance, with an alloted amount of time and efforts that need to go into it, there’s nothing more important than your mind and body.

The two sectors of our life, that we take for granted, and we pay attention to only when something goes wrong. Then we start the work towards it.

Instead, when you change your mindset, when you change your approach, you realize that focusing on your mind and body not only has an impact on those two areas, but the network effects fall on the other regions of your life as well, whether with regards to your thoughts, your emotions or your actions and more.

All of us just have the #OneMindOneBodyOneLife, and its high-time we take back the control of our lives, give the importance where its due and live life satisfied, happily, and peacefully.

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The Last 7 Days #70 (05.07 – 11.07)

With another Sunday, here’s the 70th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. Instagram’s Evolution. Read in detail here.
  2. Virtual Currencies and India’s Golden Moment. Read more here.
  3. How stadiums can have different ads depending on channel and country? Read here.
  4. Why Facebook’s Substack Competitor Will Do Just Fine? Check it out here.
  5. TikTok’s AI is now available to other companies. Read here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. Robert Downey Jr.’s embarking on a new career: venture capitalist and green business champion and he joins LinkedIn Editor-in-Chief Daniel Roth to lay out his vision for the same. Listen more here.
  2. BuzzFeed co-founder and CEO Jonah Peretti deep-dives into how the company bounced back during the pandemic, on Masters of Scale with Reid Hoffman. Listen here.
  3. In this episode of Life Kit, NPR producer Lauren Migaki guides us through the steps to making a podcast, with advice from folks at Code Switch, Throughline, Planet Money and more. Check it out here.
  4. On Variety Award Circuit Podcast, “The Falcon and the Winter Soldier” star Anthony Mackie discusses the Marvel universe and his journey to becoming the new Captain America. Listen to it here.
  5. On F1 Beyond the Grid, Christian Horner talks on Verstappen’s evolution, Red Bull’s bold ambitions and Vettel vs Webber. Listen here.

What To Watch:

  1. Joe Rogan takes a deep-dive with Quentin Tarantino into his filmography, his craft of making films, the decade of 80s and 90s and much more on The Joe Rogan Podcast. Watch here.
  2. Rocky and Mayur are back with #RoadTrippinWithRockyAndMayur Season 4. Check out the videos here.
  3. John Krasinski breaks down the opening scene of ‘A Quiet Place 2’. Watch it here.
  4. Series Recommendation of the Week – The Flight Attendant (A flight attendant’s life gets turned upside down after she wakes up in a hotel room with a dead man but with no memory of what happened.)
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – A Quiet Place 2 (Following the deadly events at home, the Abbott family must now face the terrors of the outside world as they continue their fight for survival in silence. Forced to venture into the unknown, they quickly realize that the creatures that hunt by sound are not the only threats that lurk beyond the sand path.)

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


My Weekly Learnings #15 (04.07 – 10.07)

My Weekly Learnings #15 (04.07 – 10.07)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. Read to collect the dots, write to connect them. [David Perell]

2. Fitness is 80% nutrition, 20% working out.
Clarity is 80% thinking/writing, 20% reading.
Growing is 80% self-discipline, 20% long-term vision.
Investing is 50% good judgment, 50% being patient.
Attracting opportunities is 0% luck, 100% putting yourself out there and taking risks. [Orange Book on Twitter]

3. A word to every creative person from Ira Glass (sourced from David Perell’s Twitter)

4. What if your life was a sacred responsibility?
The body, a temple.

Every motive, pure.

Every glance, compassionate.

Every word, true.

Every act, right.

Every moment, holy. [Naval Ravikant]

5. “We’re juicing ourselves with sugar, with caffeine, and with whatever the ‘dopaminey’ stimulus is of social media … We’re dosing ourselves to the absolute maximum. This is a sugar, caffeine, and social media society.” [Balaji Srinivasan on the Invest like the Best podcast] (Listen to this particular clip here: https://t.co/PVsGZR5lb8)

RTHReviews : Luca

RTHReviews : Luca

A heart-warming, feel-good film that hits the right emotions, sends the right message and just makes you glad you watched it.

What’s the film about?

“Luca, is a coming-of-age story about one young boy experiencing an unforgettable summer filled with gelato, pasta and endless scooter rides. Luca shares these adventures with his newfound best friend, but all the fun is threatened by a deeply-held secret: he is a sea monster from another world just below the water’s surface.”

Luca is discovering his identity in this film, who he really is, what does he want, how others would perceive him and irrespective of that, to own his identity when others don’t. Somewhere in that storyline, you get absorbed by his character, relating with him and finding yourself in that character and that’s the most epic thing about this film.

The character, Luca is one full of curiosity, is innocent towards most things, and at the same time constantly discovering new things. You just tend to connect this with how every child is at this age, and how, with adulthood, much of those things change with time, but watching this film also shows the essence of those character traits that is somewhere deep down hidden inside us.

Moreover, amongst all his characteristics and the storyline, another inspirational aspect of the film was the determination shown from the character towards his dream. And not just that, but as he learns new things, how that dream changes, but yet the determination remains the same.

His friends are a constant support in his life, helping him learn new things, right there by his side, and even when they aren’t on the same side, the aspect of friendship deep within still remains the same.

Point after point, if there is one thing to notice, its that there is so much to learn from the film and the character, Luca. Its just a brilliant film to watch, with a number of takeaways, and more over, the time is well-spent and well-invested.

One-line Review : Pixar hitting it on target yet again with Luca!

Do you remember your pandemic days?

Do you remember your pandemic days?

March 2020. Pandemic. Lockdown. Panic. Misinformation. Now, its June 2021 and yet much of the things remain the same.

Some cruised through, some suffered, some balanced. For some, 2020 was difficult, and in that time they built themselves and were ready for 2021. For some, 2020 was manageable, but they took a hit in 2021.

But, do you remember the pandemic days?

Most of it seems like a blur, experiences are somehow clubbed into one narrative, but in the micro, it has become so difficult to remember a particular day or a particular time.

That time has just vanished like the snap of a finger. All that remained were the habits, the muscle memory, and the voice, all that took over and guided every individual towards what was next.

All that differed was the particular individual’s habits and their voice in the head, whether those helped them or not, whether they had a positive impact on their life or not.

The ability to see beyond

The ability to see beyond

What’s the basic viewpoint of our individual selves? How everything and how everyone affect our lives is what we care about.

Everyone wants to live their life a certain way, and they want everything and everyone else to abide by those standards and expectations so their life can be lived according to how they fantasized it.

In a scenario of this sorts, the mindset becomes so limited, that we only see ourselves, and we see our own advantage in everything. Here’s where ego and jealousy and competition boils up.

Where an individual stands out is when they develop an ability to see beyond themselves.

This ability comes in when they develop a mindset of growth, a mindset of service, a mindset to help others.

This ability helps in seeing beyond their identity, beyond their beliefs, and now empathy grows in, perspective grows in. Now, they see other people, situations of their life in a different light, they approach themselves, within and exterior, in a way different than before.

The ability to see beyond themselves helps to think bigger, to approach life in a bigger manner, to see the world in a wider form than before, your viewpoint has here shifted from yourself to the world.

Accepting your Loss

Accepting your Loss

Life is a balance of wins and losses. Either or isn’t even a choice. Sometimes you win at something, and sometimes you lose at something.

But, our society has created this narrative where everyone must win. At all costs. Irrespective of how you win. That’s the mentality that has been set.

And with a win put on such a pedestal, imagine how a loss is treated as! An individual is considered a failure if they lose at one small thing, they are made to feel as if they have lost at life.

Moreover, simply shutting down that noise and mindset for a second, when that individual just accepts their loss for what it is, then they’re free of the burden of it.

Accepting any kind of loss, in whatever form, in any sector of life, you understand that its okay to lose at something, you understand the mistakes and the lessons learnt from it.

You then develop a mindset where you understand the balance of life, you try more things because you feel free to lose as well. You shatter the structures on which the society is built, and live a life which is balanced with wins and losses, no matter how small or big.

RTHReviews : A Quiet Place 2

RTHReviews : A Quiet Place 2

For anyone who has seen ‘A Quiet Place’ knows how good the film was, the direction and the storyline were just fabulous.

Said that, not many thought there would be a sequel or moreover, a chance of a franchise. Plus, good sequels are hard to come by.

But, John Krasinski has proven us wrong. A Quiet Place 2 shines with its brilliant direction and storyline, the cast upping their performance and the film being as good as the first one.

If you approach this film from a macro perspective, you realize how small the plot of the film is, if compared to a book it’d be like covering a chapter of it. But, on the contrary, that’s what makes this film that special, its essence lies in how Krasinski has approached the storyline and managed to keep the audience to the edge of their seats, holding on to know what will happen next.

Not to forget about the cast, Emily Blunt, Regan Abbott, Noah Jupe and the introduction of Cillian Murphy, who have all done a stellar job with their performances, keeping the audience involved with every single character and wanting to know what’s going to happen with them.

John Krasinski has done something special here, and we just don’t it yet how many more of these will be in the pipeline, but let’s just say we can’t wait for a third part to come soon.

One Line Review: John Krasinski ups the stakes with this sequel.

My Weekly Learnings #14 (27.06 – 03.07)

My Weekly Learnings #14 (27.06 – 03.07)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. “If you want to be successful in business (in life, actually), you have to create more than you consume. Your goal should be to create value for everyone you interact with.”
Jeff Bezos

2. A fantastic piece by Balaji Srinivasan, on the problem with social media today and the evolution of the space with the help of a decentralized blockchain. (Shared this via Amol Telang)

3. The absence of mental illness doesn’t mean the presence of mental health.
Even if you’re not depressed or burned out, you might be languishing—feeling a sense of emptiness and stagnation. Meh. [Adam Grant] (Read more here – https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/19/well/mind/covid-mental-health-languishing.html)

4. In absence of future data, we use conventional status signals to indicate trust, be it money, power, good-looks or degrees. Quite weirdly “wasting money” signals massive status. [Kunal Shah]

5. Andre Agassi shares how he started beating Boris Becker regularly after his initial losses. Check it out here – https://youtu.be/3woPuCIk_d8

The Best Examples

The Best Examples

So many individuals, so many stories, some inspirational, so many to learn from, so many to not repeat again…

But, any day, any time, the best example is of oneself.

This isn’t about self-boasting or arrogance, but for every individual, the best example that they should give is of themselves. Especially when they look at their past selves and then look at themselves today, in the present.

Those are any day the best examples, because no matter how inspirational or motivational someone else’s story is, only you know the hard work and efforts and struggles you have put into yours.

Your best example is your today when compared with your yesterday, and to see how far you have come, how much you have overcome, how much you have changed.

Moreover, if you doubt of you being your best example, that is again an inspiration to make one for your tomorrow and when you compare that tomorrow with your today.

Random Appreciations

Random Appreciations

When you do something that works out, for someone or in general, as a deed or a cause, you’re then appreciated for it.

That’s the appreciation you get after the deed is done, after the outcome can be seen, after it all works out.

That kind of appreciation is almost guaranteed, irrespective of it being a validator for you or not.

But, the most beautiful and the most surprising thing are Random Appreciations.

Appreciations that are randomly made, irrespective of the outcome, irrespective of whether it worked out or not, irrespective of who it was for.

Such appreciations are genuinely made from the heart… They are made because you feel it.

One could be appreciated for their values, for their efforts, for their love and care, for their work in progress, there are a n number of things to appreciate for.

Just not the clichéd way of doing it at the end, but when they are Random Appreciations.

Self-created Shackles

Self-created Shackles

Either through

– the identities we create,

– the thoughts we have,

– the limitations we put on ourselves,

– the narratives that are set by the society,

– the biases set in our brain,

– the fight towards wanting to be right,

– the fear of being judged,

– the need to be better than others…

There are a bunch and more of self-created shackles that we continue to put on ourselves, thinking this is how life is run, thinking this is how life is supposed to be.

But these shackles are put on ourselves by ourselves. With a choice.

This is a self-created prison and we continue to torture ourselves. We continue to go through it, and we continue to suffer through it.

BUT, that’s only until we realize that we have the keys to get rid of these shackles as well.

A path to create a new mindset, a path to have better thoughts, a path to not compare or judge and be judged, a path to be open and independent and free of the society narratives and biases, a path to grow and evolve, a path that will take time and patience, a path where results won’t be seen in a day or a week, but even if it takes a year or more, knowing the path is freer than before, you’re ready to walk on it, you’re ready to get rid of those self-created shackles.

Do you remember your thoughts?

Do you remember your thoughts?

60,000 to 80,000 thoughts in a day. That’s on average. Some say, thoughts range from 12,000 to 60,000 as well. Whatever may be the right number, they still are a lot.

The more habits you create, the more muscle memory of things you have, the more your mind will takeover during those moments, and you’ll end up thinking, having thoughts, not being in the present moment (unless one practices to be in the moment from time to time).

But, the more important question now remains, do you remember your thoughts?

How often does one thought lead to another and another, until there’s a chain of thoughts about a single topic and suddenly you jump to thinking about something else and now you have forgotten your previous thought?

Moreover, considering the quantity of thoughts we have in a day, its not a surprise that we don’t remember a majority of them.

As true as that may be for all of us, these thoughts do state something about us… How we think? The type of thoughts we have? The emotions behind them? The values behind them? Are they guiding us into something? Are they providing more ideas to you? Is there a deeper layer to them that you don’t understand yet?

The point is, an effort needs to be made to understand these thoughts, to make sense of these thoughts, to know whether these thoughts are even right for you or not.

Those efforts will be difficult, you won’t be in control to remember in the beginning, but it starts with remembering a single thought and holding on to it and trying to decode why it came to you.

Eventually we need to start remembering our thoughts, or else what’s the point of even having them.

The Accountability Exercise

The Accountability Exercise

Humans blame. We all do. For the tiniest of things. Everything that doesn’t turn out the way we fantasized about, the blame of that goes to someone, another individual, a group of individuals, a corporation, a government, a country, a religion or something else.

We are designed this way over the years. We cannot accept responsibility. Because putting the blame on someone else makes it easier to explain to ourselves, it becomes easier to put the blame on someone else, now you’re not accountable for what happened, irrespective of your percentage of fault.

Now the other party will bear the blame (in your imagination), every time, whenever an outcome doesn’t turn out your way. For every micro and macro element of your life.

Here you don’t have any control, you’re constantly looking for excuses, you’re constantly on a hunt to blame people, and it becomes an automatic mechanism for you without you realizing doing it.

When that is realized, when you decide to take control of your life, when you decide you want to be accountable for everything that happens in your life, without depending on external factors… Then you start thinking of steps to head in that direction.

Therein comes the Accountability Exercise.

The Accountability Exercise, where after every moment where you slip out, start losing control of the situation, when the outcome doesn’t turn out your way, you step back for a moment and say to your yourself that you’re accountable for what is happening, it is entirely on you.

No one else is responsible for that. Except you. Everything is on you. You’re accountable for each and everything of your life.

It takes time to accept this. It comes with practice. You do it consciously until it replaces the already-existing mechanism stuck in your brain that lets you think that everything going wrong in your life is someone else’s fault.

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The Last 7 Days #68 (21.06 – 27.06)

With another Sunday, here’s the 68th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. David Perell’s mind-boggling piece on ‘Don’t Kill Time’. Check it out here.
  2. The Art and Science of getting to the very top of Crowded Creator Markets. Read here.
  3. NFTs and Copyrights. Read about this in-depth here.
  4. Is a Famous Face a Form of Intellectual Property? Read more here.
  5. Working all the time isn’t the same thing as productivity. Read here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. On The Decoder with Nilay Patel, he asks Satya Nadella about how he thinks about Windows as a platform, what Microsoft’s responsibilities are, and how he thinks the various antitrust bills in Congress will affect Microsoft’s plans for the future. Listen here.
  2. In this episode of The School of Greatness, Lewis and Dr. Daniel Amen discuss why the brain has more control over your body than your heart and your mind, the four big circles of the human experience the negative effects that alcohol has on the brain, the five foods that we should eat for better brain health, the biggest benefits of intermittent fasting and the science behind why it works, and so much more. Listen more here.
  3. On The Wim Hof Podcast, Russell Brand talks about Wim Hof breathing, family, communal wellness , our connection to nature, Russell’s new book, Revelation, and more. Check it out here.
  4. On Story Tellers and Story Sellers, Vineet sits down to talk about making music with indie sensation Kamakshi Khanna. Conversation ranges from Kamakshi’s experiences as a woman in the scene, self-marketing as an artist and the way ahead in her promising career on stage. Listen here.
  5. Kaley Cuoco talks to The Awardist co-host Kristen Baldwin about coping with a lot of “up and down emotions” as star and exec producer of the HBO Max comedy-thriller The Flight Attendant. Listen more here.

What To Watch:

  1. In this episode of The Ranveer Show, Sahil Lavingia, the founder of Gumroad, talks about the ups and downs of heading a start-up and never giving up. Watch here.
  2. Why are some people left-handed? Watch it here.
  3. Series Recommendation of the Week – Ray (From a satire to a psychological thriller, four short stories from filmmaker Satyajit Ray are adapted for the screen.) Now streaming on Netflix here.
  4. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Sherni (Nature and man fight against a forest officer as she and her team of locals and trackers attempt to capture a disturbed tigress.) Now streaming on Amazon Prime here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


My Weekly Learnings #13 (20.06 – 26.06)

My Weekly Learnings #13 (20.06 – 26.06)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. If you have to ask if you’re happy, then you’re probably not.
If you have to ask if someone loves you, then they probably don’t.

If you have to ask if you are successful, then you’re probably not.

If you have to ask if you are healthy, then you probably are not. [Mark Manson]

2. Show up and do your job.
Don’t speak for anyone else.
Don’t criticize others.
Put the team first.
Pay attention to the details.
Avoid the drama.
Focus on getting better than yesterday.
Repeat. [Shane Parrish]

3. Jerry Seinfeld’s recipe for good writing

4. If work is guided by utilitarian outcomes, leisure is driven by intuitive awareness. Leisure is not a time to retreat from the world. Rather, it’s a time for poetry, prayer, and philosophy — a chance to reflect on where we’ve been, where we are, and where we’re going. [David Perell] (https://perell.com/essay/dont-kill-time/)

5. Identity is a work in progress. Your past self shouldn’t constrain your future goals.
Comfort comes from maintaining your identity. Growth comes from evolving your identity. [Adam Grant]

A day without learning

A day without learning

For someone who is obsessed with learning,

To learn, not particularly academically, but any form of learning, especially with the amount of content available on the internet, via audio, video or text, one can learn anything and anywhere, whatever topic they’re interested in.

Not obsessed per se, but who particularly looks back at the end of the day and notices what they’ve learnt, what are the takeaways from those learnings,

For someone like that, a day without learning is noticeable like a snap of a finger.

What if the day goes by and you didn’t get the time to learn something new and add something to your reservoir of knowledge?

But can a day really go without learning?

There could have been an experience with something, a conversation with someone, a thought in your head, that made you think… That made you ideate more… That was something new to learn.

Can a day really go by without learning, if you are really looking forward to learning something new?

Slip-ups

Slip-ups

Slip-ups are a part and parcel of life. For everyone. Moreover, no one avoids them.

Now when a slip-up happens, you have to ask yourself the following questions –

1. Do you realize your slip-up?

2. Was it in your control or not?

3. If yes, what are you going to do it about it next? If not, then why dwell over it?

4. More importantly, does it change anything about your life, your plans etc? How?

The versions of ourselves

The versions of ourselves

Quite often, all of us have multiple personas for different people, different situations and that is what we call our day-to-day versions of ourselves.

There’s one persona for your friends and family, there’s one for the public and the social media, there’s one for work and then there’s one for yourself.

Every version is different from the other and over time, you learn to swiftly switch between them, pertaining to the situation.

Every version takes something different out of you, and you usually aren’t the same between them.

But, out of all of them, the most important version is the one that you show yourself.

That persona needs to be the truest, so you can see who you really are, so you can accept yourself, and so you can live with yourself.

The other versions might have something extra, something that you portray for that version, adding a bit of spice and lies as well.

But it cannot be the same for yourself, because if that happens, then how will you ever recognise yourself.

One-dimensional Reality

One-dimensional Reality

Anyone who sees the world just by their own limited perspective, without wanting to see it from a third-person view, lives in a one-dimensional reality.

In such a scenario, everything is perceived just by that individual’s viewpoint.

So thereby, their biases and their narratives decide the outcome of a scenario even before it happens.

Whether this is through conversations, or actions, with people, or with generic scenarios, how the world reacts to them and how they react to the world is pre-defined in this one-dimensional reality (and it always goes the same way).

To broaden one’s horizon and to widen their perspective means to accept this reality they live in and then wanting to not that way.

Can I Inspire myself?

Can I Inspire myself?

Right now, right at this moment, we have an unprecedented access to people and information and knowledge.

What are you interested in and you have one or more individuals who are experts in that field, sharing their knowledge.

Thanks to the internet or any other method, you have got that access and soon, you’re now inspired by that individual.

Either from what they have achieved or what you have learnt from them.

Everyone has these list of inspirational people they follow, whom they look upto.

But thinking about that, here’s a question that popped into my mind, “Can I inspire myself?”

Can my journey of everything I have overcome, everything that I have struggled through and come out on the brighter side of things, everything that I have achieved, can I inspire myself?

Can that be the motivation for myself? Can that be a lesson for myself?

Can I inspire myself?

A question I think everyone should ask themselves.

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The Last 7 Days #67 (14.06 – 20.06)

With another Sunday, here’s the 67th edition of my weekly series, The Last 7 Days.

What’s it about?

It’s a weekly series where I talk about what I read, what I listened to, and what I saw in the last seven days.

Since the content I consume around the topics of mindset, marketing and movies brought me value, I decided to share that with you as well, through these weekly editions.

If any of the below-mentioned topics interest you, let’s chat – @rth24 on Instagram.


What To Read:

  1. Emotions are Lighthouses. Read here.
  2. Five Tempting Things You Should Avoid (a Twitter thread by Mark Manson). Check it out here.

What To Listen:

*The links being attached redirect to Spotify, but you can search for these episode titles wherever you listen to your podcasts.

  1. On Masters of Scale with Reid Hoffman, J.J. Abrams explains how creativity and collaboration are things you cultivate, not conjure; and that making room for magic isn’t a luxury, it’s an essential part of entrepreneurship. Listen here.
  2. Grant Cardone on making million-dollar bets and why humility is overrated, on Just B with Bethenny Frankel. Check it out here.
  3. From being one of the best chess players to marriage to talking about his opponents to traveling around the world for various games, legendary chess grandmaster Viswanathan Anand shares all aspects of his life on The Ranveer Show. Listen to it here.
  4. In this episode of Naan Curry with Sadaf and Archit, the hosts talk about mangoes, the king of all fruits in India and the subcontinent. Listen here.
  5. On the Humans of Cinema podcast, Sumeet Vyas talks at length about his artistic inspirations as well as his insights on writing and acting. Check it out here.

What To Watch:

  1. Dr. Mark Plotkin on the mysterious Amazonian forest, mind blow facts about Psychedelics, LSD, and a lot more only on The Ranveer Show. Watch here.
  2. Tom Hiddleston breaks down his most iconic characters. Check it out here.
  3. On Film Companion, Saif Ali Khan talks about how does he play thorny antagonists with such aplomb. Watch it here.
  4. TV Show Recommendation of the Week – The Serpent (The twisting, real-life story of Charles Sobhraj, a murderer, thief and seductive master of disguise, who was a hidden darkness in the mid-70’s on Asia’s hippie trail.) Now streaming on Netflix here.
  5. Movie Recommendation of the Week – Jagame Thandhiram (When a clever, carefree gangster is recruited to help an overseas crime lord take down a rival, he is caught off guard by the moral dilemmas that follow.) Now streaming on Netflix here.

There is a lot of insightful, engaging and entertaining content mixed in all of this.

If any of these topics interest you, then your time will be well-spent.

You can check out the previous editions of The Last 7 Days – here.


My Weekly Learnings #12 (13.06 – 19.06)

My Weekly Learnings #12 (13.06 – 19.06)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. Your mind is a suggestion engine. Every thought you have is a suggestion, not an order.
Sometimes your mind suggests that you are tired, that you should give up, or that you should take an easier path.
But if you pause, you can discover new suggestions. For example, that you will feel good once the work is done or that you have the ability to finish things even when you don’t feel like it.
Your thoughts are not orders. Merely suggestions. You have the power to choose which option to follow. [James Clear]

2. Author Gretchen Rubin on how to rebound from a mistake:
“Instead of feeling that you’ve blown the day and thinking, “I’ll get back on track tomorrow,” try thinking of each day as a set of four quarters: morning, midday, afternoon, evening. If you blow one quarter, you get back on track for the next quarter.
Fail small, not big.”

3. The right response to feedback is, “thank you.” Or perhaps, “that’s a great point.” Even if it’s not your job to change the system, or not your fault that things didn’t work as expected, both of these responses are valid and useful.

Feedback is a gift. It lets you know precisely what the other person wants or needs. After you receive the gift, it’s up to you to accept it or not. But shutting down feedback with an argument or by appearing ungrateful makes it less likely you’ll be offered it again. And if you’re getting feedback from a customer or a prospect, shutting it down makes it likely that they’ll walk away and take their attention and their trust somewhere else.

When you say, “no problem,” you’re letting yourself off the hook, refusing to acknowledge what was said, and closing the door for a useful interaction. Because there is a problem. Exploring what the problem is is far better than denying it. [Seth Godin]

4. A Netflix binge is a temporary escape from languishing, not a cure.
Passive engagement in a fictional world doesn’t offer a lasting sense of meaning, mastery, or mattering.

Flourishing depends on active participation in the real world: creating, connecting, and contributing. [Adam Grant]

5. People who project a higher status than their actual substance, don’t miss an opportunity to dramatically complain about all minor inconveniences. [Kunal Shah]

Embracing the Silence

Embracing the Silence

In a previous post here, I wrote about how we fill the silence in our lives with various things and why do we do it.

Having spoken about escaping silence and running away from it… What can one do to embrace that silence?

That golden silence which is going to unlock so many things in your life, that you didn’t want to face but now you want to… How do you embrace it now?

The first step is one of acceptance. No matter what is revealed to you in this silence, you will accept it and not run away from it. That mindset of acceptance is the biggest key to embracing silence.

Once you have the mindset, then there are two ways to embrace it…

One, you do a lot of self-reflection. Sit to think, journal your thoughts, go deeper into them and when you face those deeper, darker thoughts, and you go deeper and deeper into them and take away their power, then you embrace the silence.

The other way is to meditate. Practice meditating, sit for longer periods of time, go in deep meditations, let everything come to you, feel it, feel those moments, and embrace that silence.

Once you experience it, then you want it more. You feel its power and what it does to you.

Embrace the silence.

Filling the Silence

Filling the Silence

In order to escape the mind, we fill the silence with

– talking (more than usual)

– music (contextual) and/or consuming content in general

– activities that you don’t want to do

(or anything else that one might do to fill their silence)

Why do we do it though?

It’s only when we are scared of that silence. The deepest questions that you don’t think of lie in that silence. The answers you avoid lie in that silence. The truths you run away from lie in that silence.

Silence speaks volumes.

And that is why we run away from it. Because we don’t want to face it. That’s why we escape. Its feels better to escape your reality than to face it.

Facing it means to take action, to pause and look back, to accept your mistakes, to change your tomorrow, that requires change in thoughts and actions and that’s a lot of efforts.

Instead, we avoid the silence.

// i write about how to embrace this silence here.

You don’t know how you sound

You don’t know how you sound

In all of focusing on that voice in your head, how your actions affect others and how others’ actions affect you, we forget how we sound like.

No, this isn’t about your vocals and about the literal sound of them.

But, the impact of your words on others.

You may say something casually, but someone else with a different perspective than yours might take it differently.

And that is a lifelong conundrum that we live in.

You don’t know how you sound and you may never know.

Your anger in your words might put someone down deeply than you’d think. Your appreciation in your words might be taken sarcastically by someone else.

Moreover, this is a vice versa case as well. Because you yourself might get affected that way too, by someone else’s words.

The answer to this conundrum?

Either deeper conversations so you understand something properly, or a deeper understanding of the person so you know their style of speaking, or on a macro level, not to give so much importance to who speaks what (a difficult task that will come with a lot of practice, and might not entirely be recommended because sometimes people need people, they don’t want to do it alone).

RTHReviews : Ted Lasso

RTHReviews : Ted Lasso

A brilliantly made show that touches all your emotions and makes you ponder upon your own life.

What’s Ted Lasso?

The show follows U.S. American football coach Ted Lasso who heads to the U.K. to manage a struggling London football team in the top flight of English football, having no idea on coaching the sport. Streaming on AppleTV+.

Jason Sudeikis is the centrepoint of the show, bringing such a wave of hope and optimism in his character, Ted Lasso that you almost never know the outcome of his process but you’re always rooting for him.

As mentioned earlier, the show touches upon the motivational aspect of life, the importance of teamwork (bringing everyone on board with a single focus is such a task, but when it does, you can see the beauty of it), the importance of your core group in your life, and overall a bigger purpose that you live by.

Ted Lasso, the show, drifts through personal characters and characters as a group, their journey, their ups and downs, and the cast alongside Jason Sudeikis has a done such a brilliant job at this.

Yes, I’m a bit late to the Ted Lasso party, and just before the season 2 arrival, so yeah more episodes sooner rather than later. Moreover, Apple really has done such a remarkable job with this.

One Word Review : Uplifting