Who are the Joneses? “Keeping up with the Joneses is an idiom in many parts of the English-speaking world referring to the comparison to one’s neighbour as a benchmark for social class or the accumulation of material goods. To fail to “Keep up with the Joneses” is perceived as demonstrating socio-economic or cultural inferiority.” #Wikipedia // Consciously or sub-consciously, all of us are trying to keep up with the “Joneses”. Now is the time we realise the mistakes we’ve been making! It shouldn’t matter to you what the others are doing if you are satisfied with your everyday life! We fall for worldly possessions because we see someone else accomplish something and now we want the same.
Someone else means your friends, your colleagues, and even those you follow on social media. The current trend is tied in with posting every expensive stuff you buy or do on social media. Now more than ever, it’s about telling others what you are doing rather than for your self-interest!
Ask yourself three questions the next time you do anything, 1. Am I buying this product/service because of self-interest? 2. Is this bringing value to me? 3. Do you care about other’s opinions?
Achieve stuff for yourself and not for others! Think about it and STOP NOW! The only loss is yours and not anyone else’s.
Starting a new series, #TwistedFridays with a comical take on the day-to-day serious conversations about Life and Mindset and Positivity! – This conversation happened with @shreyans456 recently and this image sums up our entire talk on life!
There’s a mindset ingrained in us since childhood, about working Monday to Friday and then enjoying the weekends!
Everyone hates Mondays and calls it the ‘Monday Blues’! Come Wednesday; people start talking about their Friday and Saturday Night plans. Why?
There’s no harm to enjoy the day off but first, live each day to its fullest. Maximise your potential for that particular day, and when the time comes, you cool it off!
Bars and clubs out there have started exploiting this weekend mindset and provide you with mid-week and Friday night offers. Falling into their traps, you spend thousands of hard-earned bucks on just three-four hours worth of satisfaction and luxury, only to do it the next week again. Moreover, what are you achieving out of it?
Think about it from the long-term perspective. Does that activity bring any value addition to your life? People have their own choices, but at the same time, enjoy your other days too instead of wasting them on something you don’t love; only to wait for the weekends and curse Monday yet again.
Do what you love every day, rather than waiting for the Fridays and Saturdays.
Weekends are a boon to us! How about productively executing it to achieve your goals? Work on your personal development, act on those goals we’ve been trying to accomplish, finish your side hustle project! These points only matter when you know your vision!
When you wake up in the morning, making your own bed should be your first pursuit. Here’s why!
A. Habits Creation It starts with a small step. Doing this every day helps you create a pattern, which then gives you the confidence to develop more habits for yourself, thus making your day more productive and organised.
B. Winning Mindset Everyone says the same thing in the morning, ‘My bed is calling out to me; thus I need to sleep more.’ Making your own bed creates that WIN in your mind, that if I can conquer this first task in the day, it instills the mindset to overcome the other activities as well.
C. Achieving Confidence When you’ve had bad days at work, when you struggle with your daily activities, and you come home and see the bed you made for yourself, it gives you the confidence that if I could achieve this micro task in the morning, I’ll wake up the next day and try accomplishing the rest of the day as well.
If you’re waking up early in the morning, or at least, if you’re making your own bed, you’re on a path to have an excellent start to the day/ achieved significant success in the morning with the entire day to conquer more.
If you aren’t, start doing so and notice how different your day turns out!
Inspiration is not something you force upon someone; one attracts it when they need it. Meaning, only when you keep an open mindset, will you accept it and allow it to change your life.
When do you need Inspiration? A. When you have a stagnant routine ・Without any value addition to your life. ・When you’re miserable with your everyday life.
This is the point when you look for inspiration. You desire a change in your life. You aspire to do what you love. When that happens, you’ll be content every minute of every day and not think regarding anything else.
B. When you want to grow/ expand your mindset ・When you’re performing fabulous, but you can do better. You’d like to improve. ・When you’re stuck in a specific point of your life.
This is the moment when you realise that you want a diversion in your thought process which will help you reach your destination. You want to improve in a better version of yourself.
C. When you want to learn ・You’ve limited knowledge. No matter how much you study and learn and experience, you still crave it more. ・You wish to discover more about your industry or other sectors of your interest.
This is the thought process when you’d like to learn more. You follow certain people, and you start listening to them. An endless process, one, out of which you’ll come out as a better person.
All good things take place outside our comfort zone.
If you want to transform/ improve your life,
If you have a macro goal to achieve and you can’t progress,
If you’re troubled by the daily circumstances of your life,
The answer is, ‘To get yourself out of this comfort zone‘.
You’ve created this stable world for yourself, where everything is going the same way, with no growth and no improvement.
To grow, or rather, improve as a better version of yourself, you need to escape that safe place. The grass is greener on the other side!
Every day, every month and every year, the smallest amount of value that you can provide to yourself, helps in upgrading to a better version of yourself.
“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” – Roy T. Bennett
“When you are kind to others, it not only changes you, it changes the world.” – Harold Kushner
With no judgement towards others in your mind,
With an intent to provide value,
With a kind feeling towards everyone,
Your perspective changes!
You see your general surroundings in a better manner! In these situations, you have no other expectations, but to provide value!
That feeling is indescribable! Start showing kindness towards others by thoughts or deed! If you believe in ‘karma‘, then you should also think that the universe will repay you somehow, sooner or later! ❤️
Can you put in the same efforts and work with the same positive mindset towards your goals, every day? Sometimes, we don’t feel that push! There are inconsistent days, and during that time, we want to proceed with our day and move on to the next one, hoping for a more positive day with more accomplishments.
So, how do you stay motivated daily?
Here are a few pointers, which have helped me and could help you too!
Have a macro goal in your mind; what do you want to achieve? That goal firstly should motivate you enough to push you a macro level. However, what about the micro situation, day-to-day?
Reverse-engineer that goal into smaller goals, the more achievable targets, set for a yearly – monthly – weekly – daily basis.
Write down your goals every day. Journalize it.
Write down the tasks for the day beforehand. Either the night before or early morning, before you start your day. You now have the motivation to complete those tasks and check them off.
After this, we still tend to bounce off track, so to keep yourself in check, you should surround yourself with daily inspirational material, wallpapers, social media accounts that you’re following, apps on your phone, people that you talk/meet.
Most importantly, discipline is vital. Discipline keeps you in check, makes you complete all your tasks, enables you to push yourself towards your goals, and creates time from all your daily chores for your productive work.
like to take a break from your everyday life, or want to figure out the answers in your life?
Would you like to move away from the chaos, or like some adventure in your life?
Would you like to explore new opportunities or seek out new ideas in your life?
Travel is the best investment in your life that makes you more productive. More productive in your life, your mindset, your thoughts, it makes everything clearer.
Often, people say – “This place is too expensive” or “This is a huge investment”. Travel need not be international; it can be anything – a one day trip/ a weekend getaway or a whole week off – whatever suits you. Travelling somewhere is more important.
In a typical scenario, for most people, out of the 24 hours every day, you usually work for 8-9 hours, and you sleep for 7-8 hours. For arguments’ sake, let’s add another 2 hours for your breakfast/ lunch and dinner.
In this extreme scenario, which isn’t the same for all, there’s still another 6 hours left for productive use.
During discussions, the topic tends to sway towards, ‘I had work‘ and ‘I didn’t get time‘. However, when you manage your time accurately, you’ve all the time in the world.
Either for your side hustle, either for your personal development, there’s always this extra set of hours which we tend to ignore.
Let’s apply all the hours you’re awake for, in the best possible manner.
We continuously focus on how our future will look like, and our efforts toll up for our post-retirement.
However, what about today? The present. We have one life, and we have no idea how tomorrow is going to be! So why not utilize the time we have to chase our dreams and pursue our passion or exploring life or discovering and learning new skills and interests. Living a better version of our life should be our focus.
“Don’t Live the Same Year 75 times and call it a Life.” – Robin Sharma
Micro or Macro, every goal is meaningful to our lives.
Have a vision of your macro objective, and accordingly break it down to micro goals, so you know your path to reach the ultimate point. The micro goals provide the fuel in our life that take us forward and help us reach the ultimate macro goal.
When you have a timeline of your goal, and if you’ve got the determination and the will to achieve it, then you’ll always find a way. These goals vary person to person, and at the end, only you know your desires. Be it freedom, luxury, a stress-free life, or any of the goals on your mind.
Was life ever supposed to be easy? Everything we want to achieve comes through focus, hard work and hustle.
Sometimes, we ponder over life, why do we struggle so much, why experience this journey, more importantly, ‘Why is Life so Tough?‘
Well, the most straightforward answer is our goals and the happiness of being on this journey towards reaching that goal.
The happiness of having this life, where we have the advantage and the choice of working towards those dreams.
That self-realisation is so vital to remember; it’s what pushes us further. There will be struggles, the downs, the frustration. However, the purest joy to have this chance of overcoming them makes the whole thought of ‘Why is Life so tough’ disappear.
“The distance between your dreams and reality is called discipline.”
Living a life with routine makes everything more comfortable, with less worrying about the minute of things.
With ample amount of time, to focus on bigger and better things, you can – work on your dreams/ goals; work on your side hustle; work on that startup; spend time with your family; anything on your mind.
It creates a system around you that increases your focus and efficiency towards whatever you do.
Instead of focusing on – what others are doing, or – what the hot trends are, or – what your weaknesses are,
Focus on your Strengths. – They will help you win the game. Usually, our strengths are something we love, so why not achieve something that plays on it. We’d be good at what we do, and be happy doing so! – Create a SWOT chart which states your strengths and weaknesses and the chances and risks you see for yourself.
Based on that, it’ll give you a clearer idea of your life and help you guide yourself towards a better future.
For most people, travel is enjoying life; taking a break from their usual routine and mostly, for leisure. All of this is true! However, redefining its purpose can magnificently change your mindset over life. Let me explain!
“There is no man who is more complete than the one who travels a lot. He changed twenty times the way he thinks and his outlook on life.”
One, travel gives you exposure. Do you want to limit yourself to the attractions out there or explore the culture and food and the people of that place and extend the horizons of your mindset? That learning improves your mindset and tells you more about their thought processes, their way of living; how you can implement such points in your own life.
Secondly, apart from the exposure and the learning, there’s also the time and money management aspects too! Sounds intense, correct? On every trip of yours, you plan out the entire day. However, have you wondered, how many people implement those same skills in their daily lives? Same logic applies to the money management aspect as well.
Apart from the points mentioned above, being outside your comfort zone is the most significant advantage of your journey. Doing stuff spontaneously that you wouldn’t explore back home when you’re just focusing on your work.
“There is no value in life except what you choose to place upon it and no happiness in any place except what you bring to it yourself.” – Henry David Thoreau
Most of us define our self-worth with our net-worth and base our life’s decisions on that factor, which, indeed is 100% wrong.
In the end, what matters is how you value yourself – not how others judge you.
Being self-aware – what you bring to the table – not how much – that makes the difference.
Learn on your strengths and weaknesses – work on them.
Constantly, keep improving, so you develop as a better version of yourself – not for others – but YOU.
When you look back, you won’t remember having this bank balance or spending X amount of money on mundane stuff – what you will cherish is, showing gratitude towards yourself and others; working and improving towards a better you; earning respect because of your value.
・ONE decision, which might transform your life.
・ONE step, which will produce a different life path for you.
・ONE positive thought, which will provide you with the confidence to act on your goals.
・ONE friend to guide, who can’t take that leap forward.
・ONE act of kindness, which will provoke you to accomplish more.
・ONE day to act upon, which ultimately becomes your Day One.
It all begins with ONE.
You have ONE Life. Now is a perfect time – to take yourself out of your comfort zone and do stuff you never thought you would.