What is the circumstance at hand and what does it ask of you? Does it require you to stay the same or does it require you to adapt?
The situation could be in control or it could not be, but you need to act according to the circumstance at hand, and not how you would regularly react.
That’s what the circumstance at hand demands of you. To stay sharp. To stay atop of things. To not let things get out of your control. No matter what.
Once you are able to adapt according to every situation that life throws at you, then you’re in control, then you’re able to live life on your own terms, then you’re on a path of growth and improvement.
A space where you as an individual has privacy, you have your boundaries respected, along with peace that you seek, a space where you can truly be yourself and be honest with yourself, that is how I’d describe a well-defined personal space.
Such a space for yourself does not come easy, if one has it, they should definitely be grateful for it. If not, the next question should be, what can be done about it?
What are the problems that does not let you have such a space? What are the reforms that you’d need to make? Can such a space be possible for you? Those are the questions you need to ask yourself if you think you need a space as mentioned above.
Either the time is spent thinking about what’s next – thinking about the future – thinking about the steps to be planned…
That leads to what if something goes wrong and then creating a backup plan – and then planning for it.
Or the time is spent thinking about what’s already done – the past – actions and thoughts – what went right and what went wrong and how it affects today.
Amidst this chaos, sometimes all you need is a moment of relaxation. A moment to relax – a moment to stay still and not think or worry about anything else – a moment to enjoy what your life is.
Sometimes all you need is that moment of relaxation.
‘How can I lose my weight?’ – a question that’s often asked time and time again, by every human being.
It’s always about the weight. It’s always about the calories. It’s always about the numbers on the scale.
And these weight loss goals, whilst they do motivate you to take action, they also lead on a path that’s short-term and result oriented, hence resulting in you taking this path again and again.
But ask yourself a different question, one that always benefits your body, a question that constantly helps you on a path to having a healthy body.
How can I take care of my body?
A question that you will ask yourself when you start your day, when you end your day, and before having any and every meal.
A question that will make you understand the benefits of working out, the importance of it on your mind and body.
A question that will make you understand how important are certain ingredients to your body, how disastrous are some and how you are addicted to certain foods that don’t benefit you at all.
A question that keeps you on your toes, keeps you in check, and also keeps you motivated.
Ask yourself, “How can I take care of my body?”
How often do we feel that we have to say yes to something? We feel pressurized, we feel its an obligation, we feel saying no would make it look rude. Thus, we end up saying yes to a bunch of things that we don’t want to do or things that waste our time, especially when its taken from elsewhere.
The power of a ‘NO’ allows you the time, the freedom, and the independence to do the things you want to do, the things you truly want to spend your time on and not end up doing things forcefully or things that you’re not interested in.
It’s only when you start saying no more often, is when you’re able to live your life like this.
Our time (during the day) is divided into a bunch of phases, which include
– your work time,
– your family/ friends/ relationships time,
– your escapism time,
– your chores (cleaning yourself, your house, paying your bills, those types of activities) time,
– and your ME time.
This ‘me time’ is an essential part of your life, day to day and macro, both. This me time is not for any other purpose or individual, but for yourself.
Whether you use this time to rejuvenate, to relax, to learn and grow, to heal, that is upto you. This time gives you the chance to focus, to look back, to look forward, to look within, to look outward. But this is the time which is solely used for you.
The things that you’re able to do during this time, and the outcome, or what you feel during, are things that cannot experience in your other phases nor can you mix it with them.
Like any other time spent on the other phases, your me time is equally important to your life.
A simple question that we often resort to, ‘Can you help me out with this?’
We ask this because we know we would get help and our problem will be solved or the undone deed will be completed.
Now, asking for help isn’t wrong, but a strong skillset which people lack and don’t look towards, and one that also helps you to grow and evolve.
Said that, unfortunately, the question ‘Can you help me with this?’ can also come from your dependence on others and/ or your lack of efforts.
It’s when you don’t want to put the efforts towards something, but can be done by you, is when you look for easy help.
That and when you know someone is readily available to do it for you. What if you were the last person on Earth and that task had to be done by you? Would there be a chance of dependence onto someone?
Such a perspective solves many things in life and helps you to do a lot of things you didn’t think you could, but it also lacks context (a lot of ifs and buts) which needs to be understood by one whilst adapting such a perspective.