Our human brain is in a constant thought process – it is said that, in a single day, you think upto 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts in a day.
Yes, that many thoughts!
Every thought has its own importance, said that, quite often there are thoughts that have no value to us at all. These unwanted thoughts are sometimes negative too – towards us, or towards someone else.
The problem is, when you think about such things a lot, and now the brain gets the signal to think accordingly.
What can you do? You can train your mind to think in a certain way, to think of certain topics and to not think of certain topics.
Why did William Jones say, “Pessimism leads to weakness, optimism to power”? What does it mean?
When you feel pessimistic in a situation, or towards something you want to do, you have already lost hope, you’ve already set a result in your mind which is surrounded with self-doubt. Before you’ve even started, you have given in already.
On the other hand, when you feel optimistic, when you feel positive, when you see it as half glass full, you’ve hope, you’ve the desire, no matter the circumstances, you will walk on the path you’ve set in your mind – now, that’s power.
That power comes from your thought, your hope, your desire, which was missing in the first scenario – which made you weak.
Simply put, when you feel/think pessimistic, it makes you weak and when you feel/think positive, it gives you power even before you’ve started.
If you had a choice, what would you pick – a positive thought or a negative thought? The answer seems easy, right?
Even though you know what you’d pick, even though you understand the depth, the potential behind a positive thought, yet in our day-to-day, we let the negative thoughts take over our day.
It could be super basic from frustrations of the traffic to reaching late at the office to getting cream on your coffee (when you didn’t ask for it), it could be anything and everything. Of course, these are only the basic scenarios and it only gets worse.
We don’t have control over our thoughts, over our emotions. And that’s why, the negativity takes over. The tiredness, the frustrations, the stress, not getting results – all stems from that.
A single post like this can only bring awareness about this, not the solution – but, what can be done is this – initially, after every action or every thought – call yourself out and check whether that thought or action was positive or negative! A simple exercise like this could do wonders for you and you wouldn’t imagine how!
In every situation, you have two options – focus on the positive or focus on the negative.
Most of the times, we look at the downside – this shouldn’t have happened with me/ why did this happen / am I the only one / what more can I do/ why am I not getting anything
This leads to unhappiness, self-doubt, fixed mindset, negative thoughts, negative actions.
How can you be happy then? How can you have more? How can you grow?
There’s only one answer.
• Focus on the Positive •
You can learn to always see the good in situations, in people. You can cherish that you get the opportunity to do anything in the first place. You can be grateful for the things you have. You can be happy with everything that life has given you.
You have the power to do all this.
Focusing on the positive allows you to do this.
It breathes a new life into you, a new mindset, fresher thoughts, positive actions, a new you.
Why wouldn’t anyone want that?
The choice is yours.
Who are the Joneses? “Keeping up with the Joneses is an idiom in many parts of the English-speaking world referring to the comparison to one’s neighbour as a benchmark for social class or the accumulation of material goods. To fail to “Keep up with the Joneses” is perceived as demonstrating socio-economic or cultural inferiority.” #Wikipedia // Consciously or sub-consciously, all of us are trying to keep up with the “Joneses”. Now is the time we realise the mistakes we’ve been making! It shouldn’t matter to you what the others are doing if you are satisfied with your everyday life! We fall for worldly possessions because we see someone else accomplish something and now we want the same.
Someone else means your friends, your colleagues, and even those you follow on social media. The current trend is tied in with posting every expensive stuff you buy or do on social media. Now more than ever, it’s about telling others what you are doing rather than for your self-interest!
Ask yourself three questions the next time you do anything, 1. Am I buying this product/service because of self-interest? 2. Is this bringing value to me? 3. Do you care about other’s opinions?
Achieve stuff for yourself and not for others! Think about it and STOP NOW! The only loss is yours and not anyone else’s.
There’s a mindset ingrained in us since childhood, about working Monday to Friday and then enjoying the weekends!
Everyone hates Mondays and calls it the ‘Monday Blues’! Come Wednesday; people start talking about their Friday and Saturday Night plans. Why?
There’s no harm to enjoy the day off but first, live each day to its fullest. Maximise your potential for that particular day, and when the time comes, you cool it off!
Bars and clubs out there have started exploiting this weekend mindset and provide you with mid-week and Friday night offers. Falling into their traps, you spend thousands of hard-earned bucks on just three-four hours worth of satisfaction and luxury, only to do it the next week again. Moreover, what are you achieving out of it?
Think about it from the long-term perspective. Does that activity bring any value addition to your life? People have their own choices, but at the same time, enjoy your other days too instead of wasting them on something you don’t love; only to wait for the weekends and curse Monday yet again.
Do what you love every day, rather than waiting for the Fridays and Saturdays.
Weekends are a boon to us! How about productively executing it to achieve your goals? Work on your personal development, act on those goals we’ve been trying to accomplish, finish your side hustle project! These points only matter when you know your vision!
When you wake up in the morning, making your own bed should be your first pursuit. Here’s why!
A. Habits Creation It starts with a small step. Doing this every day helps you create a pattern, which then gives you the confidence to develop more habits for yourself, thus making your day more productive and organised.
B. Winning Mindset Everyone says the same thing in the morning, ‘My bed is calling out to me; thus I need to sleep more.’ Making your own bed creates that WIN in your mind, that if I can conquer this first task in the day, it instills the mindset to overcome the other activities as well.
C. Achieving Confidence When you’ve had bad days at work, when you struggle with your daily activities, and you come home and see the bed you made for yourself, it gives you the confidence that if I could achieve this micro task in the morning, I’ll wake up the next day and try accomplishing the rest of the day as well.
If you’re waking up early in the morning, or at least, if you’re making your own bed, you’re on a path to have an excellent start to the day/ achieved significant success in the morning with the entire day to conquer more.
If you aren’t, start doing so and notice how different your day turns out!
I think it’s essential to start the day with a proper breakfast.
Before I answer the ‘Why?’, all of those ‘breakfast-skippers‘ should make a resolution, to start the day only when you’ve had breakfast – and then begin with the rest of your daily activities.
It takes a sheer determination to initiate this habit, and if you’re not, then it’s just the excuses you’re making to avoid it.
Here’s the ‘Why’ –
It provides the fuel in your body – which in turn improves your concentration and productivity for the day.
Eating a nutritious breakfast keeps you in check – physically and mentally.
It sets the right appetite for the day, when you’ve eaten the proper meals, then you don’t tend to rely on junk food since you’ll feel the hunger at the appropriate times only.
Keeping your body hungry until lunch also changes your moods and behaviour – makes you short-tempered at times.
If you’re skipping breakfast to lose weight, then this concerns you – “You are trying to lose weight since months, but the weighing scale hasn’t budged even one mark backwards. Why? It’s because your body metabolism is going down instead of increasing. Staying hungry doesn’t make you lose. Eating healthy makes it possible.”
All stats aside, breakfasts are the best, aesthetically delectable. How can one miss the joy of parathas, sandwiches, omelettes, pancakes, waffles, milkshakes? It’s the best of the best.
Without a doubt, once you set your mind and form the habit, then you will never say the line – “I didn’t have time for breakfast.” It’s an excuse – which will surely have a long-term impact, if not short-term. Think about 10/20/30 years down the line, and make that decision right now.
Was life ever supposed to be easy? Everything we want to achieve comes through focus, hard work and hustle.
Sometimes, we ponder over life, why do we struggle so much, why experience this journey, more importantly, ‘Why is Life so Tough?‘
Well, the most straightforward answer is our goals and the happiness of being on this journey towards reaching that goal.
The happiness of having this life, where we have the advantage and the choice of working towards those dreams.
That self-realisation is so vital to remember; it’s what pushes us further. There will be struggles, the downs, the frustration. However, the purest joy to have this chance of overcoming them makes the whole thought of ‘Why is Life so tough’ disappear.
“There is no value in life except what you choose to place upon it and no happiness in any place except what you bring to it yourself.” – Henry David Thoreau
Most of us define our self-worth with our net-worth and base our life’s decisions on that factor, which, indeed is 100% wrong.
In the end, what matters is how you value yourself – not how others judge you.
Being self-aware – what you bring to the table – not how much – that makes the difference.
Learn on your strengths and weaknesses – work on them.
Constantly, keep improving, so you develop as a better version of yourself – not for others – but YOU.
When you look back, you won’t remember having this bank balance or spending X amount of money on mundane stuff – what you will cherish is, showing gratitude towards yourself and others; working and improving towards a better you; earning respect because of your value.