Are you only thinking about yourself?

Are you only thinking about yourself?

There are two types of scenarios, single-person scenarios where only you get affected, and multiple-person scenarios where either both the parties or they or you affected.

In most cases, we think about ourselves, as it should be, you should be the first priority for yourself. Is something affecting you negatively or are you doing something unwillingly? In scenarios like those, it should always be you first (whether it is pointing something out or creating those boundaries).

Always self first, your emotions first, your feelings first…

But the question, ‘Are you only thinking about yourself?’ becomes a problem too.

Whilst you put yourself first, the problem begins right there in that question itself, Are you *only* thinking about yourself. We prioritize ourselves first, but we often forget about the other person in the equation.

Whilst we should say what we feel, and whilst we should create boundaries that protect us, we must also keep the other person in mind and how you’re conveying to them what you’re conveying and how it’d make them feel after.

Yes, easier said than done, as is the case for most things that will make us better in the short and long run, and this is one of those things, when even in the heat of the moment, we must practice to not only think about ourselves… But to understand what the other person is trying to convey, the meaning of it irrespective of their approach, and then ultimately, how your words and actions will impact them.

Then the question becomes, Are you then ready to take the responsibility of thinking for yourself and for others?