My Weekly Learnings #4 (18.04 – 24.04)

My Weekly Learnings #4 (18.04 – 24.04)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. Your first impression isn’t your appearance, it’s your energy. (Ascendant Power)

2. Intelligence isn’t a substitute for knowledge. Being smart doesn’t mean you’ve taken the time to be informed.
Knowledge isn’t a substitute for wisdom. Being informed doesn’t mean you’ve developed good judgment.

Good judgment requires the humility to know what you don’t know. (Adam Grant)

3. Only the one who has faced failure is able to tell where you are bound to fail as well. (TVF Aspirants)

4. “Like our stomachs, our minds are hurt more often by overeating than by hunger.” — Petrarch

5. When you deal with an angry person or an angry mob, they are in a state of amygdala hijack.
It’s often not helpful to talk to their prefrontal cortex of their brain and try to rationalize that time but easier to communicate in childlike sentences and calm their amygdala first. (Kunal Shah)

My Weekly Learnings #3 (11.04 – 17.04)

My Weekly Learnings #3 (11.04 – 17.04)

Amidst all the content I consume every week, through this weekly series of ‘My Weekly Learnings’, sharing highlights of content pieces that caught my eye and provided more value than I could imagine.

(P.S. Every Sunday, I share a list of what to read, listen, and watch, in my weekly series, The Last 7 Days. You can check out the editions here).

1. • There are no full stops in success. There are just commas. Success is not a destination. Success is a journey.

• One who seeks victory is a Man. One who spreads Victory is a ‘Maharshi’.
(Maharshi, a Telugu film)

2. More isn’t better.
    Faster isn’t further.
    Money isn’t wealth.
    Habits aren’t destiny.
    Solitude isn’t loneliness.
(Shane Parish)

3. ‘Everyone is rational’
But if that’s true, then why don’t we all agree on the right next step?
It could be because everyone has a different experience, different data and different goals.

Or, it could be that you are the only one who’s rational.

And it could be that we all like to tell ourselves we’re doing the right thing, but ultimately, all we can do is make choices based on how we see the world.

The way we see things drives our choices, and, of course, our choices change the way we see things.
(Seth Godin)

4. ⁃ Early to bed, early to rise
    ⁃ Not skipping meals and eating on time
    ⁃ Being regular with exercise

Remain the most underrated and undervalued means to boost immunity,  simply because they cannot be packed into a bottle and sold as a pill.
(Rujuta Diwekar)

The Me Time

The Me Time

Our time (during the day) is divided into a bunch of phases, which include

– your work time,

– your family/ friends/ relationships time,

– your escapism time,

– your chores (cleaning yourself, your house, paying your bills, those types of activities) time,

– and your ME time.

This ‘me time’ is an essential part of your life, day to day and macro, both. This me time is not for any other purpose or individual, but for yourself.

Whether you use this time to rejuvenate, to relax, to learn and grow, to heal, that is upto you. This time gives you the chance to focus, to look back, to look forward, to look within, to look outward. But this is the time which is solely used for you.

The things that you’re able to do during this time, and the outcome, or what you feel during, are things that cannot experience in your other phases nor can you mix it with them.

Like any other time spent on the other phases, your me time is equally important to your life.

Acting like the other person

Acting like the other person

When you act how another individual behaves with you, you may think you’ll do the same with them as well, but, on the contrary, what you’re doing is falling down to their level.

If the other individual is unkind to you, you cannot do the same to them, or else what’s even the structure of your values if you’re selective with them.

Instead, you need to maintain your level, your standards, and your values. Be how you want to be, irrespective of how others are to you. Instead of acting like the other person, act like you.

Saying It and Feeling It

Saying It and Feeling It

Do you feel what you say?

Do you say what you feel?

Often the two don’t coincide, in either of those situations.

We say things just for the sake of the situation, even if we don’t feel them.

And we don’t say things that we really feel, for a number of reasons.

But, both situations arise when we aren’t truthful with ourselves. When that happens, then the chances of either of those situations rising are far lesser than before.

Two ways of looking at things

Two ways of looking at things

For any situation in life, there are always two ways of looking at things and one of them is a positive one.

The way our minds are programmed, how the society narratives are instilled within us, considering a number of factors that play here, our automatic response to most situations is a pessimistic one (and here we think, to have such a point of view is the one that’s realistic).

But, it’s all a game of programming. There’s no right or wrong. A little bit of unlearning, a little bit of practice and you can learn to automatically view any situation from an optimistic point of view.

There’s a reason this is happening to me, what can I learn from this, am I at an advantage here, I’m so grateful to have gone through this, there couldn’t have been a better way to learn this – and more of such optimistic perspective builds in your mind when anything happens in your life.

The current one, the pessimistic one, the negative thoughts, the downplaying yourself, all of those aren’t right, nor does any good to you – all of it is a program that has been instilled since childhood and it can be changed.

There are always two ways of looking at things.

The Game of Ifs and Buts

The Game of Ifs and Buts

A game which is never-ending, and one which is played by all is the game of Ifs and Buts.

This game occurs for most, throughout various moments in just a day and that is then repeated over and over again, life then continuing in this cycle.

For anything that occurs, you think, what if I had done this differently?

For something that hasn’t happened according to your expectations, there’s a but that’s added to your thought.

These Ifs and Buts constantly keep playing in your head, showing you different alternatives if you had made all the right choices, and if everything went according to your plan.

However, two things happen here. One, such thoughts take away the present moment from you, constantly keeping you wondering about the past. Second, and more importantly, life is not but a series of choices you make based on who you are at that time and the experiences you have had.

Every choice you make is something you control, and only when you know the outcome isn’t in your favour is when you think what if. But there’s no time travel, is there? That means you need to be satisfied with the choices you have made and the outcomes that have come along with it, ensuring that those results play a part when you have to make your next choice that impacts your life, on the micro or macro basis.

When your thinking is altered in this way, is when you will be able to limit this game of Ifs and Buts in your head and actually be able to live your life in the reality.

Judgement of Others or of Yourself?

Judgement of Others or of Yourself?

Quite often, we don’t do certain things, we don’t say certain things, we do particular things in a certain way, whether we want to or not.

Such patterns originate from judgements and initially and mostly from the judgements of others.

When someone reacts in a way you don’t like, or didn’t react the way you expected, often, it is you who changes things around to get a different reaction. Basically, you’re getting affected from those judgements.

Similarly, when you judge other people on a criteria of things, and labelling them in sorts,

What emerges from both of these situations is ultimately the judgement of yourself.

With time, a pattern is created that leads to you judging yourself at every step of the way – judging every thought, every action and now doing them in a certain manner, because now you’re predicting how others would react when you do that something.

And then the ultimate question arises, do you want to continue to do things for the sake of validation from others, or do you want to change that and think and act the way you want to, irrespective of everything.

Making that choice starts a journey unlike any other, and one that never seems to end, but at least you’ll the path you’re on.

Stupidest of Questions

Stupidest of Questions

We aren’t taught or we aren’t applauded for asking questions. Rather, do what you’re told, follow the narrative that has been rolled, execute the actions blindfolded.

But, the people who seem smart to you, the people who are knowledgeable, the people who are experts in their fields, that is because they ask the stupidest of questions.

They don’t shy away from it, they don’t care what anyone else thinks. They are curious, they will ask. They want another perspective, they will ask.

Those who think their questions aren’t smart enough keep forming the right question to never ask it, keep being curious in their minds to never know more than they already do, keep thinking everyone else is smarter than them.

Don’t shy away from asking the stupidest of questions because that’s how you grow and evolve.

Know it or Understand it?

Know it or Understand it?

Sometimes you know something. Sometimes you understand it too. Sometimes both. Sometimes neither.

But, a clear line needs to be drawn. A line of clarity.

The knowledge of this line helps you to become better at something. This line is what makes someone an expert.

Forgetting to be Grateful

Forgetting to be Grateful

In our life, we are always running after what’s next or running after our wants, or rather complaining about the things we don’t have.

In all of this, we forget to be grateful for the things that we already have in our life.

Gratitude is such a powerful factor in our life, where if we are grateful for each and every thing that we have and grateful for each and every thing that we get to do, our approach and perspective towards life changes and we start looking at things differently.

Consistency trumps Everything

Consistency trumps Everything

Whether it be anything about life, one always wants to become better at that certain something, wants to improve at it, excel at it, succeed at it.

With everything that is required for such a process, one of the most important things is consistency.

Whether it is working out, whether it is changing your lifestyle altogether, whether it’s changing a habit of yours, whether it’s pursuing a certain goal, whether its a work thing, whether its a relationship thing – consistency trumps everything.

Consistency gives you the experience, gives you the exposure, and most of all it gives you the confidence for that certain something of your life.

That something is for you to decide. You may not like it at the beginning – but being consistent at it improves you, evolves you, and makes you better at it.

Speaking from personal experience, whether it is being in the marketing field for 5+ years, whether it is blogging for almost 600 days straight, whether it is being on the path of self-improvement for more than a year and a half (and also in other areas of my life) – being consistent at a particular goal has helped me become better at it, has made me constantly improve at it and the ‘want’ to go even further than where I am right now.

Consistency trumps everything.

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A life hack to Improving Life

A life hack to Improving Life

When it comes to living your life, to Improving it, to living it on better terms than now, what if there was a life hack that would help you do that?

If it’s good for you, and if it helps you, then that would a wonderful hack, won’t it?

Here’s the hack for you…

➡ Whenever you listen to someone,

Ask yourself what are you learning from them?

➡ Whenever you eat something,

Ask yourself why are you eating that certain something?

➡ Whenever you do something,

Ask yourself why are you doing that certain something?

➡ Whenever you consume something,

Ask yourself why are you consuming that certain something?

It’s often the simplest of questions that we don’t ask ourselves.

Sometimes we ignore things that’s right in front of our eyes and we take it for granted.

How about becoming more mindful and questioning everything that we do?

We would then soon realize how many of the things that we do actually benefits our life and how much of it is a distraction.

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