In the limitless number of thoughts that I have on a day-to-day basis; one of those thoughts resonated with the fact that life is nothing but a game, which you play and your choices and decisions lead to how you play that game and whether you’re good at it or not.
Thinking about life, I pen down my thoughts that relate with this and thus as you can notice below are a few that I think can change how we live life.
Have you noticed, a few percent of people hype up a certain task or an item or a deed, to an extent where it spreads and spreads and now, from the mass perspective you either follow the trend or have the fear of missing out?
That’s the game of hype.
People don’t notice whether whatever is hyped is something they needed or wanted… But, if everyone is following it, then why should we miss out seems to become the general consensus.
Well, to be fair, sometimes, the hype is around good things towards which it becomes easier to get the following, usually in case of a cause.
However, more often than not, it isn’t. Thus, calling out the game.
The sooner people realize what they need or want and how they should distinguish that from the hype around everything, the better.
Instead of falling in the traps, it’d become so much easier to be decisive about everything once you know who you are.
The problem with expectations is that everyone, at some point of time, have some of them, with or without doing anything in the first place.
We “expect” someone to do something for us, just because and this is something that is in your head. Now looking at this from the other person’s point of view, he is not liable to do anything at all.
Another scenario is, when you specially do something, just to get something in return. Another form of an expectation. However, the deed was with motive and not from the heart, and yet again, if it isn’t reciprocated from the other side, it is you who feels disappointed.
In every scenario, it boils down to one person being disappointed in the entire transaction. Wouldn’t it be better if you stop expecting and if you just do? Wouldn’t everything be simpler?
Think about these “one-sided expectations” the next thing you expect something in your head!
There are times in one’s life when they think something’s not working out, in whatever phase of life, or are probably stuck with something that isn’t allowing them to grow.
At such times, does the point of change come up, when you have to ask yourself what kind of change are you looking for?
To add to that, even though it is about taking a decision and moving forward in that direction, the process is still difficult – because it requires patience and efforts to actually change and to get on a better path that will improve your life.
During these moments in life, you have to ask yourself these two questions – what kind of change are you looking for and is it the kind of change that you’re willing to accept?
There are two situations in our lives, one where things are in our control and the other where they aren’t.
The problem arises when we start overthinking about those things that aren’t in our control and worry about their effect on our lives.
We overthink, we worry, we try to prepare for events beforehand and yet all of it is in vain – why – because it’s not in our control.
If we spend that time on ourselves, on our mindset, on our thoughts, on our actions, on our behaviour – the things which are in our control – we’d be better off because we are now in control, not letting the external factors affect us at all, no matter their consequences on us.
One change in our thought process and it can do wonders for us! #StopWorrying #StopOverthinking
Imagine how much of this time is spent by you thinking about the past.
About your past decisions, about the steps taken, how you would’ve done something differently.
Its so easy to think about all of this – it’s easy because you can only waste your time thinking about it, you cannot change anything.
That wasted time is taking time out of your present, and that pondering over isn’t letting you decide your present and your future.
“Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.” – Will Rogers
What’s gone is gone, let’s focus on today, let’s focus on making tomorrow better, let’s focus on making the changes that we can make today that will form our future and also be grateful for every decision previously taken, that has brought us to where we are today.
I legit sucked at writing anything. My marks in school clearly defined that. Whether it came to writing a formal letter to our School Principal or caption writing for the clients, it was difficult to cope with, every time.
However, when I knew what to write, along with a lot of practice and mistakes, you can improve at anything and I improved at this.
After 250+ blog posts, various articles and ‘n’ number of posts created on my various profiles, I’ve finally overcome it.
Next on my list is to overcome my fear of looking at the camera lens and speaking!
All you require is a bit of confidence, practice and not to look at others and get worried with what they are doing! Also, remember that they started way before you did.
All of us have dreams, some achieve them, some are in the process of achieving it and some forget about them!
Let’s discuss those who have forgotten their dreams and let’s question the why.
Why have some of those people forgotten their dreams?
Why have they just let it go?
Did they try and fail and then let it go? – That scenario isn’t bad, it’s good on the contrary – that you tried.
If you just let it go – was it because
• you weren’t confident with yourself
• you didn’t get enough support
• people would have judged you had you failed
• parental pressure of getting into something else
Yes, there are situations, there are circumstances that one may not avoid – sometimes one is forced – but those who persist, and fight for their dreams, feel more satisfied than if they hadn’t.
All dreams are achievable.
Even if the end goal isn’t achieved for some reason, the process is just as beautiful. Plus you’re happy with no regrets – that you tried – you followed your dreams.
In every situation, you have two options – focus on the positive or focus on the negative.
Most of the times, we look at the downside – this shouldn’t have happened with me/ why did this happen / am I the only one / what more can I do/ why am I not getting anything
This leads to unhappiness, self-doubt, fixed mindset, negative thoughts, negative actions.
How can you be happy then? How can you have more? How can you grow?
There’s only one answer.
• Focus on the Positive •
You can learn to always see the good in situations, in people. You can cherish that you get the opportunity to do anything in the first place. You can be grateful for the things you have. You can be happy with everything that life has given you.
You have the power to do all this.
Focusing on the positive allows you to do this.
It breathes a new life into you, a new mindset, fresher thoughts, positive actions, a new you.
Why wouldn’t anyone want that?
The choice is yours.
“The man who views the world at 50 the same as he did at 20 has wasted 30 years of his life.” – Muhammad Ali
What does that mean?
Well, for one, when you grow and when you keep bettering yourself, you also grow a new perspective to everything.
You start looking at things differently, you have a different viewpoint to everything than you did before.
However, it happens when you keep upgrading to a better version of yourself.
That also comes from a growth mindset.
You constantly want to level up, be a better person than before, do things better than before.
In due process, you are evolving and every day, every month and every year of your life is different than before.
If you don’t find that change, then most probably, you are standing in the same place you already were, in the same level of your life, and possibly, without any growth. That’s the fixed mentality, where you’re afraid to move on and want to be where you are forever.
Its time to switch on and switch off some of your life features too, daily.
Always be Kind to everyone around you, everyone. Kindness wins in the long-term.
Have empathy towards others. You don’t know what’s going on in their lives – you have no idea why they are doing what they are doing, you have no idea why they are saying what they are saying. There’s always another perspective.
Judging others never helps anyone and always wastes your time too. It’s time to grow up, stay in your lane and focus on yourself. Live and let live.
Most importantly, be grateful for everything that you have. Gratitude even for the smallest thing makes you realize it’s importance!
Switching on and off a few features of your life makes such a huge difference – you’ll be glad now and in the future that you made these changes!
All of us have our journeys, our goals, our path on which we are currently walking! There’s something on our minds that we want to achieve – either an accomplishment of a task or checking off a goal.
Although, when things don’t work out, we are disappointed, we are in deep thoughts of the reasons why it didn’t work out, we ponder over our decisions and if we could do it all over again!
However, what if life had other plans for us? What if that path wasn’t the right one for you? What if things not working out was a stroke of luck?
That is what Dalai Lama said, “Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.”
Of course, you can’t sit around and think of the ‘What Ifs’, but you can have a positive perspective over life that maybe things didn’t work out for the right reasons and maybe you need to walk another path to reach where you want to be.
To clarify, you might know your true calling but the path you thought was right may not have been the right one, which is why things didn’t work out the way you expected them to; and now it’s time to revisit that and think how you could do it differently!