Major Life Lesson from your School Memories

Major Life Lesson from your School Memories

When you look back at your childhood, do you remember each and every day of your life?
When you look back at your school days, do you remember each and everything that you were taught?
When you look back at your college life, do you remember each and every lecture that you attended?

While the answer for all of those questions is going to be a big no, what’s the point of these questions then?

Whether you have introspected upon your life or not, the biggest takeaway from these questions is, there’s no way to remember it all. You have lived your life, that phase was a part of it, you learnt new things, you grew, you evolved, and however you are today is a result of that.

But that’s not it. When you look back, what can you remember?
Certainly not the chapters you had to learn verbatim before the exams, certainly not the diagrams and maps and what not you had to draw.

What you can remember, is also a big takeaway for your life, one that you can use now to live your life ahead.

You don’t remember the school days; you remember specific moments (specific experiences) from that phase of life.

You used to wake up daily, you used to get dressed and go to school, attend your lectures, get back home, do your homework, prepare for your examinations, and you did that for 10 years of school (and that followed somewhat during college too).

But what you remember at the end of it, are specific experiences that you had during that time. You remember those particular moments and you think that school life was enjoyable (forgetting that routine, that pressure).

And now that same cycle repeats when that generation grows up and has to work during their 20s and ahead, and focus all their time there, following that same checklist – wake up, go to work, sit for a period of time, and then come back to do the same all over the next day.

The point being, when you think about it, in about 15-20 years, you won’t be remembering any of these days, in particular, all you’ll remember is a few experiences during this time that will sum up those 15-20 years, or your professional and/or personal life.

When that realization hits you, then you’d want to do things differently… You might want to take a different approach, a different path, maybe balance your time or balance your life in a different manner and move your focus elsewhere.

A minor amount of time is spent reminiscing upon your school days, and you come out with a key takeaway that has the potential to majorly affect the rest of your life.

Our thoughts root from 5 categories

Our thoughts root from 5 categories

All our thoughts root from somewhere. There’s an origin to everything, and that applies to our thoughts as well.

Right from the moment we are born, we are collecting information (now we may not remember everything is not of concern). These origins break down into 5 categories:

– Through associations (acquiring information from the immediate and exterior environment),

– through the social constructs (how the society functions to fit in or the set of steps that have been embedded for generations),

– through the biases (the multiple types of lens that the society has continued for generations through which they perceive/ assign people to a certain trait/ characteristic through which they can be judged easily),

– through the traditions and rituals (whether the intent behind those is good or not, and whether they have a good outcome or not is again a different issue, but they’re blindly followed for the sake of “tradition” becomes the issue),

– through the rules and laws (created by a set of humans who came to a consensus regarding the act of another human/s. Again carried through for years, without asking questions, or without updating them with how the kind currently function),

Through all of these things and more, our thinking gets molded in a certain manner, so much so that the majority of people start thinking the same way or rather approach most things about life the same way.

Best, Optimum and Worst Scenarios

Best, Optimum and Worst Scenarios

Every scenario in life has three possible outcomes: the best scenario, the optimum scenario, and the worst scenario.

These scenarios range from the most macro things in life: work, relationships, health to the most micro things in life: waking up in the morning, eating food on time, having a discussion/ argument with someone, meeting a deadline, etc.

Before you take on anything, there’s always a visualized scenario that takes place in your head, those visuals show you the best possible outcome of that particular scenario (that’s about to take place).

Whether that best possible scenario takes place or not is a different issue altogether, but right at the start, that’s what pops up in your head.

Now, as the process begins, you never know what’s going to happen, how much is in your control, and how much you’d have to adapt. That means, in reality, the outcome could go from the best possible scenario to the worst possible scenario.

Usually, when something like that happens, most people go haywire; unable to understand how to proceed, they aren’t able to process their emotions, nor their next steps.

As much as, in most of those visualized scenarios, the best possible scenarios may look the best, and the worst possible scenarios are those you don’t want to think of, especially at the beginning of the process… That leaves you with the optimum scenario.

The best possible scenario leaves you pumped up, and simultaneously, you avoid the thought of the worst possible scenario. But, said that thinking of the optimum scenario could actually be the best option for you, and something that would keep you balanced, irrespective of what happens.

The optimum scenario is playing in the middle, balancing between both of the other scenarios opposite to each other. Planning for that scenario keeps you in control (somewhat), you’re able to plan for steps beforehand, perceive things you wouldn’t have otherwise, and ultimately, stay balanced.

Thinking of the optimum scenario (in advance) means, anything beyond (the optimum) is just icing on the cake for you (that leads to the best scenario). But, anything worse, means you’re not totally disappointed, you probably have a backup (system) in place, and moreover, you’re now in a position to try and salvage as much as you can from the situation.

You’re now standing in a place, which you hadn’t imagined before, but somewhere where you can see what’s happening, plus nothing really surprises you here.

Every outcome can have these three scenarios, then it’s up to you, how you’d like to rewire your thinking, and what kind of a scenario would you like to be thinking about. Every action is followed by a thought, and every thought takes place because of a system (that is designed based on how you think and how you approach things – which is something that can easily be changed or modified).

Our perspective is not the same as two months ago

Our perspective is not the same as two months ago

Irrespective of whether we learn something consciously or not, we are constantly observing new information, we are constantly learning new things. Our eyes, when open, are always watching and consuming, and our brain is simultaneously processing all this information and storing it.

How will this information be used or whether it’d be used or not is another story altogether, but what we know for sure is this information, this consumption, these observations will have an impact on our behavior, on our mental health, on the voice in our head, and moreover, our perspective.

We have a certain perspective of looking at life, at ourselves, at others, at how the world functions, at our needs and wants, at trends.

This perspective is constantly changing based on the new information we receive. How we thought six months ago, may not be the same way we think today. How we perceived things two months ago is not how we perceive things today. That process is constantly changing, and we along with it.

One, we need to evaluate that change in perspective, and how healthy is it, and whether it’s one we align with or one we need to take steps towards to change.

Second, we need to understand how this perspective is affecting our life and our day-to-day of it, how it is affecting our relationship with others, and how we look at people, generally, in the world.

Our perspective is constantly going to change, our habits are going to change, our thought process is going to change, our life is going to change, but so much of it is linked to one other, and we control so much of it too… It’s having that kind of perspective that allows us to see that and then let us do something about it.

3 Lessons I learnt in 2021

3 Lessons I learnt in 2021

Before the chance to have another year to ourselves, before we plan those new year resolutions, the end of the year is that introspection time when you can look back at everything and just wonder.

Wonder how was this year for me and what did I experience through it? What were the key takeaways for me? What did I learn and what mistakes did I make?

(P. S. Having spent the last three years obsessively on mindset and self-improvement, and learning about spirituality, neuroscience, psychology, the path I walk on is a bit different from others, the observations I have and the takeaways could be quite different too)

Amongst those countless questions, you can introspect upon… You come across a few things that stayed with you, and for me, these are the 3 Lessons I learnt in 2021 that will have an impact on my life, moving forward…

3 Lessons I learnt in 2021 –

1. Your thoughts and your emotions are not you

There’s a lot that we have been through this year, with respect to the pandemic, the mental struggles, being stuck inside, battling your past demons, as well as facing the environment around you.

Amongst all of this, there are certain types of thoughts and emotions that keep erupting in your minds, ones that you necessarily wouldn’t want to have… And irrespective of what you’re doing, or the time of day, these thoughts and emotions act against you, and at those times you feel dark and negative. Sometimes you dig a deeper hole and end up having more of these thoughts or experiencing more of these emotions… And sometimes you’re able to distract yourselves (instead of actually facing them and understanding their origin, something we don’t know how to do initially).

One of my biggest learnings this year has been about this… While it’s great to experience emotions (in general) that help you gauge the current moment you’re living, and while it’s also great to have these thoughts, that help you introspect, ideate, and grow, and communicate… Neither your emotions nor your thoughts are you.

Who you are is beyond both of those things. They are a reaction to something that originates from everything you learn, and they’re temporary… Meaning, it can be manipulated based on what you consume and it can be changed based on how you proceed with that knowledge. Eventually, it flows to the next thing in a while, and what you experience at that moment is only for that brief period of time (unless it’s a lingering emotion that keeps coming to you time and again, and is creating a negative impact on you).

2. The importance of habits

This lesson which speaks about the importance of habits is connected with the first lesson too… Because, in the darkest of days and moments, when you feel you’re not having a good day, when you feel like not doing anything, when you feel what’s the point of it all… Your habits stand the test of time and help you get out of them.

Everything you do is a habit – how you wake up, what you do after, whether you work out or not, meditate or not, the type of food you eat, what do you consume and what do you talk about, your daily rituals.

So, when those moments arrive, for someone like me, I was extremely grateful to have a routine that involved working out, doing breath-work exercises, meditating, having a gratitude exercise, focusing on learning, and improving myself. Even when I didn’t feel like it, even in the darkest of moments, I understood the importance of habits which automatically gave me the push to continue with them, and helped me snap out of what I was experiencing, and helped me walk back on the path I wanted to.

3. Taking time for yourself

The pandemic has changed something in us, permanently, and that has also put this huge limelight on ourselves where we get to focus on who we are, our identity, our needs, and wants.

Amongst all the self-improvement, amongst all the habits push, and irrespective of the type of thoughts and emotions you’re having, another big takeaway from this year was the understanding of taking time out for yourself.

Take out that moment for yourself, without any kind of guilt, without any kind of judgment. That moment would be a singular one or one that lasts for a while, but if you think the right step is to have that break, then just take it. You constantly work on your personal life, your professional life, your chores, and you deserve that break, you deserve that time for yourself.

What you do with that time is equally important though. With all the media manipulation around us, it wouldn’t be right to give in that time to consume what other people are saying or doing or to just distract ourselves. Such a time should truly be for ourselves, just to snap out of everything.

While December always calls for making those new year resolutions, I think it should be for introspection, I think it should be to look back at the year you’ve lived and what can you take away from it. And these three lessons, for me, are what 2021 stood out for.

Am I the one who’s really making that choice?

Am I the one who’s really making that choice?

Heads or Tails?
Black or White?
Left or Right?

All our life, at every turn, at every point, we’re always making a choice.

Even if a single aspect of what we relate with matches a particular side, we go ahead with that. Not to forget past associations and prejudices that fill our minds when that is decided.

But, with every choice we make also comes a bunch of responsibilities as well. So one must ask themselves a few questions…

Can that individual delay their response, or rather take their time before choosing?

Can a particular individual understand both the sides thoroughly before making that choice?

Can an individual not worry about the aftermath whilst making that choice? Can they not worry about what people will think?

Can the individual be free of all media manipulation whilst making that choice?

Can they be devoid of all pressure of choosing a particular side?

Time and again, without thinking about such questions, the answers to these very same questions haunt us sometime or other, down the line.

So, before a choice is made, you must ask yourself, am I the one who’s really making that choice?

Relying on just one source of information

Relying on just one source of information

Widespread information all over the internet – social media platforms, websites, articles, blog posts, podcasts, videos – some true and some misleading – some factual and some spread around for fear and fun.

When you consume a piece of information, be it breaking news, or something that adds to your well of knowledge, are you willing to rely upon a single source that becomes the baseline of your awareness and your emotions and actions. (whatever information you receive, whether it affects you immediate or long-term, has an effect on your emotions and actions or even your thought process)

It’s not about how authentic the source is, but about verifying that information, plus gathering more info, if there is, so you can be sure of what you’re consuming, so you have your angles covered, so you’re up-to-date (not to tell others, but this piece of information is going to play a role in how you think and how you process your day/ life).

In this era of fast consumption, you consume so much that you’re hardly able to remember 10% of it, at max. So, either you put restrictions on how much you consume, or the other option is to consume good information, from multiple sources, so at least the 10% that you end up remembering is good information, and not something i.e. fake or misleading or created to agitate/ incite you towards something or someone.

Controlling the flow of your thoughts

Controlling the flow of your thoughts

Have you been in a scenario where you blank out from what’s happening in front of you and your chain of thoughts is somewhere else, on a third topic altogether?

Let’s think of this… Imagine there’s a conversation going on the table, amongst those around you… And instead of listening in, you’re suddenly thinking of something that happened or something that you had to do, in that scenario you have blanked out and are consciously thinking of something else.

Or let’s say, there’s a table full of food, starters, main course, desserts, but instead of indulging in it, you’re suddenly thinking about this deadline that you had to meet and how you’d do it, etc. and you’ve consciously blanked out from the moment.

This says that irrespective of whatever’s happening, if your focus is elsewhere, and irrespective of the 40,000 to 80,000 thoughts in our head every day (some we control, some we don’t), we are having the ability to carry the flow of our consciousness and our thoughts in a certain direction.

We may not always have that control, and mostly until we learn how to, we don’t.

Even then, when we observe our patterns, it can be noticed how you can jump from one topic to another when you really want to think about something.

That power to control what you think about is with you.

When you don’t like the topic of your thought/s, you can jump around to another topic, with the criteria that it’s something that interests you, and you’re invested in that particular topic… Only then will there be some focus behind it. (or else it can be one of those thousands of thoughts that just float around without you even remembering what that thought was, in the first place).

The introspection at the end of every year

The introspection at the end of every year

We live our life a certain way, and every day is us living a routine. A routine where we approach the weekdays and weekends a certain way, our thoughts and actions a certain way, the perspective of looking at us and the world a certain way.

Days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months, and just like that, it’s December with another year upon us. You have the ability to plan or change the plan mid-way, anytime you want, you can wish to change right here right now. But, all said and done, there’s something about the year-end (probably because we see time with a yearly pattern to measure our lives) that makes us introspect our lives and the year that we have lived.

In January, you will see the last 30 days of everything that transpired. In May, you’ll see the last 30 days of everything that happened with you. But, December is the time of the month, when you look at the entire year, and how it transpired, and what came out of it for you.

How was this year for me?
How will I see this year?
Was it satisfactory?
Was it painful?
Did it create growth for me?
Were there any downfalls?
What lessons can I take from all of this?
What were the best moments of the year?
5 years down the line, how am I going to remember this year?

If you’re introspecting, you should definitely ask the tough questions and wonder what kind of answers do you come up with, if any.

Before the chance to have another year to ourselves, before having the chance to rectify our mistakes, or to expand what’s working, before we plan those new year resolutions, the end of the year is that introspection time when you can look back at everything and just wonder.

This introspection allows that chance to change before the change is forced upon us. It provides the chance to make the move before we have to forcefully move. It is the time to introspect, do you have the time for it?

Avoiding the Outcome

Avoiding the Outcome

Knowingly or unknowingly, we do a lot of things, under the pretense of enjoyment, entertainment, relaxation, hustle, consumption, or achievements.

Throughout that process, or with our eyes on the destination, we focus on the now, we want to enjoy the now.

No problem with that scenario, except we have to focus on what the outcome will look like too.

Some of these things that we do, quickly become habits and eventually becomes our lifestyle, i.e. how we live our life. Our actions are behind-the-scenes building up towards the outcome, without us noticing anything in the present.

We live, we do these actions (and habits), and go on. We see today, but not a year from today, or 10 days from today.

Without having that balanced perspective of looking at things, (the balance includes enjoying the now AND understanding the kind of outcome that will come out of it), the scale then tips off on either side causing results based on where it’s weighed.

Where we enjoyed the present, in the future, we would have to live with its consequences, i.e. the outcome of those actions. How long can you then say, I enjoyed that time and now I’ll live with the outcome too, because that outcome, whatever it turns out to be, and the area of life where it affects you, eventually you’ll then have to live with that too.

So without that balanced perspective, the question then arises…

Can we avoid the outcome of our actions?

To avoid the outcome, whether now, or in the near future, or in the long-term, the outcome will certainly take place, except when you take care of your actions and understand the intent and impact of them (and eventually start balancing it out).

Quick Reactions

Quick Reactions

With all our senses at work, we consume information at a rate that’s just unimaginable.

We are constantly processing everything that happens. What’s happening in the present, what have we thought beforehand that should’ve happened, and what the next step should be, everything is being processed simultaneously.

Amongst all of this, when any kind of particular situation occurs, with respect to an outcome, an individual, or even a self-created situation in our mind, we are quite quick to react.

That reaction often roots from the type of mindset one has, the kind of perspective with which they view themselves, and the world, and where their focus lies overall.

Averagely, these reaction times are quite quick. And these reactions are often either aggressive or defensive, pertaining to the situation.

It then results in an erupted situation which doesn’t solve anything, makes things worse, and at the same time keeps you ticked off.

When that response time is slowed down, everything can be perceived more clearly, you have more options than you’d have noticed before, you’re in control and you’re now more balanced in this scenario.

How are these quick reaction times slowed down?
– with a growth mindset,
– with a kinder and empathetic perspective of looking at the world,
– with a stiller mind (that comes with the practice of meditation and pranayama (breathing exercises))
– with a bigger focus on what you want and (understanding) what (truly) matters

When you look upon those things, what was blurred earlier becomes focused and what didn’t need to be in focus becomes blurred.

The Choice of Words

The Choice of Words

Through the words, we speak to someone, or through the words, we write (for ourselves or when we share those writings with others), or even through the words we think about, the choice of words matters.

Every word represents something, and moreover, every word has an emotion attached to it. The meaning and the emotion affect not only the receiver, but also the one who is saying or writing it, or even when thinking about it.

Just by reading the word ‘happy’, the memories attached to that word start popping up in your mind and you start feeling that emotion too. That applies in the opposite sense too, and to not just a particular word, but the meaning justified from an entire sentence, for example, “You’ll never be able to understand this”. Just by hearing that sentence, an emotion of incompleteness fills you up.

There are billions of words and hundreds of emotions (that can probably be summarized in five or so categories). But the important part is the choice of words you use for yourself and for others, verbally or through writing, all matter.

Sure, in a conscious state of mind, you might keep this in mind. But what about a situation when the moment’s got the better of you?

Maybe, at such a moment, you let your past habits and associations get the better of you and blurt something out you didn’t want to or you didn’t mean to, but at least with the self-awareness, you can learn to step up, you can learn the emotion derived from that word or sentence, the feeling of it, and try to remove it from your vocabulary.

To just understand the depth of what we speak about and what it means is such a key element in our or another individual’s life, how it affected their mind, and the impact it had on their day or more.

“In terms of their awareness and their understanding of life”

“In terms of their awareness and their understanding of life”

As Robin Sharma wrote about in The 5 AM Club, “everyone alive does the best that they can based on where they’re at in terms of their awareness and their understanding of life.”

Even though I haven’t gotten around to reading The 5 AM Club, I’m aware of Robin Sharma’s previous works, which have had a great impact on my life. So when I was listening to one of his podcast episodes, this particular line from his book came up and immediately struck a chord within me.

All of us are on different paths of life, we have different goals, different processes, different types of thoughts, and different styles of execution. Moreover, our understanding of how people around us operate, including our close ones, is always one of mystery. There are moments when you feel why is that person acting in such a way, or why did that individual not think about this (when it was right in front to notice), or why are we not operating the same way.

Questions of these sorts hit me every now and then, with respect to different moments and different people. Being on a path of figuring out more and more about life, about how our body and mind function, and being curious about the tiniest of things, all those things at an intersection make me constantly question the old methods, make me compare the traditional vs modern methods of doing things, make me understand more and more of human behavior and humanity (in general), those types of questions do come up every now and then, wondering why do people do certain things that aren’t helpful to them, why do they make those decisions that don’t help them grow, why to be on a path because someone else did it too.

But, with respect to each and everything, this simple line that everyone is doing their best of where they’re at “in terms of their awareness and their understanding of life” just hits gold.

They might necessarily not be doing the right thing, but based on this line, in their heads (with the current level of awareness they’ve and their understanding of life), they’re doing the right thing, they’re thinking the right thing, and they’re making their decisions based on that very thing too.

Now, with choice or if they stumble upon it, if they’re able to upgrade their level of awareness, or if they are able to elevate their understanding of life (and are able to see the broader, or rather the truer picture, than what is fed to them), then that changes things.

But, until something of that sort is happening, then well, every individual is going to continue to operate “in terms of their awareness and their understanding of life.”

What the Optimum Scenario should be like?

What the Optimum Scenario should be like?

Every scenario in life has three possible outcomes: the best scenario, the optimum scenario, and the worst scenario.

These scenarios range from the most macro things in life: work, relationships, health to the most micro things in life: waking up in the morning, eating food on time, having a discussion/ argument with someone, meeting a deadline, etc.

Before you take on anything, there’s always a visualized scenario that takes place in your head, those visuals show you the best possible outcome of that particular scenario (that’s about to take place).

Whether that best possible scenario takes place or not is a different issue altogether, but right at the start, that’s what pops up in your head.

Now, as the process begins, you never know what’s going to happen, how much is in your control, and how much you’d have to adapt. That means, in reality, the outcome could go from the best possible scenario to the worst possible scenario.

Usually, when something like that happens, most people go haywire; unable to understand how to proceed, they aren’t able to process their emotions, nor their next steps.

As much as, in most of those visualized scenarios, the best possible scenarios may look the best, and the worst possible scenarios are those you don’t want to think of, especially at the beginning of the process… That leaves you with the optimum scenario.

The best possible scenario leaves you pumped up, and simultaneously, you avoid the thought of the worst possible scenario. But, said that thinking of the optimum scenario could actually be the best option for you, and something that would keep you balanced, irrespective of what happens.

The optimum scenario is playing in the middle, balancing between both of the other scenarios opposite to each other. Planning for that scenario keeps you in control (somewhat), you’re able to plan for steps beforehand, perceive things you wouldn’t have otherwise, and ultimately, stay balanced.

Thinking of the optimum scenario (in advance) means, anything beyond (the optimum) is just icing on the cake for you (that leads to the best scenario). But, anything worse, means you’re not totally disappointed, you probably have a backup (system) in place, and moreover, you’re now in a position to try and salvage as much as you can from the situation.

You’re now standing in a place, which you hadn’t imagined before, but somewhere where you can see what’s happening, plus nothing really surprises you here.

Every outcome can have these three scenarios, then it’s up to you, how you’d like to rewire your thinking, and what kind of a scenario would you like to be thinking about. Every action is followed by a thought, and every thought takes place because of a system (that is designed based on how you think and how you approach things – which is something that can easily be changed or modified).

Creating a system around your day (Part 2)

Creating a system around your day (Part 2)

Yesterday I wrote about how our life and day-to-day is nothing but a set of habits, that eventually becomes our daily routine. If those habits are helpful to you, then eventually the routine keeps you in check.

Here’s a snippet from that post, “During the day, irrespective of how many outcomes were in your favor or not, and how your emotions swung from one to another, and whether you were able to manage them or not, ultimately, your routine keeps you in check.”

Check out that post here:

When you think deeper on it, usually the routine involves one particular habit, followed by another, and another. That chain of habits, which might include waking up and then working out, having your breakfast, getting on with your work, with a break in the middle, having a cup of tea in the evening, and so on, are linked to one another.

But we are all humans, not robots. Sometimes the mood overpowers us, sometimes there could be a priority task that uproots this chain of habits, and a particular one gets left out maybe (for example, working out a particular day).

Here’s when, with self-awareness, understanding your habits work out for you. Understanding your habits isn’t enough, and neither is knowing your routine in and out, the more important thing to do is to create a system around your day.

What does it mean to create a system?

It basically means creating a flowchart of your day (mentally), creating alternative scenarios of your day, creating backups in case a particular habit has to be replaced with another, in case something gets delayed or something important comes up.

Such a system (around your routine) helps to keep you flexible, reduces your rigidity, and keeps you and your day balanced, for whatever may suddenly pop up and make you change everything.

Most people don’t like to change their days every day, knowing what you’ll be doing keeps you organized, and keeps you prepared, you retain some part of your control as well. But that also comes with its challenges, because you never know what might turn up, you have to be ready to adapt, you have to be ready for change.

Those are the moments when this concept of having not just a routine, and not just knowing your set of habits, but having a well-managed system in place comes in handy. It starts with understanding your habits, understanding what you’d want from your day-to-day, and what is necessary and what is flexible, and moreover, how much of it are you able to shuffle around.

The routine keeps you in check

The routine keeps you in check

When you shed all the exterior layers (and stories and distractions), you notice how your day-to-day, your thoughts, and actions, are all habits. Every habit that was once started, maybe without realizing, and now keeps continuing day after day.

These habits in accumulation are what one calls a routine. That routine is what an individual follows, right from the time they wake up to when they sleep. These routines include the part of your personal and professional life and all kinds of activities you do throughout the day.

Some of these particular habits help you grow, some let you cruise along, and some drain you with your energy and time.

With self-awareness, you’re able to notice all of these habits, you can then pick the ones that help you grow and evolve, and can also take the path to replace the ones that don’t.

Moreover, the point to understand is, during the day, irrespective of how many outcomes were in your favor or not, and how your emotions swung from one to another, and whether you were able to manage them or not, ultimately, your routine keeps you in check.

Some days you won’t feel like it, but that routine (especially if it’s one that helps you) brings out something in you that keeps your habits running, and irrespective of the effect of the exterior situations, you are able to keep walking ahead and proceed as you’d wanted to when you had planned this routine (in the first place).

Having a set of habits, eventually accumulated into what becomes a routine, helps you live your day, and the next.

You have to take the initiative

You have to take the initiative

Whenever you want something done, you may wait for things to happen; you may wait for someone else to do it, but there’s a lot of waiting to do, and a lot of expectations to have in such kinds of moments.

Most times, you waste your time, or rather the disappointment of your expectations hit you hard.

Instead, you may want to think of proceeding in a different manner. You may want to take initiative (in the first place) and get things moving.

It’s better to be in control, it’s better to run the plan according to how you deem it fit, and now instead of all the waiting for someone and expecting, you drop all of that, and proceed, having taken that initiative.

There’s a lot of contexts here too, especially one, where you may want to know what you’re getting into. But even understanding the message here, and implying it in your life, you’ll notice that this initiative lead will change things around in the majority of how you live your life on a day-to-day basis.

You remember the how not the what

You remember the how not the what

Unless you’re an expert at a particular something, how often do you know the a to z of a particular topic? We feel we know things, but that is only true when you can speak about it.

Otherwise, we feel that we know a lot, and don’t need to learn anymore.

But here’s the catch of it all… When you look back, introspecting what you know and how you use that information in your personal and professional lives, you realize you remember the how not the what.

The what constitutes the technicalities, the terms, the theoretical knowledge, one that people speak that makes you think how they know so much.

The how is the process, the understanding of how it’s done. Basically, you know the same things, but without the what, it doesn’t make you sound like an expert.

Unless you’re interested in the what (and want to make it the center point of your study), there’s no point spending any time on it, because it’d be wasted (that’s the reason where most learning stops or people don’t proceed to the next step, because the what seems difficult).

But knowing this simple fact can be an advantage for you, to learn more and to know more. Now that you know you remember the how not the what… What you can do is this, whenever you learn more and try to upgrade your knowledge, instead of spending time on the what, you can instead spend your time, focusing on the how – so you can understand the subject at hand better, you can understand the process better, and ultimately use it to upgrade your knowledge and your life better, in whatever way you think it seems useful.

Until you don’t

Until you don’t

Until you don’t eat properly, you don’t realize the impact of your previous eating habits and the change after.

Until you don’t work out regularly, you don’t realize what not working out was doing to your mind and body.

Until you don’t start learning on a daily basis, you don’t realize the limitations of your knowledge.

Until you don’t start meditating, you don’t realize the chaotic life you were living blindly; and you don’t understand the importance of stillness.

Until you don’t start addressing your emotions, you feel like everything’s okay, but that’s just your outer shell hiding what’s within.

Until you don’t start living your life on your terms, you continue to live based on what one individual said or did hundreds of years ago and what has now become a social construct.

Until you don’t (the list is endless).

Out of Options

Out of Options

At times we feel we’re out of options. We don’t know what to do. We don’t know how to proceed. It feels like a dead-end.

Everything roots from somewhere and where this particular issue roots from the kind of perspective an individual has… and even though the approach of looking at things can be changed, that is something which can be done on a macro level.

But for someone who hasn’t started that process yet, or hasn’t realized the issue in the first place, what can they do in that particular moment (when they face the issue at hand)?

Just keep an open eye – it’s as simple as that.

All options look closed because we are approaching the situation from that straight-door perspective, thinking the answer will be right in front of us, and we don’t have to look anywhere else.

But at that moment, when you remember to keep an open eye, what you’ll do is not just look for one answer or one path to solving the situation. You’ll now approach with a 360-degree view, keeping your options open, noticing everything, and then coming to a conclusion of what can be done.

And just like that, as time passes, this single smallest step of keeping an open eye will broaden your perspective and ultimately change how you approach things in life (without going for a 5-step program or anything).

It is easier to introspect than do

It is easier to introspect than do

We learn when we make mistakes, or when we educate ourselves.

But many a time, we read things here and there, thinking, ‘It definitely doesn’t sound this easy as it is written’.

So, the other option remains to make mistakes. However, you realize the mistakes or the learnings from them only in hindsight.

When you literally sit and introspect upon your life, what have you done, what does your mindset tell you, and what is it that you think should be next done.

During these sessions of introspection, you come upon moments of your life, where you regret some things, you learn from some things, you’re glad some moments happened, and vice versa.

With that introspection comes learnings, and you come out a wise person at the end of it. You feel you know more than before. You probably won’t make the same mistakes now. What’s next will be better than what happened.

But, sometimes it is easier to introspect (and learn) than do (it in reality). Irrespective of how much you may have evolved or learnt, it is difficult to implement all of it in real life, there’s no snap of a finger that changes everything.

It is a process, it is a practice… Particular moments drag you back to who you are and whom you don’t want to be anymore, but that realization only comes with introspection. Even if it is difficult to do, even if it is difficult to see that before and after, and even if you see those past glimpses before, at least you now have the awareness to realize those things (which didn’t happen before).

Refreshing your Thoughts

Refreshing your Thoughts

All our thoughts root from somewhere. There’s an origin to everything, and that applies to our thoughts as well.

Right from the moment we are born, we are collecting information (now we may not remember everything is not of concern).

– Through associations (acquiring information from the immediate and exterior environment),
– through the social constructs (how the society functions to fit in or the set of steps that have been embedded for generations),
– through the biases (the multiple types of lens that the society has continued for generations through which they perceive/ assign people to a certain trait/ characteristic through which they can be judged easily)
– through the traditions and rituals (whether the intent behind those is good or not, and whether they have a good outcome or not is again a different issue, but they’re blindly followed for the sake of “tradition” becomes the issue)
– through the rules and laws (created by a set of humans who came to a consensus regarding the act of another human/s. Again carried through for years, without asking questions, or without updating them with how the kind currently function),

Through all of these things and more, our thinking gets molded in a certain manner, so much so that the majority of people start thinking the same way or rather approach most things about life the same way.

It becomes programmable, and for most, no one realizes this nor does anyone care. Everyday life, especially the exterior part of it, has been made so chaotic that people are made to think they have no time to think about these things.

So, then one has to get lucky with a certain action (any) that could occur in one’s life which would act as the catalyst for them to realize these things. What follows next is somewhat predictable after a realization of this kind.

That predictability looks something like this, you notice your thoughts from a new perspective, you now look at life differently, what’s real and what’s not is something you notice. You notice what you did before… and what you’d like to do now. So you jot down a plan of action and start implementing those changes and walk on this path of life now.

But that entire process begins when you refresh your thoughts, forget everything for a while, and look at the constructs of this reality that we live in – how much of it is meaningful and how much of it is just for the sake of carrying on.

What does reinventing the wheel look like?

What does reinventing the wheel look like?

Our everyday life is like a wheel rolling, that just keeps on rolling, with the same type of emotions and thoughts and actions, every day like a routine. Only when there’s an issue with the wheel, do we then check what’s wrong and then try to repair it.

But, what if you don’t want to wait till the wheel goes bad? What if you realize that the wheel isn’t of good quality, and you want to reinvent the wheel, so you run more smoothly than before…

That process of reinventing the wheel looks something like this:
A. Gain new knowledge
Your current operating is based on the knowledge that you already have, and it is producing the results that you currently see. In order to reinvent, you must first gain new knowledge, only then will you be able to compare the current and the new process; only then will you be able to understand the difference and execute the latter process in a new way.

B. Understand and acknowledge the mistakes made
Once you have attained this knowledge, then you look back… You notice what’s already done, the outcome of it, and with the new information, you also realize what could’ve been done differently and what shouldn’t have been done at all. Therein comes the most important step, to acknowledge the mistakes made, to accept them, because only then can you proceed to the next step.

C. Ask yourself why do you want to change
Updated with knowledge, mistakes acknowledged… Now, why do you want to reinvent? What’s the reason behind it? What’s the difference that you want to feel? With self-awareness, you’ll be able to answer the why, and that will become the fuel for the path that comes after.

D. Set a new path
Your why will become your fuel, but you must also address the how – the new path that will reinvent the wheel. That path is filled with steps and backups, the macro vision that is broken down into the smallest of steps, that is then attainable within the approachable time limits set by you (a process that motivates some, otherwise the why is strong enough for one to enjoy the process).

To reinvent the wheel is easy to break down into four steps, but a process that comes with strong determination and patience; one that requires your time and but also assures that you will certainly enjoy the other side of it much more than how the wheel was currently running.

Finding time to understand yourself

Finding time to understand yourself

How busy do we make our lives, especially with work, to say that we don’t have time for ourselves?

By not having time for ourselves, doesn’t mean not having time to relax or to eat or to escape (some people don’t make time for that too, but that’s a different topic altogether…), but not having time to understand yourself.

We focus on one particular area of life and we say that this is the area we have to grow in, invest all our time there and when the results come and when we are satisfied (which we never will be), then we’ll focus on our personal lives as well.

But the thing about understanding ourselves is more about self awareness about ourself. Understanding what we truly want, and in which area of life, where do we want to invest our time, what type of returns do we want to see.

The more we understand ourselves, the better our relationship becomes with ourselves, with others, the better we’ll be able to balance the personal and professional aspect of our lives.

All that happens with the most important decision any individual can ever take… To take some time to understand themselves (rather than to simply go with the flow or to follow the societal constructs and to let everything happen to you)

The vibes of your environment

The vibes of your environment

The balance of our day to day and our macro lives hang between our emotions and how we manage through them. Our emotions form from our thoughts and our thoughts emerge from what we absorb and consume.

What we consume depends on the type of environment that is around us.

The environment further gets divided into your internal and external environment, with your internal environment being what you personally consume for your mind and for your body.

But, today we focus on the external environment and the vibes that we get from it.

Why is it said that you’re a sum total of the five people you surround yourself with, is simply because you subconsciously pick up the tiniest of their behaviors, their values and their traits and you start imitating them without knowing how.

Every single thing that immediately happens around you, affects you. Whether this is a positive environment or a negative environment or maybe even a toxic environment, it all gets to you eventually.

The vibes that you pick up from your external environment is going to have an effect on your day to day, on your thoughts, on your emotions, on how you act and behave, on your decisions, on your macro life as well.

Sometimes you understand your environment and you make a stance to act differently, but there’s only so much you can control, especially when you are in an environment you don’t necessarily agree with.

Those are the times when a hard call is made, with respect to your environment and you choose whether to let it be a part of your life or not.

Your Thoughts are your Enemies

Your Thoughts are your Enemies

Our brains are designed to think, a lot. Where do these thoughts originate from?

Through our sensory organs, every piece of information (not just digitally, but every little thing around us) that we consume gets recorded in our brain.

Then comes learning from association (what do people talk about, what topics are popular, what do people dislike, what gets a conversation going), and learning from self-interest (anything that you get curious about).

Now, because we know the basics of mostly everything, the second part that comes in is how the brain already knows what you’re going to do next or what you’re going to do in specific situations, that originates from every action to every response being a habit and the brain recognizes that.

So when these two overlap, the learning, and the response, therein comes the thoughts. The thoughts around a certain topic, the depth of which depends on one’s curiosity, the quality of which depends on one’s internal and external environment, the quantity depending on their mindfulness.

So, now that we have shed some light on the concept of thoughts, are they our friends or enemies?

Here comes three important pointers that will determine that
– the consumption
– the environment
– the mindfulness

Most of what we willingly consume and not subconsciously is something that is designed to hit certain emotions for an individual. Based on how it hits, that certain information will be grabbed by your brain accordingly.

Because of that, you now consume more than you can imagine… The reason being it’s fun, it’s exciting, it’s making you laugh, etc.

What you don’t realize is the logic and the application behind the emotion are also being consumed by you.

Now comes the environment, internal and external. Who have you surrounded yourself with, what information is being discussed with individuals and groups, how do they tackle their emotions, how do they tackle certain problems, what issues do they create in the first place, there are tens, if not hundreds of pointers of our external environment that thus affect our internal environment, until both have been polluted to a point we aren’t aware of.

The third point is a silver lining for some, but full of dark clouds for mostly all… Introducing the concept of mindfulness. For mostly all of our lives, we live by certain concepts and traditions and associations, which we don’t question, thus them becoming the same habits, generation by generation, for most of the people without anyone questioning anything. We aren’t present to what is happening now because of the past, and what will happen in the future because of the present.

When the worlds of consumption, environment and mindfulness collide, is when either your thoughts serve you or they don’t.

When you start dreaming of your
– fantasies,
– alternative what-if scenarios of the past,
– imagined scenarios of the future,
– a scenario being run from your perspective when you fail to see what’s actually happening,
– starting to feel that everything is wrong only with you, or
– starting to feel that everything wrong only happens to you,

Are some of the classic scenarios when your thoughts are your enemies, feeding you something that keeps you in a shell protected, away from reality and you not being in control.

In such a situation, you aren’t able to grasp the true reality, nor are you able to change things around… Unless you are out of the ‘matrix’.

Unless you decide that I’m going to be in control, I’m going to be mindful, I’m going to choose my thoughts, I’m going to start living life as I choose it to be.

All of this is a lot easier said than done, it takes ages to become self-aware of who you are and understanding the situation that you’re in, it takes time and a lot of patience to first deal with yourself, and later on, start with the process of change, to make your thoughts your friends again… And eventually make your life better.

How are you doing vs How are you doing today?

How are you doing vs How are you doing today?

A simple question that is often asked by mostly everyone, if not all is, “How are you doing?”

A question that is followed by a Hello or Hi before the real conversation begins. Sometimes the question shows care and compassion, but usually, it’s just part of a routine.

Even the reply has become a standard one, “I’m fine” or “I’m doing good”.

Whether you are or not is a different issue altogether. You want to respond and then get on the topic or situation at hand.

But let’s make a slight modification to that question, “How are you doing today?

A potential response to such a question would be, “Overall I’m doing good. But today’s not so great. A certain something took place and now I’m feeling x because of it.”

Just by adding a word at the end of your question, you now ask something that opens up the other individual and allows them to share the real answer to that question. Not just that, but that simple addition of a word shows the difference in you and shows that it’s not a routine question anymore.

Try it out, next time when you have a conversation, ask “How are you doing TODAY?”

Inward and Outward

Inward and Outward

Every action of ours has an inward and outward effect.

What we think/ feel/ eat/ drink/ how we care for our mind/ body/ the words we communicate/ the work we do/ the experiences we have,

All of it has not just an effect on the outside, but it equally affects us on the inside too (our inner body processes/ organs/ brain activity, brain processes, hormone releases, neural activity, body energy, just about everything).

Every emotion we feel (as an outcome of anything that we choose to do) releases an energy of that sort in the body too.

Every thing we eat and drink is how our body processes it, and whether it is good for the body or not, then has an outcome accordingly.

Whether we exercise or not, not just has an effect on how “slim” we become, but it has an effect on our body processes too.

The words that we communicate, not just affects our character and our relationships, but also the quality of our mind and the type of voice that develops because of it.

In such a short span of a few sentences, it’s a lot to process… But eventually the baseline still stands the same, everything we do has an effect, not just on the outward, but inward too.

We usually don’t think about any of this, we weren’t taught to think in this manner, neither did we question the working of anything.

If we become a tiny bit more mindful than usual, then we can start taking care of our mind, body and soul, at least from now on, if not before (and experience life differently than before).

What is this moment telling you?

What is this moment telling you?

Every moment of our life, something or the other is happening, in the form of a thought, a communication or an action, every moment has something of its own.

But what is this moment telling you?

Either as a lesson, or a learning, what are you receiving from that particular moment?

Sometimes we rush so much from one moment to the next, we forget to take in what we are receiving. We don’t soak it in.

Sometimes, we have to stay still for a second (or learn stillness in general) to understand what that moment is telling you, and what we can take away from it.

Next time, simply ask yourself out of the blue… ‘What is this particular moment telling me?’, until it becomes a habit.

The more you think…

The more you think…

The more you think…

The deeper you’re able to dive into a topic…

The more answers you can search…

The biases and narratives you’re able to uncover…

Sometimes it is a hole you dig for yourself…

But often times, its a blessing than a bane…

The deeper you think…

The more of life can you understand.

Stupidest of Questions

Stupidest of Questions

We aren’t taught or we aren’t applauded for asking questions. Rather, do what you’re told, follow the narrative that has been rolled, execute the actions blindfolded.

But, the people who seem smart to you, the people who are knowledgeable, the people who are experts in their fields, that is because they ask the stupidest of questions.

They don’t shy away from it, they don’t care what anyone else thinks. They are curious, they will ask. They want another perspective, they will ask.

Those who think their questions aren’t smart enough keep forming the right question to never ask it, keep being curious in their minds to never know more than they already do, keep thinking everyone else is smarter than them.

Don’t shy away from asking the stupidest of questions because that’s how you grow and evolve.

Transaction Mindset

Transaction Mindset

With whatever you want in your life, there are certain expectations attached, a scenario where you give to take and not to just give.

That scenario is when everything becomes a transaction mindset for you.

You give someone something and you expect something in return, an expectation of your wish to be fulfilled by someone, even though they aren’t liable to anything in the first place.

Here, when that is not reciprocated, is when you get disappointed. It is at such times when you blame others, when you feel anger and also, create a dislike for the other person.

When you get rid of such expectations in the first place and when you truly give is when you start living your life. Now, when you receive something, you receive it out of worth or out of love, not because of anything else.

You are not always you

You are not always you

No matter how you feel or think about yourself in the moment, no matter what has happened in your past, do know that everything about you can be changed.

You don’t have to be the same you. Especially if you don’t like that version of you. Or even when you have a hunger to improve yourself and rise yourself to a higher version.

However, that change has to be brought onto yourself by you alone, you’re in charge.

But more importantly, everything from your mindset, to your perspective and lifestyle, to your habits, each and everything about you can be changed. Nothing is constant, nothing is permanent. You are not always you.

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Walking the path alone

Walking the path alone

Understanding who we are, what we truly want, or rather how do we want to live our lives, reflecting upon our choices and decisions and mistakes, learning from them, upgrading your life to a better version than before – all of it happens when you walk the path alone.

No one can save us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We must walk the path alone. – Buddha

Walking the path doesn’t mean to get rid of people around you, but it means that now you won’t rely on anyone for anything, won’t blame anyone for anything, take complete responsibility, know what’s in your control and accordingly focus on your life path and your journey ahead.

Then, it is us, ourselves, without any pressure, or society outlook, or without any comparisons or judgments or opinions, focusing on our life alone and focusing on making it better.

That happens when you walk the path alone.

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Without making Mistakes

Without making Mistakes

Is there a perfect life where you know everything you have to do, each and every step planned out, having known the outcome too, and you reach the destination as well?

Only someone with a time machine could’ve done this.

The life we live, cannot be lived, without making mistakes. It is an integral part of our lives, making us who we are.

Our growth, our changes, our success is all dependent on us making mistakes. Without it, how else would we get there?

That’s the magic of making mistakes that we don’t understand. Avoiding them brings a stagnation where we are then stuck at one point and not able to move forward, if we stop making mistakes.

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Life isn’t an either or game

Life isn’t an either or game

What we have been taught of life has always concluded with an either or option.

You either win or lose at life.

You’re either happy or you’re not.

You either accomplish something in life or you don’t.

It’s always an either or option that you end up measuring yourself against.

I feel, life isn’t an either or game.

Neither should it be made into one.

What this thinking avoids is the process behind reaching these either or scenarios.

The experiences, the learning, the fun – all is lost when it’s ultimately summed into an either or.

In the quest to make life into something, we forget the now, we forget the journey, we forget these moments, all for that conclusion.

Life is in the middle, in the unknown, sometimes in the light, sometimes in the dark, finding the light, not knowing the next step, failing at something and then trying again, life is all about that.

It cannot be summed into an either or game.

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What is life teaching you?

What is life teaching you?

In every moment of your life, in every situation, in every instance, life teaches you something.

Only if you’re aware of what’s happening to you, can you be aware of these teachings.

These teachings can be in any phase of life, whether relationships, career, goals, finances, anything.

Teachings could be in the way of success or failure, there is a learning in both.

However, your ignorance and distractions can cause you to miss out on them, in turn missing out on your growth, your improvement, your evolution.

You live that moment of your life once, that particular learning happens once, if you learn from it, you can better yourself, if you miss it, it’s going to cost you and no one else.

Albeit if you’re aware, if you’re on the lookout for them, you can learn and understand and implement everything that life is trying to teach you; resulting in you becoming a better version of yourself.

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Watch, Learn and…

Watch, Learn and…

We watch, we learn but we often forget the third part of the equation, which is more important than the other two.

How do we usually consume any information?

It’s either in the form of text, audio or video.

When we consume, and if it’s useful and adding value to our lives, then we reach the second part of the equation, i.e. we learn from it.

We learn the what, why, when and how.

So now that we have watched and learnt from it, let’s come to the third and the most important part of the equation.

And that is to implement it.

Implement that learning to our life.

Use it to our advantage.

Use that piece of information to make our life better, in whatever way we can.

Adding these factors together equal to you growing and evolving and eventually, becoming a better version of yourself.

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Ignorance is Easy

Ignorance is Easy

It’s easy to ignore, it’s easy to say that this isn’t for me, it’s easy to say that this doesn’t suit me.

Those are the easy answers.

What’s difficult is to understand this ignorance.

Understand that you have limited knowledge, you don’t have all the pieces of the puzzle.

That you’re probably ignoring because you’re in your comfort zone and you don’t have to do much in that place.

Anything else outside of that will require efforts.

So why not just ignore and say this isn’t for me?

If you experiment, you try it out, and then you say it isn’t for me, makes sense.

That says you’re ready to try and evolve and keep on improving.

Those are the difficult steps that give you better outputs.

Easy steps start from ignorance.

Whether you’re ignoring or you’re ready to try, depends on you and your mindset.

In the end, it affects your life and no one else’s.

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Living Upside-down for a Day

Living Upside-down for a Day

We live a life of routine, schedules and habits.

Don’t we?

Every day has a certain routine, there are certain habits that you repeat every day, every hour.

And that’s how life is.

A bunch of habits and routine that guides you on the path you’re walking.

However, no matter how much you love it, you love the process, you love the journey, but sometimes you need change.

Sometimes you feel if something could be different.

And that’s where living upside-down for a day comes in.

Not literally upside-down, of course.

But overturning your day, a specific day, completely different than the rest of the days.

The rest of the days, you pursue your dreams, your goals, you live your habits and your schedule.

But this one day, you do none of it. You don’t do any of those routines. You let go of your habits (most of them, at least).

Such a day gives you a different aspect to life, a different glimpse of it.

You get some change, and you then become ready to bounce back.

This day could come once a week, once a fortnight or once a month.

It’s up to you to decide that.

Based on your energy levels, based on how long and how much can you push yourself without feeling burnt out.

But definitely try it out.

Live upside-down for a day.

Just not literally.

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Digging deeper for the truth

Digging deeper for the truth

We think we know the truth, our version of it at least and we then remain content with it.

But, the truth is like an egg.

Let me elaborate that statement.

The truth we know is like the outer shell of that egg.

In order to get beyond what you know and have more clarity, you have to break that outer shell.

You have to dig deeper.

Will you find the truth?

You never know until you dig.

Until you’re curious to know more.

To explore more.

To learn more.

Until you’re ready to see beyond your own truth.

Until you’re ready to accept another perspective to your own.

For that you will have to keep digging deeper.

For the truth.

Then you can match it with what you knew before.

And be thankful that you dug deeper.

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Peeling off the Layers

Peeling off the Layers

Once we know something, we think we know it all, until we ourselves discover something else.

It is then when we realize that what we knew was just the outer layer and there are multiple layers beneath it as well.

You can, at that moment, choose to be content with the outer layer or choose to peel off the other layers and know more.

The more layers you peel off, the more you discover, the more you learn.

It is in that process when you evolve and improve yourself and the path that you were walking on.


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Dependency on External Factors

Dependency on External Factors

Our life is a mixture of internal and external factors that run our life.

Instead of the focus being internal with the help or rather an addition of external, things have just changed over time.

We have become so dependent on external factors to run our life that we have forgotten that the magic is within us.

What is this magic?

It is your mind, body and soul.

It is your thoughts, your emotions, your journey that makes those external factors what they are!

But alas, we don’t think about any of it and rather think its those external things that give us everything we want.

We then desire and crave for those things to live.

Our dependency towards them ultimately makes them our weakness too!

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Are you listening?

Are you listening?

Every word you speak to yourself, you are listening to it as well.

Every opinion you think of, every judgement you form, every envious thought you have, you are listening to all of it.

Every thing that you listen to becomes a part of your cognitive experience as well.

This is how you end up thinking about yourself, this is how you then behave, this ends up in how you pave the path for yourself.

Everything that you do becomes a part of you. As Lisa M. Hayes has said, “Be careful how you are talking to yourself because you are listening.”

Here’s something to remember – speak with caution.

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Adjusting to the Situation

Adjusting to the Situation

Sometimes you plan out something to the detail and it doesn’t pan out as you’d thought it would.

More often than not, there are hiccups in most plans that derail the process.

Can you dwell about it and think what you could have done?

Or rather would you adjust to the situation and make changes to your plan immediately and move forward?

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Efforts are never wasted!

Efforts are never wasted!

What if you put in your efforts towards something and it doesn’t pan out to your expected outcome?

Are the efforts then wasted?

Should you not have done it in the first place?

Such and more questions do arise in one’s mind when you don’t get your desired outcome.

At such times, quite often, one may feel low and disappointed.

However, should one feel so?

Are the efforts really wasted?

The first thing that you should ask yourself is, did you really go all in with your efforts?

If yes, if you did try your all, and even if it didn’t work out, well…

There are two things to know here –

A. Now you know more than before about the process and the mistakes you made, so your second try will be even better.

B. Every thing you learnt here, the process, the mistakes, the outcome, the emotions – all of it will come to use somewhere else, where you’ll be glad you went through this process the first time.

Any and all efforts are never wasted, it’s just that they may have not come to fruition just then.

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Silencing the voice that isn’t ours

Silencing the voice that isn’t ours

Quite often, the voice in our head isn’t ours.

Over time, that voice has become an amalgamation of the society’s wants and expectations, how you will be perceived and what will not disappoint them.

Not to forget, the society includes your friends and family, your colleagues, relatives, social media and everyone else you have an interaction with.

Anytime, you wish to do something which is out of the box for you, this voice inside your head says, “you cannot do it”.

Unfortunately, listening to that voice, then makes that thing you wanted to do just a dream for you. However, what if you can take charge of your life, do things you want to and shun that voice as well?

Vincent Van Gogh has said it perfectly, “If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.”

Taking that plunge is all it takes, one step at a time though, becoming self aware of your thoughts, needs and wants, owning your voice, and seeing the bright side of everything – there will be a few hiccups, but ultimately you will have your own voice that will push you to do whatever you want, irrespective of what anyone thinks and irrespective of its outcome.

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What can you see?

What can you see?

In life, we only take steps towards those things which we can see.

The usual thinking is, if we can see it, that means its real and we have to do something about it.

If you get scratched on your body, you’ll put an ailment on it.

If your car gets scratched, you’ll take it to the car center.

But, what about those things that you can’t see?

What about the damage to the body with foods that aren’t beneficial to it (at all), but just has a feel good factor for the moment and you can’t see the damage it is doing to you, short-term and long-term? Or even with not working out because of which right from the movement to the blood vessels to the hormones, everything gets affected?

What else can’t you see?

Is there something more damaging that we are not able to see through our eyes?

How about the damage to our minds with negative/ polluting/ judgemental thoughts that affect our own mind and take away more from us?

Just because we can’t see the affect of these things through our own eyes, doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen, right?

Internally, the process is happening, it’s just that only when something substantial happens then we realize the effect of something we did to then realize, “Oh, how I wish I could’ve seen that sooner?”

Let’s start noticing the things you can’t see and then start working on it.

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Are you the Spectator or the Driver?

Are you the Spectator or the Driver?

Do you control your mind or does the mind control you?

An undisciplined mind controls you, your thoughts and actions, it takes you places you probably don’t want to visit. You feel like everything is happening to you and you’re just a spectator in that scenario.

Whereas if you discipline your mind, if you learn to control it, then you are in control of your life, in control of your thoughts and actions. Instead of being the spectator, you are now the driver of your life.

As Buddha has rightly said, “There is nothing so disobedient as an undisciplined mind, and there is nothing so obedient as a disciplined mind.”

Just a change in perspective gets you to this point in your life where you choose to either be the spectator or the driver, the choice is always yours.

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You decide your pace!

You decide your pace!

When it comes to personal decisions or professional decisions, when it is about your life, then it is you who decides your pace.

No one else, no one can.

No one has or can have that control.

Whether it is to walk or jog or sprint or even to catch your breath, you decide your pace.

That decision is completely up to you.

That is what your journey is about.

And when you decide your pace, you are accountable for whatever happens.

You could sprint and get tired in a while and your plan may not work out.

You could jog and sprint in between and jog again, be strategic with your process.

Or you could even wait for a while and catch your breath, not worrying about others’ jogs and sprints.

When this happens, irrespective of whatever happens in the future, you know that you had taken that decision which led to this. You decided the pace.

It could have been a hasty decision or it could be a well-planned decision, you may never know until the outcome is out.

However, irrespective of the outcome, that choice of pace will decide the now. It will decide how you operate now and whether you’re satisfied in the now or not.

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Using your Voice wisely!

Using your Voice wisely!

All of us have a voice and many a time, especially with the freedom of writing anything on social media, we feel like putting our opinion out there!

What we should know is this?

Every voice matters and every voice can make a difference.

Each voice is powerful enough to make the amount of noise needed to make change happen and in the midst of that, similar voices join the cause and add support to that singular voice.

That is precisely why it should be used wisely. To add to that statement, your voice should be used when you think there’s substance to it when you think your opinion will add value to that topic, whether pro or against, but it should definitely be something of value.

Quite often, people use it just for the sake of it, or just because everyone’s voicing their opinions on a particular topic on social media. In such situations, one’s usually not aware of the occurrences or at least not 100% aware of it. It’s at such times when these particular opinions just add volume to a topic without having any substance to it, thus increasing the ‘internet pollution’.

The sensible thing to do is to use your voice wisely! That’s the bottom line.

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The purpose of this blog!

The purpose of this blog!

With the blog now approaching the big number of 500, and if you’re an avid reader of it, or even if you’re new to it, if you see the pattern, you’ll find a whole lot of value in it, and at the same time, you’ll find all the answers to life you never thought to ask.

Walking on this path of self-improvement and growth, that’s what it does to you when you’re obsessed with the process. You notice patterns, you observe people, you think randomly, and you ask the atypical questions.

Said that, even though so much efforts and time is put into each post, with a simple hope that reading it might change something for someone out there, however, I have never officially mentioned anything about the purpose of this blog.

Why do I write it daily and why do I even write one?

Well, simply put, the blog helps me think beyond my random thoughts on the topics I write about, writing them helps me go deeper into a topic and in that process, sometimes something so profound comes out that gives me that tick that it is definitely going to provide a different kind of a value out there, to someone who’s reading it and if I may hope so, change their life or their thought structure for the better.

Why a blog? Well, because, one, it has a higher reach to a global audience, anything can be searched at any point of time, as per the user, they’re not seeing something when I want them to (as in the case of social media), but in their time of need, when they search about something and that particular blog of that topic pops up and gives them that perspective they were looking for.

More importantly, most of the times, I also write with this intention that the topic I’m writing about will make you think about it, will make you question it and then it is you who will have to think of the answer too. And that process is so beautiful, because then, with this information, you’re able to think what is right for you, not for someone else.

Why daily? Not to complicate this answer, if I would have written this weekly or monthly, I wouldn’t have been able to think half or even 70% of the content that I’ve written. Only because of my passion towards it, and the fact that it is daily, can I then think so much into it, delve into different topics, that sometimes could be obvious and sometimes we may have not questioned at all.

That, all of that, is what I think is the purpose of my blog.

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Question the Default!

Question the Default!

As we live each day of our lives, as we grow, as a society we also become conditioned to do the same kind of things and in the same behavior.

Everyone is programmed to do the same thing in the cycle of life. Every age group is defined by the same set of responsibilities and same set of questions and requirements and pressure.

The bigger issue is everyone follows it tiptoe without blinking an eye.

To question the default is becoming an outcast in a group and the thought of doing so becomes scarier for an individual.

However, once you question the default is when life takes a turn for you.

That is the moment when you start noticing the pattern, you start observing the behavior, you start asking the right type of questions and you jump into an ocean of the unknown.

It gives you a thrill and also opens your eyes to the reality, where you realize things can be done differently, things can be done according to how you want them to be done, by you, for you.

No asks, no requirements, no pressure.

You now set a whole new pattern for you, a whole new thought process, you’re now the outcast in a group of outcasts, with all eyes on you, but you enjoy it, because it now gives you joy and a cheer you never had before.

All this happens, just by questioning the default.

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The mind can be a Wall or a Door

The mind can be a Wall or a Door

Believe it or not, your mind is powerful enough to either be a wall to you or a door. What sounds better?

Here’s how you can understand that statement.

Either the mind controls you and everything about you OR you control your mind and you mould it into how you want to run your life.

When the mind controls you, when you are not in control of your thoughts, your actions and everything else, the mind can become a wall to you.

It can stop you from doing things you’d like to do, it can become a hindrance where you feel you’re not capable of doing something or those times when you leave things to chance.

Whereas, how your mind can be a door to you is exactly in the opposite manner.

Here, when you’re in control, you’re the master of your mind, you control your thoughts, your emotions and your actions, what happens is when you want things to happen, instead of being the hindrance, your mind is rather the supporter, or a doorway to helping you out in your journey, your endeavours.

When it’s time, when it happens, maybe you realise to see the wall or the doorway, maybe then you understand this better, or maybe you choose to take the control right now itself and not let the wall appear at all, or even if it appears, you know that it’s disguised in the form of a doorway.

The voice leads to conclusion!

The voice leads to conclusion!

Most of the times, with most of our situations in life, we often jump to conclusions without even trying.

The conclusions that doing something would result in a certain way.

The conclusions that choosing another path has an outcome of a certain kind.

Now, you, personally haven’t tried and experimented with any of this!

Then, where do these conclusions come from?

There’s a voice within you that speaks of these conclusions!

That constantly speaks that why try this when you can avoid that unnecessary outcome.

Whose voice is that though?

Here’s what happens… usually…

One, we never know about the unnecessary outcome because its just one side of the coin and you never know until you try. You cannot avoid every situation because of the outcome.

Secondly, and more importantly, that voice we think is ours, isn’t actually ours.

Let me explain!

The voice inside your head is an amalgamation of everything you’ve been taught, every conversation you’ve had and every person you’ve met.

Quite often, what people do themselves and what they tell you forms into this voice in your head.

So, when this voice speaks to you, it isn’t truly yours or what you want, but people’s opinions and what they’d think when you do something is what’s embedded into this voice in your head.

Now this voice is what ultimately and unfortunately, leads you to these conclusions.

Are you carrying a heavy backpack?

Are you carrying a heavy backpack?

I have two questions for you.

Are you carrying a backpack?

And

How heavy is it?

How about two more questions?

Do you have past memories, past worries, opinions and judgments troubling you?

Is that causing the heaviness?

Anything of the past that we are holding on to forms into this backpack that we have to carry throughout.

Two things happen here…

A. The more you hold on to, the heavier it becomes. That results into you slowing down and not being able to move forward as you’d want.

B. Until you don’t realise you’re carrying this backpack, you won’t be able to get rid of it.

Before you move on, ask yourself these questions, just wonder about them for a minute because this one minute could be changing your life.

One Plus One equals

One Plus One equals

The sooner we learn this as a society, the better we’ll be able to perform, the better we’ll be able to build relationships and the better we’ll be able to grow together.

When you ask someone,

What does one plus one equal to?

What do you think the answer is?

Someone might say, the answer is 2.

Someone might say, the answer is 3.

Someone might say, 11. They might.

Someone could answer something else, I’m not even sure of the options now.

The bottom line being, everyone has a different understanding of things, and their answers will be different too.

Not everyone will answer the same together.

That’s what we need to understand.

That and one more thing…

Not everyone wants to know the correct answer nor your explanation of it.

They’re happy with their answer irrespective of it being right or wrong.

Being right is subjective and for them, they are right.

The problem arises when two parties say we are right at the same time and then try to explain why they are.

Things escalate when they say the other is wrong.

I don’t want to say what is right or wrong here, only the understanding of it.

Empathy is the answer!

Empathy is the answer!

When you’re able to empathise with another person,
their perspective,
their situation,
their problems

you not only broaden your relationship with the people around you;

But you also open your mind to more possibilities and more opportunities.

And that helps you win not only in your personal life but your professional life as well.

Empathy is always the answer.

“Empathy has got me so much more, so much farther in not only my life, but in my career.” – Ryan Reynolds

You chose this!

You chose this!

Whenever you are in doubt or if something feels out of sorts and you wonder why…

Know that you chose the path you’re currently on.

Know that you chose to be the person you are.

Know that you chose to have the emotions and feelings you have right now.

Know that you chose all of this.

It all starts with being accountable of your own choices and own doings.

When you accept accountability of your decisions, then you realize it is you who has the power to also change something if you don’t like it.

You also realize that you’re in control of your life and it is you who chooses everything and anything about yourself, past, present and future.

Self!

Self!

Self-growth, Self-improvement, Self-care, why is the word ‘Self’ added here?

What is the point that is being tried to communicate to you?

Until you don’t care about yourself, how will you take care of others around you?

Until you don’t improve yourself, how will you improve the life of others around you?

Until you don’t grow yourself, how will that growth happen outside and around you?

It all starts with you!

SELF.

The starting point is the only point where you have to become selfish in order to become selfless.

In order to serve others.

In order to have an impact on others.

In order to create change.

Self – that’s where it begins.

The biggest armory of yours!

The biggest armory of yours!

Who you are, what is your real voice, what your strengths are, what your weaknesses are, what your habits are, what your thoughts are, how your words and actions affect you and others, what pushes you, what brings you down – all of such things come under self awareness.

When you become aware of everything you are and everything you do.

It tells you what you need to change, what you need to overcome, what you need to double down on.

It’s the single biggest armory of yours that you single-handedly have the power over, the knowledge of which is a strength that not everyone has.

5 Tips to improve your Work from Home experience

5 Tips to improve your Work from Home experience

If you’re working from home, you’d agree that the hours are not fixed anymore, sometimes it gets tiring, the exhaustion gets to you at the end of the day and if there’s anything you’d do to change the mood, you would.

Thinking of that, one of the things that occurred to me is that when you’re on your laptop all day long, whether you’re on your bed or on your desk, or even switching between them, what’s also happening is that you’re hooked onto the screen until you get that break.

However, there are a few tidbits here and there that can help you to take care of your mind and body whilst putting in the work that can help you at the end of the day, and doing them every day will only benefit you on a macro level too.

Not to forget, work from home will be a norm for now and for the future, so it’d be better to pick up some beneficial habits for a better outcome.

So here they are –

  • Stand Up & Stretch

Whenever you can, as many times as you can, stand up for a minute or two at least, to open up your body and to allow the blood to circulate.

When you sit for a long amount of time, due to zero movement of the body, the muscles get rigid, which further leads to body restlessness and fatigue.


  • Hydrate Yourself

Even though you might have kept a bottle of water alongside you, in the flow of work, you might become unaware of drinking water in periods of time.

That further leads to dehydration in the body, ultimately resulting in lower energy levels in the body, more irritability, also causes lethargy, weight gain and headaches.


  • Eat Nuts/ Fruits

Instead of binge eating stuff that does not benefit the body, keep a small box of nuts beside you, on the table.

You can then have a nut or two in a while or even a fruit when you feel like eating, and that is the best form of nutrients that you could put in your body.

This, of course, is during the day and is not a substitute for your meals.


  • Maintain A Schedule

You’d think that the day is already running loose with abnormal work timings and not having a relaxation time, why would I want to make a schedule and make the day more rigid?

Well, that’s exactly why!

Because having a schedule would ensure that you get to do the other activities of your day as well, including your workout, your meals, your relaxation time as well as balancing work.


  • Practice Well-being

At this time, when you’re home and also working constantly, it is extremely important to practice your well-being, both mentally and physically.

From taking a few minute breaks here and there to practising mediation to doing workouts to taking a few walks whenever possible, everything constitutes as a part of well-being which keeps you in check.


Hope these help you better your days, ultimately making your weeks and months better as well.

It’s always the small changes which make a huge impact and change things around.

Beyond the Clouds!

Beyond the Clouds!

Sometimes clouds, dark clouds take over the sky, making it dark and dense.

At such moments, the sky isn’t visible, the rays of the sun aren’t visible.

It seems dark even in the lightest moments of the day.

However, what we should know is this…

Beyond the clouds, the bright, beautiful and the blue sky is still there and the sun is still shining out there.

It’s just that we can’t see any of it beyond the clouds, but it’s there.

It is so beautifully connected with life as well.

Where sometimes life is overshadowed by such dense clouds, even though temporary, that we lose our perspective of it being temporary and knowing that the beautiful life full of colours is still out there.

We just need to have a perspective of knowing what’s beyond the clouds even if we cannot see it.

How to use an umbrella?

How to use an umbrella?

Well, we all know how to use an umbrella and why do we use it too.

But of course, this is more than that.

I’m thinking if an umbrella can also be used, not just to protect us from the rain drops, but also from people’s unnecessary opinions and judgements.

We can agree that we aren’t strong enough to block them or let them not affect us.

Then why not use an external object to do so?

Those opinions and judgements usually create more problems to our mind and body than what the rains would have done.

In countless ways.

The moment we would notice a judgemental opinion, we would’ve opened that umbrella and let it shield us from that.

Only if there was an umbrella for that though.

Things could’ve been so much easier.

Nonetheless, since there isn’t, well, we have to become stronger and become more aware to do that umbrella work ourselves.

Create that shield to not get affected by those things, so we can live a carefree and a peaceful life.

I’ve been meditating daily for 60 days now!

I’ve been meditating daily for 60 days now!

Meditation was something that was on my mind for a while, but I could just never start doing it then.In the last year or so, I may have done a couple of them, including a sound healing meditation (which was quite impactful), but it didn’t get implemented as a part of my lifestyle.I always knew its advantages, I had heard people’s stories of how it had changed them but sometimes things happen according to their own timings and you can never force them.Then the lock-down happened.That was the time when things within me changed, my perspective changed on a lot of things, and as things aligned together, it was as if the universe wanted me to start meditating at this time.On the 30th of March, 2020 was the first day of this streak – and I must say that the first day was groundbreaking in itself.What I experienced was something I had never thought of.And then, day after day, different kinds of meditation happened and I explored more and more, and different things ticked off.I experienced moments in my life which aren’t a part of my conscious thinking, I experienced my life from a different perspective, I started looking at things differently, I visualized different chapters of my life, different settings that changed the behavior in me.To share in detail, what it does to you, here’s how I see it -Simply put, it helps you to align your mind and your body and be still.It allows you to silence your thoughts and just be, not thinking about the next task, not thinking about your worries etcIt allows you to focus on your breathing patterns – which thus helps in relaxation, more energy, more calmness, more peace.It brings inner peace within you.It allows you to let go of things that hold you back.It also helps in visualization of memories, goals, conversations, nature – whatever you want it to be.There’s a lot that can be done.Meditation then and now, is a whole different experience for me, such an essential part of life that is again never taught to us in the way we live.To experience this, you have to take that leap and change your life is how I see it.And there’s just advantages to it.Today will be Day 63, to be technically right and I look forward to my meditation time now, more than anything.

3 Life Lessons to learn from the game ‘Ludo’

3 Life Lessons to learn from the game ‘Ludo’

If there was one thing apart from livestreaming and video conferencing that got popular (again) was playing Ludo.

Whether it’s the board game or the mobile game, whether its playing with family or with friends, Ludo has become that bonding game for many during this lockdown.

Said that, I’ve had my share of games with the family, and playing these many times with some wins and some really bad losses got me thinking…

There are quite a few Life Lessons too that the game teaches us!

  • You can’t give up until the game is over

How many times has it happened that the other player/s are way ahead and about to win, and there are times when, because you didn’t give up, because you were a worthy competitor playing until the end, you actually won too.

Same applies to life as well, when you’ve set your mind to something, you shouldn’t and you probably wouldn’t give up until you can’t do it anymore, but until then you won’t give up.

You will keep going, no matter what the circumstances are and no matter how much life wants to test you.


  • Just because you’re ahead doesn’t mean you’ve won

In the above scenario, you’re on the other side of the equation where you are the underdog. Here, you’re the one who’s boasting that you’re about to win.

How many times has it happened that you were leading, just the last piece remaining about to enter the final segment of the journey and someone gets you out. And that becomes the turning point of the game.

When it comes to life, doesn’t the same happen? When you’re ahead, when you’re winning, you feel there is no other and it’s just you, going forward with overconfidence – but then life gets in the way and says that you haven’t won yet.

It shows that one needs to be careful and smart until the end, know what’s going around and not to celebrate until it’s happened.


  • You need to be strategic with your moves

Another important thing that the game teaches us is how to be strategic in the game and in life.

In the game, you need to know when to play the different pieces, whether you should take the chance to cut someone else or save the other piece about to enter the save zone, but is currently in danger.

Just like in life, where you need to be strategic with your moves. You need to be aware of your surroundings and play your moves accordingly. Know which move is aggressive, which one needs to be monitored and move forward accordingly.


I’m sure if you break down the game, there could be some other things to learn too, some smaller in impact maybe. However, these are those life-changing lessons that I could think of, while playing of course.

Staying In with Choice

Staying In with Choice

Even though the lockdown is relaxed at a few places, it continues at many more.

The anxiousness continues for many who look at the four walls around them everyday and it is natural to feel that way too.

At the same time, there are some (I’ll include myself in this) who have come up with various activities filling the day and don’t feel that way like many others do.

Nonetheless, here’s a quick suggestion for them – how about you change the perspective for yourself?


How about you think you’re staying in with choice, and not because of the current crisis? How about you devote your staying in with a reason and then continue to pursue that?

The perspective matters and a small step like this can change your emotions, your behavior and your following days.

Stealing your Inner Peace!

Stealing your Inner Peace!

Let’s start with what steals our inner peace?

What are those elements of our life that have the ability to steal our inner peace?

Well, your anger towards someone else, ego, jealousy, competition, other people’s opinions towards you or your opinions towards them, same goes for judgements as well, failure (if you let it affect you) – these are some of the top things that affect the majority.

The question is, how can you let anyone else steal your inner peace?

The above-mentioned elements come into power when someone else is involved in that equation.

That means, you, yes you, are giving someone else the power to steal your inner peace.

Once you understand this, once you understand what inner peace means, what is in your control, what isn’t, what elements have the power to change that, then you can start practising towards controlling them.

You can start working on your traits, what pinches you, what doesn’t, what sparks your emotions, what doesn’t and ultimately, be in control of your inner peace.

In such a way, that you have the power over it and no one else can steal it.

Later.

Later.

When you tell yourself, that I’ll do this ‘later’, what are you actually telling yourself?

In simple terms, it means that you don’t want to do that something right now and you’ll do it at a later point of time.

Although, if you break it down, it means, that certain something isn’t a priority for you to take care of it right now.

Well, in that terms, what is the priority of that thing on a scale of 1 – 5? 1 being the highest and 5 being the lowest.

Well, if its anything beyond a 3, then the probability of you taking on that thing at a later point of time seems unlikely.

A simple reason is because, one, its not that important to you, second, on a day-to-day basis or a weekly basis, there will be something that is going to replace things on the priority scale of 1 and 2.

On the basis of which, things beyond 3 aren’t going to be taken care of at all.

What’s the alternative?

Either take on only one or two things at a time, so there’s no point of pushing something to ‘later’.

Or being well-organized to a point that you complete that entire list of 1 – 5, irrespective of how many other tasks or things come on to your plate.

Between the lines

Between the lines

Either you know this already or reading this might change a lot of perspectives for you.

We look for answers everywhere.

For everything.

If someone could solve everything and just tell us the answers to it all.

And sometimes even while listening/ reading them, you still think this is what everyone says but how’s this different?

Well, the answer lies in between the lines.

To everything.

This is a game of really listening and then understanding between the lines and finally understanding what the answer actually was.

Stumbling upon

Stumbling upon

Until you don’t stumble upon the path of self-improvement, you never know you needed to improve.

Until you don’t stumble upon the path of positivity, you never know you needed it.

Until you don’t stumble upon the path of growth, you never know you wanted to grow.

This is such an interesting game of choice and chance.

Sometimes you stumble upon something by chance, and sometimes by choice.

Either ways, if you get the chance to stumble upon it, appreciate it.

It’s a path that you always wanted to walk on, but never knew you wanted to.

It’s all connected.

It’s all connected.

What We Think
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What We Say
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How we Act
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What we Eat
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What we consume
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What type of people do you attract around you
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What goals do you want to pursue
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Why do opinions bother me
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Why do people compare
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Why do people have egos
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Why are people happy with materialistic things
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Where does the real happiness lie
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Why can’t you be happy right now
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What is my purpose in life
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What is life all about

It’s all connected.

Hold On or Let Go

Hold On or Let Go

Everything in life

Thoughts

Emotions

Words

Opinions

People

Purpose

Service

Passion

Everything is something that you either hold on to or you let go of it.

It’s more of understanding whether that certain something is adding to your life or taking away something.

If it’s adding, then it’s a definite hold.

However, if its the other way round, if its taking away something – anything – energy, peace, calmness, then its time to let go it.

It could be easy, it could also be difficult, but that choice needs to be taken so you could be more balanced, more peaceful, instead of holding onto things that weigh you down.

There’s always eyes on you

There’s always eyes on you

You know what?

Whatever you do,

However you do it,

Whether you succeed or fail,

Whether you know the answers or not,

There’s always eyes on you.

Someone or everyone is watching you.

So, will you let that bother you or will you do what you want and enjoy those eyes on you?

The Dice

The Dice

Have you ever rolled the dice?

The probability is, you have.

A dice, in the form of a cube, has six numbers, from 1-6, one on each side of it.

You try rolling for a number that you wish for.

You try harder.

You try different styles.

However, when it leaves your hand and falls on the board, you never know what number is going to come up until its on the board.

You might appreciate the outcome or you might get disappointed by it.

Either or.

That dice has such a metaphorical meaning though.

To life.

Every step we take in our life, has a different outcome.

We don’t know that outcome.

Until it happens.

We roll with life, wishing for something to happen, but sometimes it ain’t in our hands.

Again, whether we appreciate that outcome or be disappointed by it is up to us.

But at least, we tried, right?

Not just outward, inward too.

Not just outward, inward too.

What we think

What we feel

What we eat

What we drink

What exercise we do

It not only has an effect on our exterior actions, that is the words we speak, the work we do, the things we experience,

But, it has an effect on our inner body too.

Did you know that?

Every emotion we feel releases an energy of that sort in the body too.

Every thing we eat and drink is how our body processes it, and whether it is good for the body or not, then has an outcome accordingly.

Whether we exercise or not, not just has an effect on how “slim” we become, but it has an effect on our body processes too.

Everything we do has an effect, not just on the outward, but inward too.

We usually don’t think about how it affects our body, our mind and our soul.

If we become a tiny bit more mindful than usual, then we can start taking care of our mind, body and soul, at least from now on, if not before.

Running a race

Running a race

When you plan on running a race, usually there’s two scenarios as to how everyone looks at it – either you win the race or you lose.

No one really wants to notice the constant efforts and practice that was taking place behind-the-scenes and the mentality it needed to prepare for that race.

No one really wants to acknowledge those who finished that race, but not just first.

No one really gives a pat on the back to those who couldn’t finish the race. A pat on the back for trying!

This world we live in wants everyone to win.

Is that possible though?

If 5 people participate and they do their best, yet only one wins, how are we, as a society, reacting to the other four?

Do they stop running then?

Observe

Observe

That’s my super power.

Observing patterns, behaviors, reactions and everything else.

Everything around me!

When you observe, you’re able to learn a lot more, in more detail than usual.

The power of an observation allows you to perceive who people are, what the system is all about, reading between the lines, seeing beyond the black and white of the usual.

I’m not sure if it’s something that can be learned or it comes naturally, but I do know this, if you start observing a tiny bit more than usual, you’ll start noticing things a whole lot differently and eventually, your perspective could surely change.

The feeling of nothingness

The feeling of nothingness

Do you know the feeling when you feel like doing nothing at all?

Nothing as in literally nothing.

No distractions, no tasks, no smartphones, no thoughts, no focusing on yourself.

Just nothing.

It’s a feeling where you feel calm, you feel peaceful, silently sitting there – and no, I’m not talking about meditations either.

Just the feeling of doing nothing, at that time.

You don’t feel it too often, but when you feel it, you got to respect it and spend that time accordingly.

Is your phone charged?

Is your phone charged?

If I asked you, is your phone charged right now?

You’d know the answer.

What is the phone battery percentage right now?

You’d know the answer.

Be it your phone, or your headphones, your laptop, the point is that you’re aware when it comes to these items that you use on a daily basis?

However, what about you? What is your battery percentage right now? How long will you last before charging yourself again?

Do you know the answers to these questions?

We often focus on external items that control our lives, but forget to take a inner look that we actually have the control over.

Do I need to upgrade my battery power?

That can be done.

Do I need to recharge myself now?

That can be done too.

Is the battery getting low?

You can be aware of that too.

When you’re self-aware about yourself, the perspective towards looking at yourself and the outside world changes.

You now want to use that battery efficiently, you don’t want to drain it out, right?

You can then smartly utilise that power on things that matter or the things that interest you, just like your smartphone.

Say ‘Today is going to be a great day’

Say ‘Today is going to be a great day’

How often does it happen that we look back at our day when it’s almost over and based on what happened do we then decide whether it was a good day or not?

How about we take the control about what happens?

How about we control the day and not let the day control us?

How do we do that?

Before you sleep at night, let that last thought be ‘Tomorrow is going to be a great day.’

When you wake up in the morning, let the first thought be and say it to yourself, ‘Today is going to be a Great Day.’

Set that precedent by yourself to yourself.

By saying this, you have set the tone for the day, you have set the pattern of your thoughts, you have set the mood for the day.

Now you won’t let the results decide the outcome of the day, but your actions will.

Say ‘Today is going to a Great Day‘ and experience the magic.

P. S. This is not a wand spell that will wave its magic at you, but it’s more of a mantra that you use to get back the control of your day.

The pressure we put on ourselves

The pressure we put on ourselves

I think you may have noticed this as well, and let me know if you agree with this thought!

There’s an enormous amount of pressure that we put on ourselves!

The pressure to achieve a goal, to complete the set tasks, to fulfill an obligation, to complete something within a set time, to impress someone or any other kinds of pressure one puts on themselves.

To top it off, it’s all self created, the pressure, no one is pressuring you to do so or even cares about it.

That’s the bottom line.

Because we don’t realize this, we keep feeling that pressure and live day after day and keep doing something, out of pressure and not out of enjoyment.

If we change that scenario, then there would be no pressure at all. Whatever is done, is then done out of satisfaction, fulfillment and happiness.

Too much baggage

Too much baggage

Do you feel that pressure on your shoulders?

I think its because, all of us, carry a lot of baggage along with us.

Wherever we go.

Baggage of emotions.

Baggage of opinions.

Baggage of negativity.

Everyday it gets heavier and heavier.

If that bag is not emptied bit by bit, it’ll reach a weight where it wouldn’t be possible to carry it anymore.

More than that, it would actually stop you from moving forward.

Let’s have a look at what’s inside that bag and try emptying it bit by bit.

Don’t be too hard on yourself

Don’t be too hard on yourself

Plans change.

Goals change.

Thoughts change.

Behaviors change.

When you walk that path of upgrading yourself, a lot of things start changing in your life.

Although, on this path, sometimes things don’t work out too.

It happens.

No one is perfect.

At such a point in life, remember to not be too hard on yourself.

Because, that makes it worse.

That will make you more negative.

Accept that sometimes things are out of your control or it was not meant to be.

That is (one of) the lesson(s) you learn when you walk upon the path of self-improvement.

The answers lie here.

The answers lie here.

We keep searching for answers.

If we can get the answers, it’ll be a lot easier to move onto the next step.

We don’t ask questions, but that’s a different issue altogether.

Today, let’s just focus on the answers.

Where are they?

Where can we find them?

The answers lie in the

Silence.

When its silent is when you can hear the answers the loudest.

It is then when you can hear only what you needed to hear.

No inner noise.

No exterior noise.

Just you, the silence and the answers.

You have a Recycle Bin too.

You have a Recycle Bin too.

In computing terms, a recycle bin is the place where the files you delete from your computer are temporarily transferred, until they are permanently deleted within 30 days or immediately, as per your choice.

Well, why are we talking about this?

Because there’s a lot, literally a lot of unnecessary data in your mind too, filled with a lot of outside voices and opinions and doubts and toxic emotions.

Even if that’s true, what’s that got to do with the recycle bin?

So, here it is.

You have a recycle bin within you too.

You have the option to temporarily or permanently get rid of those unwanted things in your mind, which aren’t helpful to you or rather, are a hindrance to you.

That process starts with being more mindful about your thoughts, what’s filled in your mind, what drives you, what stops you and then having the power to say to yourself, that these certain things will not affect me anymore.

*Make Use of your Recycle Bin*

Are you alright?

Are you alright?

How are you feeling during this lock-down?

Are you feeling alright? Are you stressed out? Are you feeling anxious?

Are you sharing your feelings with anyone, at this time?

If you’re alright, then I’d like you to reach out to others and find out if they are.

Communicating more and more at this time is really helpful for anyone and everyone. The more you communicate, the better it becomes for the other person.

If you’re feeling anxious, stressed or worried, one, it’s perfectly okay to feel this way. Second, communicate and reach out to your loved ones. Once you open up and share your feelings, there’s a load off your shoulders and you start feeling better in due time.

More importantly, what I want everyone to know is, we’re all in this together.

And we’ll come out of it together too.

Don’t feel guilty!

Don’t feel guilty!

This time that we have, can be used productively! It can be used for our self-growth, both personally and professionally! And with so much time in our hands, we can do a lot, literally a lot, that couldn’t be done before.

However, this is what I want you to know.

Don’t feel guilty if you wanted to have a productive day and you couldn’t.

Don’t feel guilty if you had prepared a lot of tasks for the day and you couldn’t complete them.

Don’t feel guilty if you wanted to take a day or two days or three days break and just cool off.

It’s when we started feeling worse about ourselves, is when things go wrong. It becomes negative.

Those negative thoughts tend to become a voice inside your head for everything.

I realized this and wanted to convey the same for anyone reading this and trying to make the most of the lockdown that is going on.

Don’t feel guilty!

This time will not come again!

This time will not come again!

I understand that this is a uncertain time, we’re facing an invisible enemy, lives are at stake.

I understand the fact that a lot of brave people from different sectors have put themselves at risk out there, in order to keep us safe.

I understand that a lot of people are working from home.

Today’s post is for those who are at home and aren’t able to work from home, due to various reasons and even for those working from home, who are able to get some extra time than usual.

This time will not come again!

Hear me out!

One, we obviously hope that such a time doesn’t come again, because technically it’s not a good time, and we all know that!

At the same time…

Never before has anyone got so much time in abundance, in their hands, ever, that they could use this to an advantage.

Advantage, how?

Well, you’ve always taken the time to work, to socialize, to relax, to watch a movie, but never for your self-care.

It was always brought down to, “I don’t have time for this”.

However, there are no excuses now.

You’ve all the time you need, to work on your inner peace, to work on your mindset, to work on your thoughts, to work on your habits, to work on your voice.

(If you want to know what do I mean by voice, hit me up on my Instagram – @rth24)

Why would you want to waste this time and not use it to your advantage?

A life-changing advantage?

People crave for this time, people are not able to get out of their day-to-day lives for this time, but you have it.

I can only bring this awareness to you, the choice is always up to you, the choice to change for the better, is always up to you. I, of course cannot force it up on you, but at least I can make you aware of it.

This time will not come again!

Learn to be Still!

Learn to be Still!

When you were outside, you wanted to be inside. Now that you’re inside, you want to be outside.

Isn’t that so?

When you were constantly out for work, you were missing the time at home, you wanted to be at home, you wanted to take a break. Now that you’re at home, and it’s been just 10 or 15 days since the lock-down, you’re eager to just go out and not be at home.

Let me share something with you, this feeling of not being able to be at one place, not being able to be with yourself will continue not just now, but forever unless you learn to be still in life.

You need task after task to keep you busy, so you don’t have to be alone with your mind, so you don’t have to listen to your thoughts, so you don’t face your real emotions.

This is again, because you’re not able to stay still.

Your body and your mind are not able to stay still.

That anxiousness, that eagerness will continue within you to jump from task A to task B.

The way to learn to be still is meditation. When you meditate, you learn to align your breath in-and-out, you align your mind with your body, and you become still in that moment. It is then when you experience magic.

It is that stillness which takes you to a place where indoors or outdoors, it doesn’t matter to you, you learn to control your situation and not let the situation control you.

Learn to be Still!

You shall not Pass!

You shall not Pass!

Negativity • Bad Vibes • Haters • Drama • Problems — we are surrounded by these things, all the time, in one way or another.

We let these elements bring us down, we feel bothered by them, and our lives are affected every day because of each of these elements.

You know what?

It’s time we take a stand and say to all the negativity, bad vibes, to all the haters, to the unnecessary drama, and to all the problems -⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

YOU SHALL NOT PASS

Say this to your mind, stand with positivity around you and in this process, also learn to train your mind accordingly!

You are always in control.

You are always in control.

You’re always in control of your thoughts, your actions, your behaviour, your emotions, your habits, your goals and your happiness.

There’s always an external factor in play, an external factor – at times bigger than you and your life.

Can you let it influence you or your thoughts or your emotions?

Once you set the baseline, that I’m the one in control of my thoughts, then no external factor can influence your thought process.

That same logic is then applied to your emotions, your habits, more importantly, to your happiness as well.

How do you be in control?

With practice. Understanding the difference when you are in control and when you are not.

Understanding the factors that bring the change in you.

Pushing yourself everytime you notice that change.

That requires self-awareness as well as the will power that you do want to do so.

The power to bring change comes from within.

It’s always up to you, and remember that you’re always in control.

Beauty in Nature!

Beauty in Nature!

I AM loving the
freshness of the trees
sound of the birds chirping
zero honks on the road
peace
quiet
time to be alone
time to grow


Now that we are isolated at home, now that there’s silence everywhere, you start noticing the small things which was taken for granted, but now you see those things differently.

There are a ton of things that we take for granted and at times like these is when we understand their value. Today, I just want to focus on nature and its beauty though.

Talking about trees, the birds, their chirping sound, the peace, when was the last time, I or anyone else focused on that. It’s always about some task at hand, some situation going on that we are tending to, and we never take that break to notice the beauty in nature.

And through that beauty, can you notice the beauty within you as well. When you are alone, just noticing the trees, the birds, the silence, you are able to feel that silence within as well. Its these times when you enjoy and love the time to be alone; you love this time that you have taken which also helps you grow.

There’s a beauty in nature which we take for granted. Today, I realized that and just admired that beauty outside my window (because we have to stay inside our homes), but I want you, as well, to take the time out and go through this process.

Enjoy the nature, enjoy the beauty, enjoy the silence outside and inside.


Do you over-think?

Do you over-think?

We’re all victims of overthinking, aren’t we?

Thoughts, thoughts, thoughts, there’s no stopping it.

We love thinking, we assume it’s productive, which it is but then we to drop down to a layer of theories and imagination that takes up too much of our time.

The problem could be a ‘Level 1’ issue, but our overthinking will take it to ‘Level 20’ in our mind.

However, is there a way to stop it?

Not entirely, there’s no easy way out.

What can we do?
– You need to train your mind, day in day out; it’s a long process to reach a point where you consciously become aware of your thought/s and when to divert from it. This comes in the form of meditation.

– Start by rethinking what you just thought and whether it was worth it or not, that process will start making you aware of your thoughts.

– Have a specific time allotted for the deep thought process when you think about your future plans/ tasks/ actions/ current problems etc (time wise/ work wise/ action wise) and not to proceed down that path at any different time.

– Apart from what you can do internally, what helps externally is execution. Execute at a level where you don’t have the time to think. Planning and scheduling, yes, but with execution a time will come when there won’t be enough time to overthink anything.

– Also, what helps the best is music, another form of mediation. Music has the power to sway our minds from any situation and not let it distract us. What are the occasions when you start over thinking? Substitute those occasions with music and see the difference.

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It’s a gradual move; neither of these methods bring you immediate results, but you always start with step 1 and build it from there.

Perspective has changed, hasn’t it?

Perspective has changed, hasn’t it?

With everyone that is happening around us, the social distancing, the home isolation, the panic and the chaos, everyone’s perspective towards life has changed, hasn’t it?

We had a different perspective of looking at life earlier, when everything was normal. It was all relax and chill, focused on short-term planning and long-term planning. But, revolved around planning and planning.

Now, with this pandemic, hitting masses on such a scale, now when it comes upon yourself, then everything changes. Now it becomes, why was I focusing on this, does that even matter, and that perspective changes. Do you agree?

Sure, work is important, goals and ambitions are important, still are, but things like this make you question that you cannot leave things for the future. You cannot postpone something for tomorrow, because is there a tomorrow?

You got to do what you want right now. That is the perspective that I take away from this. You need to express your feelings, instead of keeping them bottled up. You need to pursue your dreams right now, because when else. You need to be with the ones you want to, right now, not in the future when there will be more time in your hands.

Who knows what happens 5 years later? You have to take that step right now and just take the leap, in whatever sector of life you were hesitating with.

Life is important, life is precious, life is about now. Living now, living in the present, not the past, not the future.

This should always have been the perspective, but even if it changes now, why not, better late than never.

Health, First.

Health, First.

There is nothing, literally nothing in life that comes ahead of your health.

There can never be anything important for which you could risk your health.

You have to take care of it and also, the health of everyone else around you (not to forget, your actions shouldn’t lead to others’ health getting affected in the first place)

If your health isn’t right, then what is even the point of anything else for which you were risking it.

Do you understand what I’m saying?

The time of Self-Improvement!

The time of Self-Improvement!

Have you ever focused on
– your thoughts?
– your habits?
– your ideas?
– your goals?
– your food habits?
– your hobbies?
– the content you consume?
– your mental and physical exercise?
– practicing gratitude?
– the skills you want to learn?

One would usually say, they are busy with the hustle and bustle of their life, i.e. work, that they don’t have time for all these things.

Ain’t that the truth?

Well, with the time of social distancing and self-isolation, also came the time of

Self-Improvement

Yes, you read that right, this is a better time than ever, to improve yourself.

In your day-to-day life, along with work, you’re also surrounded with stress, worries, deadlines and over-thinking.

Guess what? Poof, none of that is following for the most of you. Agreed?

Why not use this time then to answer those questions above and more that you’d have on your mind?

Why not make a list of items that you’ve always wanted to do to work on your inner self?

This is a time you have, where can work on these things and not get distracted by anything else.

It might only change you for the better, and create a better life path for you, you never know!

#SelfImprovement

This is the best time to self-audit!

This is the best time to self-audit!

During this phase of self-isolation, when people have nothing but time and patience with them, there has never been a perfect set-up to audit yourself.

What do I think about?

What are my habits?

Where does my time usually go, in my day to day life?

How much time do I spend on my smartphone?

Where is my life at, right now?

Am I satisfied with my mental/ physical/ financial/ work life?

Can I better my finance process?

Is there something I can change to move forward in my work life?

Is my mind where I want it to be or is it hurting me more?

Do I usually eat the right type of food that should be put in my body?

Am I better than what I was yesterday?

This is the time to ask yourself these questions and with ample time in your hands, you can think about it, find answers within yourself and make the necessary changes.

How to make those changes?

Well, you have time and absolutely no need for shortcuts to make long-term changes.

You can learn, you can experiment, you can research, you can listen to the experts in the particular field (wherever you’re having problems).

You can pave the path ahead for you, yourself.

However, the choice to do so, is in your hands.

This is the best time to self-audit.

Things not in your Control

Things not in your Control

If there’s a lesson to be learnt here, it’s that no matter how much you prepare, no matter where you are in the life graph, there are times when some things are out of your control and you cannot do anything about it.

You have to roll with the flow; your overthinking or worrying or stress won’t change anything at all.

Its just how things are, and life brings us such moments from time to time to make us realize that.

All we can then do, is to work on things that are actually in our control – you know what’s in your control – your mindset/ your thoughts/ your habits – you can work on them/ make mistakes/ master yourself at it and know that when things spiral out of control, these things in my control are my assets which no one can steal from me.

This too shall Pass.

This too shall Pass.

When a wave appears, no matter how big or small, when it hits the coast, it makes a splash and it passes.

Similarly, from time to time, we experience unwanted occurrences in life too, internally and externally. Mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.

We wonder, why me?

Why is this happening to me?

We need to realize two things here…

One, the waves are going to appear in your life, time and again to test you, whether you can stand in your path or not. Sometimes bigger than ever.

You need to stay patient, true to yourself, in order to stand through that wave.

Second, it’s going to pass.

Nothing in life stays forever.

Unless you let it stay.

Unless, that’s not happening, whatever it is, is going to pass.